Losing friends due to who I'm marrying

[coppafeel]

I'm due to marry someone, I hate to use the word 'famous' so I will say someone 'well known' - a D list celeb if you may. We are due to get married in December. Been with him for 2 years and throughout those 2 years I have been lost really good or so I thought, friends.

He is very controversial figure and so many of my friends have opinions about his views and can't even tolerate him for me. I'm at a loss of what to do, my friends were my life and were there for me through all the bad times but they have turned on me since meeting my partner. I can't just not be with the man I love because of their views but I don't understand why they cannot separate his views from me.

What can I do here?

Roy Chubby Brown

Does he turn every social get together into a tedious political debate, where your friends feel forced to defend their own stance, he gets more drunk, obnoxious and dominating as the evening wears on.

It's just that I know someone like that, a horribly selfish bore.

My friends have turned on me what do you mean by that? They ignore you or are you receiving abuse online from them or something?

Be careful of a situation where your partner gradually turns you against all family and friends, leaving you isolated. It can be a subtle form of manipulative control.

@ViciousJackdaw

Mrs Yaxley-Lennon?

That was my first thought too

I suppose he must have a few quid?

I was gonna say it was Greg Ellis, but he's probably not even D list.

I'm as politically minded as a cat and even I would know to steer clear of someone with those views.

Is he from a more middle class background than you OP?

Kind of reminds me of my mum who swears blind that my brother isn't racist, he just has a quirky sense of humour. He's a massive fucking racist and the fact that she thinks what he says isn't racist shows that she is too.

I'd dump you, too. You're known by the company you keep.

Is Nigel not married?

It's definitely Laurence Fox, he fits all the criteria the OP has mentioned.

Hmm this is a weird thread!

As a complete side note, I've only recently found out that Laurence Fox's brother in law is none other than Richard Ayoade. I would LOVE to be a fly on the wall of the big family meet-ups.....

Trying for a moment to believe that the fiancé of someone in the public eye has not been given any guidance on social media posting.....

If your friends hate your fiancé, you should stop for a moment a think about that. Really think about it. You chose your friends. They don’t have all the information that you have, but they also have another perspective and they are people that have been in your life longer than the fiancé. I’m not advising you to call things off, just really think about what they are saying.

If you aren’t sure about the politics of it all, do the work. The reality is there is nuance to many of these issues that gets lost among the shouting. It’s not enough though to say he seems like a good person. You need to have opinions of your own.

Is it Lembit Opik?

Prince Andrew was first person who came into my mind.

Is it Silvio Berlusconi?

Please don't marry anyone who does this. 😂🤣

twitter.com/LozzaFox/status/1388417485246976002

So you are planning on marrying someone with strong political views that go right over your head, and nobody wants to know you.
What could possibly go wrong.
Dear Lord and then they wonder.

Are your friends left wing and his views right wing?

Because I have found the Left remarkable for its lack of tolerance and diversity. I'm politically homeless as I just can't align myself to such intolerance any more.
Quite common on dating apps to find people saying ' If you voted Brexit we won't get on' . Never seen a Brexiteer say the same thing about a remainer!

The trouble with strong political views is that they are an indicator of a persons personality. Basically if their political views are cuntish....Then they are likely to be a cunt.

@RJnomore1

We all thought farage then 😂

Ye. My first reaction. However Farage is old and married.

Is your 'intended' a neo-Nazi or something similar?

Do you have to marry him or could you just stay as you are, enjoying each other's company and the other, indefinitely?

@sonjadog

Is Nigel not married?

Divorced I believe. Lucky escape for her.

Look if these are people that you love and trust, maybe you should listen to them?

@EmmaGrundyForPM

It's definitely Laurence Fox, he fits all the criteria the OP has mentioned.

Not sure he does, I think he's had at least two girlfriends in the last 2 years and one of them dumped him after his question time appearance last November it seems..

I used to really fancy L Fox to the point a friend let me know when he'd split with Billie in case I wanted to snare him with my baking skills. Alas, then he opened his mouth and my legs and heart clamped shut for good. I fancied his character in Lewis as I like the moody intellectual type but my god he's a twat irl.

Mainly about race and how Covid has been managed by the government. I can't really say much more than that. However, he is not racist I can categorically say that
It was in relation to the BLM movement, he had differing opinions on that situation but he is not racist, he just didn't agree with it
Hmm, imo, it depends on what bit he was actually opposed to.

The BLM movement is a left wing movement that wants the abolition of the police amongst other things.

I certainly don’t agree with that, but I agree passionately that black people have been and continue to be treated appallingly and it has to change.

If he is one of these people that bleat ‘white lives matter too’ and feels the movement is unwarranted then I have to say I agree with your friends.
I’d consider him very racist and you too because if you weren’t you presumably wouldn’t be marrying him.