Child free weddings are for megalomaniacs

[DrunkPosting]

Unless you are consummating the marriage during the ceremony, then it isn’t an adults only type of event

Update for anyone remotely interested at this point: I don’t imagine many people will be focusing on this on Monday, as I just heard on the grapevine that another member of staff has walked out following accusations of bullying by my colleague.

Two days on, I still feel good for making a small stand on my own behalf. Thank you to those of you that have offered your support! ☺️

Sorry! Wrong thread!!

@3scape

Child haters unite eh. It's a family occaision. No matter how much pretension you try to whack on it.

It’s not child hating to not want children at every occasion. Where is this rule that a wedding has to a family occasion?

@3scape family occasion, sure. But who says families all need to include small children?

My entire family were at my wedding. Not a child in sight. Inviting other people's children wouldn't have made it more of a family occasion for me... but probably would have diminished my enjoyment of my own wedding!

@3scape

Child haters unite eh. It's a family occaision. No matter how much pretension you try to whack on it.

@3scape Wrong. It's an ADULTS occasion. Weddings are not for children. Pure, plain, clear and simple. Full stop. Period.

Wrong. It's an ADULTS occasion. Weddings are not for children. Pure, plain, clear and simple. Full stop. Period.

Only if you want them to be.

I don't think I have ever been to a child free wedding, and I've been to a fair few weddings.

None of your business really what people choose for THEIR wedding. There is no rule book to state there has to be, or doesn't have to be children at a wedding. I also enjoy attending an adults only wedding. I also enjoy attending weddings with children.

I allowed children over the age of 12 at mine so I’m not sure where that puts me on the megalomaniac scale 🤔🤔

@3scape

Child haters unite eh. It's a family occaision. No matter how much pretension you try to whack on it.

Are you suggesting people should invite children in their family eg nephews and nieces or suggesting people should invite children of all of their guests?

@coogee

Wrong. It's an ADULTS occasion. Weddings are not for children. Pure, plain, clear and simple. Full stop. Period.

Only if you want them to be.

I don't think I have ever been to a child free wedding, and I've been to a fair few weddings.

I think it’s an adult event too. Maybe they mean;

You can have a wedding without children but you can’t have a wedding without adults.

Children only go if their parents are invited. It’s not like a classmate’s birthday party or a school disco.

OH FUCK OFF

I have never been to a wedding with children there, they have all been incredibly fun, vibrant, and joyful. I can't imagine children adding anything to them.

Child free weddings are not decided because the bride and groom

1. Hate children
2. Hate fun
3. Are the devil incarnate

We have no children in our very small families, we are not inviting friend's children. We are limited for space and would much rather have friends there than their progeny. Not one person has complained and every parent invited has actually said how much they're looking forward to a child free evening.

I hope our day will be a wonderfully fun celebration.

It's a family occaision

It’s whatever the B&G want it to be. There are no rules.

Child-free weddings are a very British thing. Other cultures seem to just embrace having all age-groups at social functions.

British weddings didn't used to be child-free. A few years ago it would have been seen as strange to not to invite children, especially relatives such as nieces and nephews

Ours was child free 21 years ago & we most definitely aren't megalomaniacs thank you. I'm quite relieved I don't know you!

@CokeDrinker

Wrong. It's an ADULTS occasion. Weddings are not for children. Pure, plain, clear and simple. Full stop. Period.

You are obviously taking the piss right?

So, according to some people on here, a childfree wedding is the ONLY TIME you can ever go ANYWHERE where there are no children?

You can't ever EVER go to any other child free party/function/do/meal out EVER ???

If you can get someone to look after your kids for a wedding, why can people not get someone to look after them while you go for a meal, or to a hen night, or a party, or to the pub (where there will also more than likely be no children?)

A child free wedding is the ONLY thing you can go to where there are no children? REALLY?
What a bizarre existence some people do lead.

I have no issue with child-free weddings. I do have an issue where only some children are invited. If I'm going to find childcare and spend a fortune I don't want to spend it with other people's kids!!!!

My favourite weddings were when my child was with me for the day time, but had a babysitter in the evening. Best of both worlds for me.

I am referring to comments like this...

@Travert

Children at weddings? Fuck that, I want a night off!

So there is NO other opportunity ever (in your life) to have a night out with no children, like EVER?

So, according to some people on here, a childfree wedding is the ONLY TIME you can ever go ANYWHERE where there are no children?

Are people actually saying that?

Beyond perhaps exaggerating for effect?

So there is NO other opportunity ever (in your life) to have a night out with no children, like EVER?

The poster is clearly not saying that

@ifyougetthechancedoit

I have no issue with child-free weddings. I do have an issue where only some children are invited. If I'm going to find childcare and spend a fortune I don't want to spend it with other people's kids!!!!

My favourite weddings were when my child was with me for the day time, but had a babysitter in the evening. Best of both worlds for me.

I have to disagree with you there. Dh and I have been invited to a wedding where only children of the bride, groom and their close family are invited. (Presumably because their childcare options will also be attending the wedding) I have absolutely zero issues with leaving dd at home with a sitter, and I certainly won't be offended that their children are at the wedding.

@littlepattilou

I am referring to comments like this...

@Travert

Children at weddings? Fuck that, I want a night off!

So there is NO other opportunity ever (in your life) to have a night out with no children, like EVER?

A wedding is probably the only opportunity I get to a have a night with all my cousins at the same time, or to see all my uni mates who live dotted around the world. Like buggery do I want to be on mum duty when it’s such a rarity.

Or maybe the parents of said kids are the megalomaniacs??
Honestly, its the bride and grooms day, they can do as they please and have the wedding of their dreams. Be grateful for your invite and if you are offended at the no kids rule then just politely decline.

Hmmmmmmmmm.

Oh wait. Soooooo, the OP @DrunkPosting has not been back to this thread since she started it at 22.20 last night?

I'm out.

Hope you're enjoying your work OP.

Nice goady thread...