I think my neighbour is a cheeky fucker aibu?

[SiliconHeaven]

I was working at my computer earlier today, my ‘office’ is at the front of the house and I was sat by the open window. Two boys came to my door, a neighbour and his friend, aged about 6 or 7. I saw them pass the window and I could hear them giggling and chatting. They rang the doorbell and knocked on the door. I didn’t answer it because I didn’t want to.
Short while later the neighbour dad came to my open window and started shouting at me about how rude I was not answering the door to his son and his friend because they wanted to ask me about my 3-legged cat
He was really nasty, shouting very loud and swearing. He does have form for being a twat.
Why do some people make it so hard for everyone else? I told him not to shout at me and tried to close the window, unfortunately his arm was stopping me from closing it so I just left the room.
Bit shaken up to be honest, not being unreasonable am I?

It could’ve been an emergency that they needed an adult to help with They’re highly unlikely to have been giggling or chatting if it was an emergency. She’s working, she’s not available to have random conversations with other people’s children.

I have to say, OP, if some man had stuck his arm through my window, preventing me from closing it, his arm would be leaving my window in a much worse state than it was when he stuck it in. But assuming you don’t want to meet aggression with aggression, I’d report it to the non emergency police number and ask them to make it very clear to him that he’s not to come to your home shouting the odds again.

@Viviennemary

The neighbour was way out of order. But why didn't you answer the door. Most people do but only on MN is it the norm not to.

Op was working. Not available for chats with the neighbours.

"I was busy, move your fucking arm now before the window severs it". You're not beholden to anyone, much less some arsehole shouting the odds.

This not opening the door again!! You were truly bizarre and he was rude. You're well matched

Oh no, op is bizarre! She was working so ignored the doorbell, yes extremely Bizarre it’s DEFIANTLY the same as an aggressive man swearing and sticking his hand through her window

Do some of you know what working from home is? That you can’t always ‘just go and answer the door’ to some random kids.

Report him to the police op, do not let him get away with this crap.

Could have easily been avoided if you'd acted normal and answered the doir. You could have given them a short explanation and said you were working and needed peace and wuiet. Neighbour obviously shouldn't be shouting and swearing at you.

I wouldn't have answer the door either especially if you were working. My life was made a misery at my last house with the local kids constantly ringing and knocking wanting random things at all hours of the day.
I would leave a note for your neighbour to say not only do you not open the door when you are working from home but if he threatens you again you will be reporting him to the police. Report him anyway.

@Jumpers268 implication being that it wasn’t anything urgent - so there’s nothing wrong with not answering.
Come to think of it even if OP didn’t answer because she CBA I’d still think she was in the right.
Why are people letting kids wander around knocking doors for frivolous reasons?

Yes, he was out of order, but you don't sound like you have a great attitude either to be honest.

Sometimes I can't answer my door if I'm on a call. But your "I didn't answer the door because I didn't want to" is shitty. They are little boys!

Your attitude has probably rubbed him up the wrong way. Not saying it excuses it, but it possibly explains it.

I think it is important to get an aggressive neighbour who turned up at your house shouting and swearing and who prevented you from shutting your own window warned off. He'd at least be on notice.

Wouldn't a polite "fuck off or I'll burn your house down" do the trick?

Should have shut the window on his arm then his son could talk about his one armed dad. Dick.

Could have easily been avoided if you'd acted normal and answered the doir

So it’s op’s fault she was abused because she didn't want to be disturbed?
Nice bit of victim blaming there.

The OP actually says she was working AT her computer, not that she was WFH.
I was working AT my computer all morning, but that was me marking work, not teaching people. There is a difference. And of course nobody is obliged to answer their door, but I think most neighbours would think I was pretty odd if I was sitting in full view of people then when they knocked I didn't answer.

That said, the man was rude and aggressive.

Almost guaranteed that even if the OP had answered the door and said she was too busy to talk, this aggressive thug would have reacted exactly the same way. 'Why could you just not answer the kids blah blah blah....'
He is unhinged and needs warned off. No stable person behaves like this man.

If she didn't answer the door because she CBA that's fine. But the whole "OP couldn't answer the door because she was working" is bollocks as the OP clearly states she didn't answer it because she didn't want to. I would answer the door to my NDN's child (whether they're in control or not) but that's just me. I would report a neighbour to the police for shouting abuse at me though.

@tuttifuckinfruity

Yes, he was out of order, but you don't sound like you have a great attitude either to be honest.

Sometimes I can't answer my door if I'm on a call. But your "I didn't answer the door because I didn't want to" is shitty. They are little boys!

Your attitude has probably rubbed him up the wrong way. Not saying it excuses it, but it possibly explains it.

No one has to answer their own front door if they don't want to. She's perfectly entitled to not answer her own bloody front door to two children.

Hardly makes her have a shitty attitude.

Wait, are you the dad?

Your attitude has probably rubbed him up the wrong way. Not saying it excuses it, but it possibly explains it

Fucking hell. Some of the posts on here.

OP said they didn’t answer the door because they ‘didn’t want to’.
Not sure why he needed to come round all shouty over it.
Is there more to it?

I should add I have a good relationship with both my neighbours!

Should have shut the window on his arm then his son could talk about his one armed dad

😂😂.

Wouldn't a polite "fuck off or I'll burn your house down" do the trick?

Yeh - but not likely to be said from somebody badly shaken by the incident.

@Geamhradh

The OP actually says she was working AT her computer, not that she was WFH. I was working AT my computer all morning, but that was me marking work, not teaching people. There is a difference. And of course nobody is obliged to answer their door, but I think most neighbours would think I was pretty odd if I was sitting in full view of people then when they knocked I didn't answer.

That said, the man was rude and aggressive.

What's the difference? Especially to a random neighbour staring in your window?
Op is entitled to be busy doing anything she feels like, whether or not it was paid work is of no relevance

@RedHelenB

Could have easily been avoided if you'd acted normal and answered the doir. You could have given them a short explanation and said you were working and needed peace and wuiet. Neighbour obviously shouldn't be shouting and swearing at you.

And if she was on a zoom call and couldn’t exactly say ‘I’m sorry, please hold this important discussion while I go answer the door to my neighbours kids’?

I'd call the police too. Absolute dickhead 🙄

@Cheeseandlobster

They were age 6 or 7 so little boys really? Would it have hurt you to open the door for 2 mins then you would probably be having a better night now? The neighbour was an arse for shouting and swearing though

Really? 🙄

If the OP was on a Zoom call wouldn’t they have said that was the reason they didn’t answer the door? Not because they just didn’t want to.