To think this man was rude?

[Lucidas]

I was at a waste and recycling plant. It wasn’t too busy to get in - a queue of just under 5 minutes. I finished getting rid of my stuff, sat in the car and brought up directions on my phone to my next destination. I was on my phone for less than a minute.

I hear banging on my window and roll down it ever so slightly. It’s a guy, late 60s, looking very angry:

Him: Can you MOVE? Now?
Me: Excuse me?
Him: There’s a queue of people waiting out there.
Me: I’m just bringing up directions on my phone.
Him: What?
Me: repeat myself
Him: Well do it OUT THERE gestures randomly towards direction of the main road
Me: I’m sorry...

He walks off, gets into the car next to me, and is driven away. He didn’t even work there, which I’d initially assumed for some reason.

Was I in the wrong? Should I really
have driven out onto a road for no safe place to stop for quite a while, without setting my satnav?

AIBU to think my appearance may have made me a target for someone’s self-righteous indignation? (Muslim woman wearing a hijab)

If it was someone working there, fine...but what’s it to him??

I'm amazed at the number of people saying that the man wouldn't have said anything to another man. There are many men who would be more inclined to say something to a man than a woman and would be actively looking for confrontation.

Far more men than women are attacked by other men, and men are much more likely to be attacked in road rage incidents than women are.

The data is out there, but no, on MN the same old claptrap is trotted out every time an aggressive man is mentioned.

@ButtonMoony not sure if we have misunderstood each other .

Part of fasting and Ramadan, is about ensuring you are patient and forgiving. This is at the heart of Ramadan . Otherwise you are breaking your fast and there is no point in doing it .

That was my point. Apologies if not clear.

@ButtonMoony

So I was trying to say that the OP should show forgiveness . Not the other way round

He was unspeakably rude, and I’d bet my house that he wouldn’t have spoken that way to my 6’7” built-like-a-rugby-player husband. There’s no excuse for that kind of behaviour. If he was in a rush and couldn’t wait a few seconds he could have asked you politely if you were going to be much longer. And yes, I would definitely attribute that kind of outburst to both sexism and racism.

@SofiaMichelle - nobody doubts that more men are attacked by men than women, the stats are clear. However, the stat that we need to know is whether men are more likely to attack a woman than a man when totally sober, in daylight, with no crime being committed and the other person has not interacted with them in any way whatsoever.

What I mean is - Men are more likely to attack a man than a woman when drunk in a pub, but a son is more likely to murder his mother than his father. Road rage does not work as a direct comparator as in most road rage incidents there has been an interaction between the people involved prior to the first person getting out of the car.

I would think based on my limited experience that where both the people are sober, the victim is alone, no crime is being committed by either party, and there has been no previous interaction between the two - it is much more likely that a man would aggressively confront a woman than a man. But would be genuinely interested if you have the level of stats needed to show this is wrong.

If the man was unspeakably rude then you were also an unspeakable inconsiderate pain in the neck. So I guess its evens.

LOL to everyone acting like she was there for a half hour or something, she put directions into a satnav - a task usually measured in seconds. 'I'd have done it beforehand'... 🤣🤣 So helpful to be perfect all the time, eh? Sod off being so high and mighty.

The guy was clearly rude and overreacting, also probably a racist yes.

It was her phone. By the time she's picked it up, brought the app up, keyed in what she wants etc etc it's highly likely to be more than seconds. It's simply normal etiquette when you know there's a queue behind you not to hold them up doing something that can perfectly well wait till you're out of the way.

@Cheeserton

...also probably a racist yes.

That's a ridiculous thing to say with absolutely nothing to support it.

@SeaShoreGalore
no more likely linked to being a twat and holding the que up