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To be irritated by people wanting a foreign holiday this summer?

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Irishterrier · 06/05/2021 18:18

I know some people have family abroad and that is different.

However I know several people who either have second homes abroad or just fancy some sun, and I feel annoyed by them agitating about wanting to go abroad this summer.

AIBU to think they're being selfish?

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Pastanred · 09/05/2021 21:38

I would not consider a uk break a holiday either given it offers nothing that I actually want from a holiday

Needawantaholiday · 09/05/2021 22:30

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osbertthesyrianhamster · 09/05/2021 23:31

@bossyrossy

How do you feel about queuing for 7 hours or more in the arrivals hall at the airport?
Well worth the price of getting the fuck out of this fucked up shithole.
Bythemillpond · 09/05/2021 23:49

How do you feel about queuing for 7 hours or more in the arrivals hall at the airport

Part of the holiday

Changechangychange · 09/05/2021 23:58

We aren’t going abroad, and I don’t think that the public and travel industry agitating for it should have any sway on Boris (though of course it will).

But I don’t have any problem with people wanting to go, and if it’s legal I have no issue with them going.

I do get a bit pissed off with people I know who have managed illegal holidays over the past six months, and zero sympathy for the woman I know who found herself stuck in Brazil for three months after badly timing a New Year trip to see her sister (it was obvious beforehand that she would get stuck, she knew it was illegal and deliberately took a very circuitous route to get there, so serves her right).

TownTalkJewels · 10/05/2021 00:08

@Pastanred

I would not consider a uk break a holiday either given it offers nothing that I actually want from a holiday
Lol exactly. Comments along the lines of ‘everyone MUST enjoy holidaying in the U.K.!’ smack of bitterness and jealousy IMO.

Lots of armchair epidemiologists on here insisting that travel automatically equals lockdowns. I prefer to pay attention to actual epidemiologists, eg the ones the government employ and who’ve told us that travel to certain destinations is fine.

AvonCallingBarksdale · 10/05/2021 07:52

Interesting that there are only two posts from the OP on this thread. There’s a particular word for someone who likes to light the touch paper and then run for cover.
Whether the OP or anyone else on the thread gets irritated by others going abroad is irrelevant - it’s not going to stop anyone enjoying their holiday, especially with such baseless hyperbole from the armchair epidemiologists Hmm
If it’s legal, we will be going on the abroad holiday that we’ve booked. I have followed the rules all the way and watched as others haven’t 🤷‍♀️.

BiddyPop · 10/05/2021 09:27

Having worked right the way through, under significant pressure (not as much as some but still significant), and not been able to take much leave last year (I carried over 15 days), I need a break.

Dd has some SNs which mean she's a challenging teen. So she needs something to do all the time. We went for a week last summer within the country here with activity locally and it wasn't enough.

We had to cancel a specialised sports camp for her last summer. It is being run again this summer and, if DH and I are vaccinated, we are bringing DD there (it's in mainland Europe) and spending that week in peace in separate accommodation in that city.

There is no respite for us locally and not enough activity if she were to go stay with relatives in other parts of this country but she's too young to work.

So yes, we are being selfish but necessarily so.

We holidayed at home last year, and have done on about 40% of holidays since we've had DD (and a number of years before that too). We will still spend some time doing holiday things here too, as I am taking 6 weeks off on parental leave to support dd. So visiting family and probably going camping as jus the girls etc.

But Dh and I need a break as it has been over 3 years since we've had a break from her due to various family events (including bereavement) and other things. So we really, really need that break. And if we were not to do it abroad, DMIL would expect us both down to her to fill our week with jobs.

BiddyPop · 10/05/2021 09:29

(And DMIL expects DH to always fill any visit with her jobs, despite having DBIL living next door with his family and he only working 3 days/week...he is always "too busy" to do the jobs she needs)

motherloaded · 10/05/2021 09:33

@Pastanred

I would not consider a uk break a holiday either given it offers nothing that I actually want from a holiday
we have enough weekends and bank holidays for "UK breaks" anyway, nothing wrong with enjoying a REAL holiday too.
YesPleaseMary · 10/05/2021 09:42

YABU
it’s reasonable to want a couple of nice weeks in the sun somewhere lovely. I would love that. But we’re not going abroad this year because I don’t think international travel is a sensible thing to do yet re COVID.

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BiddyPop · 11/05/2021 10:29

I mentioned that DH has a load of jobs to do anytime we visit "home" for DMIL, and I am barely able to go see my own DPs (20 minutes apart, about 2.5 hours from us)?

I said to DH yesterday that I am thinking about taking a day off work this week (if all stays quiet) to go see my DPs for a coffee in the garden. He thinks that would be nice, as I haven't seen them since July - but I can also bring down a bootload of things that we are donating to DMIL Angry because driving for most of the day to get a couple of hours with my DPs of course means I want to add at least an extra hour or more onto that by diverting to DMIL and having another cuppa with her (can't just drop and go after not seeing her since July either). Hmm

So if I get the chance to go away this year, i am absolutely, 1000% certainly, taking that.

doorornottodoor · 11/05/2021 10:49

@BiddyPop just say no! No big deal.

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