I think my neighbour is a cheeky fucker aibu?

[SiliconHeaven]

I was working at my computer earlier today, my ‘office’ is at the front of the house and I was sat by the open window. Two boys came to my door, a neighbour and his friend, aged about 6 or 7. I saw them pass the window and I could hear them giggling and chatting. They rang the doorbell and knocked on the door. I didn’t answer it because I didn’t want to.
Short while later the neighbour dad came to my open window and started shouting at me about how rude I was not answering the door to his son and his friend because they wanted to ask me about my 3-legged cat
He was really nasty, shouting very loud and swearing. He does have form for being a twat.
Why do some people make it so hard for everyone else? I told him not to shout at me and tried to close the window, unfortunately his arm was stopping me from closing it so I just left the room.
Bit shaken up to be honest, not being unreasonable am I?

In my world normal people answer the door

In my world unexpected knocks at the door are usually Jehovah’s witnesses or dodgy salesmen and best ignored!

That’s odd - I thought the thread was focussing on the deranged and completely out of order NDN, poking his body parts through OP’s window to have a raging rant?

@SiliconHeaven I would certainly report him to non-emergency police - please do this.
You have every right to enjoy the relative peace and safety of your own home.

Log any other ‘incidents’ with this family in a diary.

Yes, body part poking is always weird...through anyone's window to be fair 😂

@SiliconHeaven definitely report - especially if you are disabled they will take it seriously!

@QueenPaw fair enough. Obviously people do different things in their job

@WorraLiberty

Just because you've been on MN forever, doesn't give you a right to determine what 'normality' is in the real world

Everyone's real world is different in terms of normality compared to Mumsnet though surely?

MN really doesn't reflect my real world in many ways, even if it does reflect yours.

I don't really know anyone who makes a drama out of such things. Even if they did decide not to answer the door for their own reasons, I can't think of anyone I know who would need to start a thread on a public forum, in order to validate such a non event.

@WorraLiberty

The use of the term 'normal people' and now here in this post 'makes a drama out of such things' is really unpleasant.

Both terms are frequently used to bully and belittle. They are not an acceptable way to speak to people.

I have two points about starting a thread on this:

1. The OP was verbally abused in her home having done something very minor - that is not a non-event
2. Mumsnet would be pretty empty if people didn't start threads about such matters

I think people’s feelings about answering the door might depend on why people are knocking. If the neighbours know you’re a HCP and knock at inconvenient times to ask you to ‘just have a quick look’ at something, then maybe that gets a bit irritating. Same with vets, or solicitors, etc. And it might depend on the time of day, and who else is in the house with you. I’m sure there are lots of reasons why not answering the door feels like the preferred option.

Children can be horrible even at 6 & 7 and EVERYONE on here should know as am assuming we all have children or dealt with them. "Mums"net being the clue. Everyone has a right to not open their door if they think the people (be they children or not) are up to no good. As for the grown-up's behaviour, yes, call the police and report the incident. It's likely that he might cause trouble in future and it's good to have that documented in case you need the evidence.

You should print off a leaflet on your 3 legged cat and post it up his arse!
Cheeky fucker!
I bet he wouldn't have been shouting through your window if you was a 10 ft tall man!

@Cheeseandlobster

They were age 6 or 7 so little boys really? Would it have hurt you to open the door for 2 mins then you would probably be having a better night now? The neighbour was an arse for shouting and swearing though

Nobody has to open doors to people they don't want to especially when they are working. That is a completely unreasonable comment.

So many people think their kids are special. No, they're annoying when they appear at the wrong times, like everyone else's.

The neighbour was completely 100% unreasonable and I would be reporting the incident to the police because of refusing to allow the OP to close the window.

I hate answering the door, it means putting on a hoodie or cardigan to hide my bra-less boobs. Fucking annoying. I look through the window and only answer if it's someone I know or the postman/delivery. Usually I know when I'm expecting a parcel or a visitor so I'm usually right when an unexpected knock at the door is going to be hassle.

@LagunaBubbles

Well obviously hes a nutter but normal people tend to answer their door when it's chapped.

Not in mn land. Btw, yes he’s a humongous wanker.

If I don't want to open the door I don't.

People might think it rude. Tough. I will have a reason for not wanting to open the door. I do not need to justify why. No matter who it is.

Thats it. People don't know why I've made that decision. It could be for any number of reasons. I have a right to privacy without harassment in my own home.

In my world normal people answer the door

In your world do normal people send their kids off to be entertained by neighbours who are WORKING, and expect them to be entertained or you’ll go and scream at them too?

In your world, are normal people more concerned about making sure strangers answer the door to your kids, than men screaming at and intimidating women?

Your neighbour is an arse, those responding that you should drop everything to attend to the wee kiddies at the doorstep are crazy and a bit sexist, and your 3 legged cat is lovely. Think that about covers it.

You don’t have to drop everything- if you can see them from your office just shout out the window sorry you’re busy working. Job done.

I answered the door to my neighbours kids/ their friends a couple of times to talk about my cat, and they started ringing the doorbell all the time! I stopped doing it after that because I really didn't want to talk to them about my cat all the time.
I would be telling my kids not to knock other people's doors unless it was an emergency!!
They are rude and entitled and he sounds like a lunatic! That would have really upset me as I don't react well to men shouting at me!

Oh I just saw you posted a picture, what a gorgeous cat

Gosh, they sound entitled. Are you supposed to be at their beck and call for trivial questions?

He should have said that he hoped they weren't being a nuisance or bothering you.

This is really a thing isn't it.. ? I thought it was made up but huge amount of non-door answeres on this thread so coming to the conclusion that there lots of weird people on Mumsnet.

I can't imagine EVER not answering my door if I hear someone knocking. I am also glad to say I don't think I have ever met anyone like this . Thank goodness.

As for watching someone knock my door from the window - now that is just self absorbed ignorant behaviour- and yes the personification of 'weird' .. which is probably the sobriquet you will crowned with now. For good reason.

@Frustratedbeyondbelief

This is really a thing isn't it.. ? I thought it was made up but huge amount of non-door answeres on this thread so coming to the conclusion that there lots of weird people on Mumsnet.

I can't imagine EVER not answering my door if I hear someone knocking. I am also glad to say I don't think I have ever met anyone like this . Thank goodness.

As for watching someone knock my door from the window - now that is just self absorbed ignorant behaviour- and yes the personification of 'weird' .. which is probably the sobriquet you will crowned with now. For good reason.

This is a very unpleasant post.

Since when did it become ok to call people 'weird' for doing something so trivial?

There's a complete lack of tolerance for ordinary human difference on this thread.

YANBU op I didn't answer the door to my 9 year old neighbour once and the next time I see his mum she said he was knocking to ask to use my dog crate for the new puppy they had to collect. That day. She acted very inconvenienced that she had to go and quickly buy one. I was upstairs when he knocked and he didn't see me so I said I was out and apologised like the idiot I am.

@Frustratedbeyondbelief what's weird is that you don't get that some people are working from home which may mean that they can't afford to be easily distracted. I have ADHD, and can get distracted or procrastinate. Having to answer the door to two giggly children could mean that I can't get back into work mode easily and could set me back by hours.

I can't imagine EVER not answering my door if I hear someone knocking. I am also glad to say I don't think I have ever met anyone like this . Thank goodness

😂🤣 how overdramatic are you?! How other people want to live their lives, and if they want to answer the door or not, especially when working, doesn’t impact you in the slightest.