I think my neighbour is a cheeky fucker aibu?

[SiliconHeaven]

I was working at my computer earlier today, my ‘office’ is at the front of the house and I was sat by the open window. Two boys came to my door, a neighbour and his friend, aged about 6 or 7. I saw them pass the window and I could hear them giggling and chatting. They rang the doorbell and knocked on the door. I didn’t answer it because I didn’t want to.
Short while later the neighbour dad came to my open window and started shouting at me about how rude I was not answering the door to his son and his friend because they wanted to ask me about my 3-legged cat
He was really nasty, shouting very loud and swearing. He does have form for being a twat.
Why do some people make it so hard for everyone else? I told him not to shout at me and tried to close the window, unfortunately his arm was stopping me from closing it so I just left the room.
Bit shaken up to be honest, not being unreasonable am I?

Hardly anyone knocks unexpectedly on my door, so curiosity means it always gets answered.

Phone calls do get ignored if I’m not in the mood & texts answered when I get round to it.

Personally I am sick of people who think that the mere presence of a house equals entitlement to knock on the door for trivial reasons.
The presence of a house means it’s someone’s home and that is where people should be left alone to get on with whatever they want, not attend to gawping kids, nosy parkers or anyone trying to flog anything.

@SiliconHeaven

Really? Normal people answer the door? Horrible to the children? They were giggling, it wasn’t an emergency. Let’s be honest, I don’t think I was being unreasonable and I am amused by some of the reasons why you think I was.

But you must have had an inkling you mighthave been unreasonable. Hence the thread.

Love the cat pics.

But you must have had an inkling you mighthave been unreasonable. Hence the thread.

More likely due to being shaken up by a man refusing to move his arm from her window, who is known to be loud mouthed and inconsiderate.

@stackemhigh

But you must have had an inkling you mighthave been unreasonable. Hence the thread.

More likely due to being shaken up by a man refusing to move his arm from her window, who is known to be loud mouthed and inconsiderate.

Ah ok. Well hewas definitely unreasonable I think that’s been established.

The victim blaming on this thread is hideous. Do you tell rape victims it probably wouldn’t have happened if they’d just done the normal thing and agreed to have sex ffs
Agree. It’s disgusting. No wonder men get away with so much amount of posts on here excusing this bloke!

I don't think you were unreasonable not to answer the door, its sometimes bad enough trying to work from home with distractions let alone children fancying a chat!
I was once in the middle of a video call conversation with a large corporate client (so several people) and the postman knocked on the door, then my window, then put his nose to the window and shouted at me! He wasn't to know I was on the call as it just looked like I was on my computer but it wouldn't have looked very professional to the client to stop the whole conversation for my neighbours parcel!!
I don't like the expectation that you have to drop everything for the front door, especially with all the wfh now and there is no way your neighbour should have approached you aggressively about it.

Well hewas definitely unreasonable I think that’s been established

Agreed

@lightningpeach

I don't think you were unreasonable not to answer the door, its sometimes bad enough trying to work from home with distractions let alone children fancying a chat! I was once in the middle of a video call conversation with a large corporate client (so several people) and the postman knocked on the door, then my window, then put his nose to the window and shouted at me! He wasn't to know I was on the call as it just looked like I was on my computer but it wouldn't have looked very professional to the client to stop the whole conversation for my neighbours parcel!! I don't like the expectation that you have to drop everything for the front door, especially with all the wfh now and there is no way your neighbour should have approached you aggressively about it.

Shouting at you about a neighbour's parcel! I hope you didn't accept it.

I was really annoyed but I didn't have much choice at the time mid call! I sort of waved him away but I did answer the to the same guy the next week and made a point of telling him I often couldn't answer as Im on calls!

The OP is quite within her rights not to answer the door when she is working.

People need to realise that working from home essentially means that you’re not available. You’re essentially in the office, therefore, the door won’t be answered.

I don’t answer to trick or treaters. One year a man came round with some kids, I didn’t open the door and he screamed through the letterbox that I was a fucking cunt. all the fault there was with him. It’s not my fault he was a prick who clearly gives not one jot about his children if this is the language he uses in front of them.

The neighbour is the sae. He teaches his children that you get what you want through violence and intimidation, yeah, that’s really going to make people want to answer the door to them in future isn’t it?

People need to realise that working from home essentially means that you’re not available. You’re essentially in the office, therefore, the door won’t be answered.

Wish someone would explain this to my family members

@QueenPaw

Definitely not rude. People complain they don't get the same service when companies work from home but then you're rude not to answer the door. "Sorry I know you've been queuing for ages to get through, I'll pop you on hold while I see what these kids at the door want"

Quite

I am FAR FAR too nosy interested, not to open the door.

I'd have told the twat to remove his arm while he still could and to fuck off home before I called the police.

Open the door, set the dog on the kids, job done.

OP,

Up to you 100% to decide whether you open your door.

YANBU - don't answer if you don't want to. Its not law. He's an arse.

How ridiculous, he is a twat

@SiliconHeaven your neighbour is a complete twat but you're also rude for not answering the door to children who could clearly see you were home... what if they needed help or were in some sort of distress would you still choose to not answer the door just 'because you didn't feel like it'? What an odd thing to do... are you usually so antisocial or is it the lockdown effect?

1. Guy was a twat.

2. I answer my door when someone rings the bell. It doesn't ring often and it's normally a delivery. I'd be concerned that it was something important if I didn't answer it. It feels more community minded to answer the door.

(I've never had Jehovah's Witnesses or salespeople at the door. When a lady from the Baptist church knocked I just said no thanks.)

[quote CityCommuter]@SiliconHeaven your neighbour is a complete twat but you're also rude for not answering the door to children who could clearly see you were home... what if they needed help or were in some sort of distress would you still choose to not answer the door just 'because you didn't feel like it'? What an odd thing to do... are you usually so antisocial or is it the lockdown effect?[/quote]
Presumably if they were in distress they wouldn't be giggling their way up op's drive.

As op is a wheelchair user, it is also possible that it is more effortful for her to open the door than it is for many people.

@dodobookends

I once went and knocked on my neighbour's door. I knew they were in, I could see them moving around. They didn't answer.

Oh well, their loss. I only wanted to tell them their outbuilding was on fire.

In that case phone the fire service 👍

As for watching someone knock my door from the window - now that is just self absorbed ignorant behaviour- and yes the personification of 'weird' .. which is probably the sobriquet you will crowned with now. For good reason.

She was working. Being home doesn't mean she's available 9-5am. One of my friends who's working from home has a boss who checks in at random times on random days precisely to make sure their employees aren't taking the piss.