Losing friends due to who I'm marrying

[coppafeel]

I'm due to marry someone, I hate to use the word 'famous' so I will say someone 'well known' - a D list celeb if you may. We are due to get married in December. Been with him for 2 years and throughout those 2 years I have been lost really good or so I thought, friends.

He is very controversial figure and so many of my friends have opinions about his views and can't even tolerate him for me. I'm at a loss of what to do, my friends were my life and were there for me through all the bad times but they have turned on me since meeting my partner. I can't just not be with the man I love because of their views but I don't understand why they cannot separate his views from me.

What can I do here?

@coppafeel

It was in relation to the BLM movement, he had differing opinions on that situation but he is not racist, he just didn't agree with it.

Genuinely wondering what is objection was to the BLM movement that wasn't racist.

He doesn’t agree with black people wanting not to be killed by police for less serious crimes than white people? Or that black people should have the same rights as white people?

nobody said this...

you literally went away and formed this 'version' in your own mind and came back and posted it..

shame on you

If he’s anti BLM, he’s a racist.

But yes I would try and make sure you understand his point of view if it's caused your long standing friends to stop contacting you. Just in case it's something you also disagree with.

@LittlestBoho

questioning 'me too' and its links to the multi million pound dating industry

I need to know this link. Is it a QANON Pizza gate type thing?

This is exactly the problem, people get upset that others won't debate them or take them seriously, but how do you even start with stupid conspiracy shit like this?

Genuinely wondering what is objection was to the BLM movement that wasn't racist.

TBH, I was conned into donating to BLM the organisation, thinking it was a straightforward anti-racism thing, but it turns out they are a radical group who want to “defund” the police. Which I’m not keen on, especially as a DV survivor.

BLM the general idea/philosophy is much sounder than the BLM organisation.

“BLM movement” is a slippery turn of phrase that sits somewhere in the middle and could mean either or both.

I'd still be friends with you but I'd try to keep away from him if I didn't like him. I'm presuming he's quite right wing and you're friends are all left wing who are notoriously intolerant of anyone who doesn't agree with them

@Crystal90567 Please could you come back and tell us about the links between #MeToo and online dating?

All I could find was a Daily Mail article about how #MeToo has RUINED online dating because men have to consider women's feelings and try not to be creeps now. So sad, my heart breaks for the poor guys.

BLM as a political movement can be controversial - didn't some sky pundits recently stop wearing the BLM badges due to comments about Israel and defunding the police? It's ok not to agree with BLM as a political organisation

So long as his opinions are not illegal then Is it possible your friends might be part of the cancel culture which appears to be going on these days?

Up to you what you're prepared to live with? No one said the people we love had to have the same political views as us depends on whether you can listen to him harp on about it all the time?

It was in relation to the BLM movement, he had differing opinions on that situation but he is not racist, he just didn't agree with it.

So he's racist. Sorry.

Not understanding the BLM movement makes him dumb too.

@Gilead

If he’s anti BLM, he’s a racist.

Again, bollocks.

You have to distinguish between the “BLM organisation”, which wants to defund police and the general idea that “Black lives matter”, which of course they do.

It’s perfectly possible to be vehemently antI-racism and simultaneously want a (good, non-bigoted) police force.

I mean, I realise OP is probably winding us all up, but it’s probably clearer to talk about being racist or anti-racist than to talk in terms of groups who want rid of policing.

🤷‍♀️ lay down with dogs and you get fleas.
If you decide to marry someone "controversial" you're accepting that people will distance themselves.

Thanks RickiTarr looks like I need to read up.

@ThatIsMyPotato

Thanks RickiTarr looks like I need to read up.

You’re only a couple of months behind me.

@Gilead

If he’s anti BLM, he’s a racist.

Er no 🤷‍♀️

Laurence Fox by any chance?

Guessing he’s a ‘controversial’ right winger and your friends are lefties. The left and right can get along provided neither side acts like a moron. Your fiancé is against the BLM movement so sounds like a bit of a moron hence your friends’ dismay. Shame they can’t remain friends with you really, he must be fairly abhorrent if they dislike him that much. If it’s Laurence Fox I don’t blame them.

For anyone wondering what exactly “defund the police” means;

www.nytimes.com/2020/06/12/opinion/sunday/floyd-abolish-defund-police.html

Damn this thread, I've got a Spice Girls ear worm now. Zig-a-zig-AARGH.

Is Laurence Fox engaged?

Someone on Twitter said Laurence Fox gives off extreme divorced dad energy and I have not been able to stop laughing since

@VladmirsPoutine

Someone on Twitter said Laurence Fox gives off extreme divorced dad energy and I have not been able to stop laughing since

😂

@coppafeel

Mainly about race and how Covid has been managed by the government. I can't really say much more than that. However, he is not racist I can categorically say that.

😂😂😂 well you've just said it

[quote RickiTarr]For anyone wondering what exactly “defund the police” means;

www.nytimes.com/2020/06/12/opinion/sunday/floyd-abolish-defund-police.html[/quote]
I was under the belief 'defund' meant divert police funding to social and mental health agencies. I did read other articles stating such.

The article you linked is the first I have read stating the intention was to abolish the police.

@VladmirsPoutine

Someone on Twitter said Laurence Fox gives off extreme divorced dad energy and I have not been able to stop laughing since

He really really does. I wouldn't be at all surprised if BP had started a thread about him on here, he gives off major Fathers4Justice vibes. He's one gaga move from being hauled off a public building dressed as Batman.....