I think my neighbour is a cheeky fucker aibu?

[SiliconHeaven]

I was working at my computer earlier today, my ‘office’ is at the front of the house and I was sat by the open window. Two boys came to my door, a neighbour and his friend, aged about 6 or 7. I saw them pass the window and I could hear them giggling and chatting. They rang the doorbell and knocked on the door. I didn’t answer it because I didn’t want to.
Short while later the neighbour dad came to my open window and started shouting at me about how rude I was not answering the door to his son and his friend because they wanted to ask me about my 3-legged cat
He was really nasty, shouting very loud and swearing. He does have form for being a twat.
Why do some people make it so hard for everyone else? I told him not to shout at me and tried to close the window, unfortunately his arm was stopping me from closing it so I just left the room.
Bit shaken up to be honest, not being unreasonable am I?

But op is still entitled to not want to. It's a ridiculous arguement.

Wouldn’t have hurt you to get up off your arse and answer the door.

I can't believe people are blaming the OP, the kids were happy so not needing help and what should people answer their door to anyone if they don't want to?? Also we are still in covid times, so answering the door to answer questions about her cat isn't exactly essential is it

And I would of slammed that window so hard on his arm, the cheeky twat

@MrMeSeeks

Your attitude has probably rubbed him up the wrong way. Not saying it excuses it, but it possibly explains it

Fucking hell. Some of the posts on here.

What attitude exactly? Not answering the door because she was busy? 😂

Do you also think your DC are the centre of everyone’s universe?

Why should*

@SeaTurtles92 Of course she's entitled to not answer her door. Absolutely 100% her decision to not answer her door "because she doesn't want to". I never intimated otherwise.

My point was that it's not a very friendly attitude and I would suspect that is why there is issues between her and this neighbour,

And to repeat myself, as it seems to have been lost on you, I am not saying it excuses his behaviour, I am saying it possibly explains it. There is a difference. Of course he shouldn't have come over and shouted.

@PinkiOcelot

Wouldn’t have hurt you to get up off your arse and answer the door.

OP just answer the door like this.

@MrMeSeeks

Your attitude has probably rubbed him up the wrong way. Not saying it excuses it, but it possibly explains it

Fucking hell. Some of the posts on here.

Not sure you've quite understood but ok.

@PinkiOcelot - why should she? Just because someone is knocking on your front door doesn't mean you have to answer it.

@SakuraEdenSwan1 Answer the door then instead of being rude and ignorant to children

Children need to learn that not everyone needs to jump to their every whim just because they are children.

And you need to learn that ‘ignorant’ does not mean rude or having no manners. It means that you have a lack of knowledge about something.

Honestly. People can see me all they want through the patio doors/window, I'm not answering the door because I can't, not because I can't be bothered. Kids/neighbours/Amazon can bang on the door all day and they won't get an answer

And I'm one of the unusual people on here that does go to the door when I'm not working

@GreyhoundG1rl

But op is still entitled to not want to. It's a ridiculous arguement.

Make your mind up. Your defence is all a bit yes but no but.

@OnceUponAMidnightBeery - Nope. Not answering the door because you are busy is very different to not answering the door because "I didn't want to." That's the attitude I'm talking about.

My point was that it's not a very friendly attitude and I would suspect that is why there is issues between her and this neighbour,
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[quote tuttifuckinfruity]@SeaTurtles92 Of course she's entitled to not answer her door. Absolutely 100% her decision to not answer her door "because she doesn't want to". I never intimated otherwise.

My point was that it's not a very friendly attitude and I would suspect that is why there is issues between her and this neighbour,

And to repeat myself, as it seems to have been lost on you, I am not saying it excuses his behaviour, I am saying it possibly explains it. There is a difference. Of course he shouldn't have come over and shouted. [/quote]
Darling, for you to try and insult me, I first have to value your opinion.

The whole 'lost on me' clearly got lost on you. I didn't say anything about you mentioning the neighbour... just the OP.

Would you like to re read or are you lost?

@Cheeseandlobster

They were age 6 or 7 so little boys really? Would it have hurt you to open the door for 2 mins then you would probably be having a better night now? The neighbour was an arse for shouting and swearing though

Why do we all have to pander to children? If someone doesn't want to open their door they shouldn't have to.

You had no obligation to answer the door, whether you were working or not.

You wouldn't expect random interruptions from non-colleagues when you're in the office, and your home is your office now.

People arguing you should have answered the door clearly don’t work from home. I spend most of my day in meetings - often presenting or chairing. I can’t get up and answer the door. I am sometime beaming live into court.

People at the door can see me - in corn cases I can he store that I can’t come to the door, but not always.

Children should know they can’t demand adults attention. If it’s not convenient to answer the door you don’t have to.

Make your mind up
Your defence is all a bit yes but no but.
No idea what this means, Geamhradh

Sorry for the typos! I meant I can sometime gesture but not always

@ChunkyBird

How was she nasty to the children ?'

Presumably because she failed to bow down to darlings of the world. It does children no harm to realise that they are not the centre of everyone's universe, whatever their parents might think

@PinkiOcelot

Wouldn’t have hurt you to get up off your arse and answer the door.

Yes, her work would totally understand that 😂

She could see them, it obviously wasn’t an important issue (and if it was, they should go to the parents surely? I hope one was at home if they were playing outside unattended?)

Why on earth are your kids supposed to be other people’s responsibility to entertain?

@PhilCornwall1

I think it is important to get an aggressive neighbour who turned up at your house shouting and swearing and who prevented you from shutting your own window warned off. He'd at least be on notice.

Wouldn't a polite "fuck off or I'll burn your house down" do the trick?

Hahaaaa! I came to bed for an early night... and just thought... "I'll tune into Mumsnet for two minutes before I go to sleep" Now I'm wheezing with laughter. Thanks PhilCornwall1

@JudgeJ. Yes really. I work from home most days and I definitely dont believe in "pandering to children" but the op sounds like she sat in full view ignoring them. How hard could it have been to answer the door or open the window and say " Sorry. I am working. I cant speak. Please dont knock again" . I note also the op hasnt returned

@SeaTurtles92 Wait, are you the dad?

As many have said (but many still aren't getting), no matter what they were doing, OP has no obligation to answer the door to her home for any reason. Also, the dad's behaviour was out of line and disproportionate to the situation. Shouting is bad enough, but sticking his arm in the window and refusing to remove it is overly aggressive and is worthy of being reported (though I'm not saying that would help the situation).