Losing friends due to who I'm marrying

[coppafeel]

I'm due to marry someone, I hate to use the word 'famous' so I will say someone 'well known' - a D list celeb if you may. We are due to get married in December. Been with him for 2 years and throughout those 2 years I have been lost really good or so I thought, friends.

He is very controversial figure and so many of my friends have opinions about his views and can't even tolerate him for me. I'm at a loss of what to do, my friends were my life and were there for me through all the bad times but they have turned on me since meeting my partner. I can't just not be with the man I love because of their views but I don't understand why they cannot separate his views from me.

What can I do here?

It has to be Jeremy Corbyn. Am I right?

Is Piers Corbyn married?

If it IS young Foxy, can he get me an introduction to Count Binhead?

@EdwinPootsLovesArchaeology

Poor Billie. She had to endure Chris Evans and Laurence Fox and work for years with Noel Clarke. At least she got to work with Tennant I suppose.

Her current partner is lovely though! I'm a massive Johnny Lloyd fan!

If his views are bad enough for longstanding friends to cut you off then you may want to reassess who you're in a relationship with... People don't tend to ditch their mates over bog standard political differences.

Are your friends /partner able to hang out without discussing politics? I'm wondering if they are cutting you off because he can't shut up and listen if their opposite views are aired and they are annoyed that you won't tell him not to discuss/react to their political views. So they are cutting him off because he's rude rather than because he has a different POV.

I still miss seeing the poster 'sgthattawaygivesmethefannygallops' around (or something like that) loved that username 😁.

@Roussette

It was in relation to the BLM movement, he had differing opinions on that situation but he is not racist, he just didn't agree with it

Ho hum... not a racist then, just doesn't believe in Black Lives Matter

I don't support Antifa (Fascist) thugs either.

@cushioncovers

Goes off to google Laurence Fox and what's the matter with him.

Not helpful

We’ll send search and rescue for you if you haven’t emerged from that internet rabbit hole within the next fortnight...

@coppafeel

It was in relation to the BLM movement, he had differing opinions on that situation but he is not racist, he just didn't agree with it.

What do you mean by this? He disagrees with what aspect of BLM exactly? I’m curious what you mean by D-list celebrity, will you have more invasions of privacy for marrying such a person?

Also, you say your friends have polarising views to him. Do you agree or disagree with him or are your views more aligned with your friends?

It’s defo not Laurence fox as he dated a celeb last year unless OP is a celeb herself which I doubt.

I'm just about to do the same, WhymeLord

@WhyMeLord ?

OP, I’m more concerned at you saying you ‘aren’t political’ and the man you’re marrying’s ‘controversial’ views about race and Covid go ‘over your head’.

Isn’t it quite possible that your friends actually read a wide variety of media sources, are exposed to a wide range of facts and views, are more attuned to current affairs, don’t just do tinkly laughs and say ‘Ooh, it goes way over my head!’ and therefore are in a far better position to judge your fiancé’s views than you are?

Maybe they blame you for not being better-informed and for marrying someone whose views you claim not to understand?

@HelpMeh

If his views are bad enough for longstanding friends to cut you off then you may want to reassess who you're in a relationship with... People don't tend to ditch their mates over bog standard political differences.

Absolutely agree.

We are all judged by the company we keep. Your friends have every right to draw a line in the sand.

@coppafeel

I wouldn't say his views are abhorrent, but they are strong political views on the complete opposite end of the political spectrum than what my friends are. I'm not very politically minded so his views go over my head and if they were vile they would not. They just have different views but somehow I am being vilified for them. Also no he doesn't say them to be controversial they are just his opinions, however, has received a lot of backlash for them.

You need to get politically minded. Get informed Research the views. Do you agree with them? You are being very naive sayin g " Oh I don't care zbout politics" When clearly your friends are savvy enough to make their views known Read Nd get informed Then decide if you prefer to be with someone with those views Nd lise your friends

No doubt you will find new"friends" with the "correct" viewpoint.
Are you just going along naively because you "love" him?
Own it.
Either you agree with him and you ready to ditch your friends or you don't
You cannot just say oh I am not politically minded like you have no view of your own

@sonjadog

You are about to make a serious commitment to this man, and he will be the father of future children, if you have them. His views will be shared with your children and will go into forming who they are. He will be the man at your side at family events, social functions. You don't have to be politically interested, but you really should spend some time finding out what his views are and thinking about if they agree with your own moral code and worldview before you marry him. Love is great and love is important. But it only goes so far and a good marriage requires you to share certain core values.

Great post!

questioning 'me too' and its links to the multi million pound dating industry

Eh? I've never heard this before. How would #metoo benefit the dating industry?

questioning 'me too' and its links to the multi million pound dating industry

I need to know this link. Is it a QANON Pizza gate type thing?

I'm so irritated that the OP is never going to come back to this thread, I want to know the whole story!

Presumably, you'll get a whole load of new friends that do like him though.

@waltzingparrot

Presumably, you'll get a whole load of new friends that do like him though.

Hope she likes marching with the lads!

I need to know this link. grin Is it a QANON Pizza gate type thing?
I might go down an Internet rabbit hole here. It sounds like a new crackers theory that's not been shared yet by the conspiracy theorists I know. If it is then I give it a fortnight.

Love is blind.
Listen to your friends.

Haven't read the full thread yet, but is it Jeremy Kyle? I read some time ago that he was engaged again.

Marry for love... not your mates Political agendas .. there are no rules that say everyone must agree politically.. otherwise there would be no individual parties. 🌺

Good luck with your Wedding 🎉🥂

@coppafeel

It was in relation to the BLM movement, he had differing opinions on that situation but he is not racist, he just didn't agree with it.

He doesn’t agree with black people wanting not to be killed by police for less serious crimes than white people? Or that black people should have the same rights as white people?