I think my neighbour is a cheeky fucker aibu?

[SiliconHeaven]

I was working at my computer earlier today, my ‘office’ is at the front of the house and I was sat by the open window. Two boys came to my door, a neighbour and his friend, aged about 6 or 7. I saw them pass the window and I could hear them giggling and chatting. They rang the doorbell and knocked on the door. I didn’t answer it because I didn’t want to.
Short while later the neighbour dad came to my open window and started shouting at me about how rude I was not answering the door to his son and his friend because they wanted to ask me about my 3-legged cat
He was really nasty, shouting very loud and swearing. He does have form for being a twat.
Why do some people make it so hard for everyone else? I told him not to shout at me and tried to close the window, unfortunately his arm was stopping me from closing it so I just left the room.
Bit shaken up to be honest, not being unreasonable am I?

So weird that people think you are obligated to answer the door. Such weirdness. There couldn’t be a more ridiculous reason than children wanting to talk about a three legged cat to be disturbed when working.

He’s horrible and completely and utterly unreasonable.

@Livpool because I take calls all day. I don't get disturbed in the office either because we are all doing the same thing

Your cat is adorable. He’s a wanker.

You’re definitely not being unreasonable. You’re not obliged to answer your door if you don’t want to and they should’ve be rude or uptight when you don’t. The way they’ve acted is just ridiculous. I hate bad neighbours or rude neighbours.

@SiliconHeaven

Really? Normal people answer the door? Horrible to the children? They were giggling, it wasn’t an emergency. Let’s be honest, I don’t think I was being unreasonable and I am amused by some of the reasons why you think I was.

In my world normal people answer the door

In Mumsnet world not answering the door is seen as completely normal, even in broad daylight when it's your neighbour knocking.

It often makes me wonder if some of these MNetters have very little control over other things in their lives, and not answering the door gives them some sort of mini 'power rush' or something?

Heightened by starting a thread to do their little victory dance about it.

@WorraLiberty do you not work? Would drop you work to rush to answer the door? If you were in the shower would you rush out just to answer?

I don’t believe you and think you’re a troll getting a reaction as no one is that much of a doormat.

You weren't horrible to the children! Blinkin heck some people on here are so dramatic! It's your prerogative to answer the door.

Your neighbour is a bully and he needs to be reported to the police.

@Worra

toocold54 Ignoring the troll hunting because someone views something differently to you 🙄

If I wasn't in the middle of a work meeting or in the shower, I would answer the door.

I'm not sure where all the 'rushing' is coming from. I'd just get up and you know...walk over to the door.

In my world normal people answer the door

The term 'normal people' used like this is disgusting and those who use it that way must hold horrible views.

@WorraLiberty Sorry pressed wrong button.

Of course it’s ok to not answer your door if you’re not expecting a visitor or delivery. It’s your door. It is closed to retain privacy of the home. You’re not at the beck & call of the doorbell.

I like to think I'm normal, but I don't always answer the door. Sometimes I'm working, sometimes I'm doing something and don't want to be interrupted, sometimes I'm sat on the sofa with a glass of Merlot and can't be arsed. It is my house and my choice.

@SiliconHeaven you are completely right about Line of Duty. No way is that man H ffs. I only hope that the way it ended means there's another series coming 🤞🏻

And that's what I find so strange because in the real world, I don't know anyone who sees simply opening their front door, as 'being at the beck and call of the doorbell'.

Still, there's nowt as strange as folk.

@picturesandpickles Yes, quite. Odd that WL then goes on to qualify that they wouldn’t answer the door if they were otherwise engaged. I expect most people at home are usually busy doing something.

[quote DoubleTweenQueen]@picturesandpickles Yes, quite. Odd that WL then goes on to qualify that they wouldn’t answer the door if they were otherwise engaged. I expect most people at home are usually busy doing something.[/quote]
In the shower or in meeting

If I were generally otherwise engaged in something that was easy to leave for a minute, I would answer the door.

Sorry, I thought that was fairly clear but if it wasn't, I hope this clarifies.

@WorraLiberty if you’re genuine then that makes me really sad for you. It’s ok to not do something you don’t want to do.

For whatever reason OP didn’t answer the door she doesn’t need to explain why.

That doesn’t mean she’s trying to reap some control and her reason for posting wasn’t to do a victory dance but to ask if the neighbour was a CF which he obviously was.

Your views on having to do something are worrying because if you have that view over something so small as someone knocking on the door what else are you acting like a doormat for.

@WorraLiberty

Do you answer your phone if it's a withheld or unknown number?

@WorraLiberty, I live in the real world and am perfectly 'normal' thank you very much. Sometimes I don't answer the door if I'm not expecting it or if I'm busy. I'd certainly not if I was working and two silly children were at the door.

Just because you've been on MN forever, doesn't give you a right to determine what 'normality' is in the real world. If anything, I would suggest you are the one living in Mumsnetland.....

I’ve been here 14yrs, on & off - just to say!!

In my world, I don;t divide people into 'normal' and 'abnormal' based on whether they do everything the same way I would do it.

I am so sick and tired of seeing the word 'normal' - it was a nasty bullying insult when used all the time in the eighties and it really should be consigned to history.

@picturesandpickles There’s no like button, so

[quote Billandben444]@WorraLiberty

Do you answer your phone if it's a withheld or unknown number?[/quote]
Yes, if I'm not busy.

It's really not a big deal. It's not like I've got people knocking on my door or ringing my phone every ten minutes 😂

Daft neighbour
Lovely cat😺
Your house, your door, your time, your choice OP 😉

Just because you've been on MN forever, doesn't give you a right to determine what 'normality' is in the real world

Everyone's real world is different in terms of normality compared to Mumsnet though surely?

MN really doesn't reflect my real world in many ways, even if it does reflect yours.

I don't really know anyone who makes a drama out of such things. Even if they did decide not to answer the door for their own reasons, I can't think of anyone I know who would need to start a thread on a public forum, in order to validate such a non event.

You are very peculiar @worraliberty I suspect you are projecting. ‘Power rush’ ‘very little control over things in their lives’ what bollocks.
I live alone (apart from the cat) I’m the boss of me.
Side note to the pps saying I should have ‘got off my arse’ to answer the door. I’m a wheelchair user, I’d love to get off my arse.

not drip feeding - at this point I don’t care if anyone thinks I was unreasonable.