Losing friends due to who I'm marrying

[coppafeel]

I'm due to marry someone, I hate to use the word 'famous' so I will say someone 'well known' - a D list celeb if you may. We are due to get married in December. Been with him for 2 years and throughout those 2 years I have been lost really good or so I thought, friends.

He is very controversial figure and so many of my friends have opinions about his views and can't even tolerate him for me. I'm at a loss of what to do, my friends were my life and were there for me through all the bad times but they have turned on me since meeting my partner. I can't just not be with the man I love because of their views but I don't understand why they cannot separate his views from me.

What can I do here?

@Bitofanexpert

Silly place to ask for a wide scope of opinions OP- unless you are marrying someone who only has left wing and ‘woke’ opinions then you will be told to throw him in the bin. If he isn’t these things then he will be an instant racist/ misogynist/ bigot by default- take your pick.

very very true this

God, Jim Davidson, yes.

He is a raging homophobe. Nasty.

He is on his 5th wife and it's a bit rocky apparently

I knew his second wife. Poor girl.

Bookmarking this thread purely to see how long it lasts before getting zapped...

Are you a photographer OP 👀

You have a simple choice: this man or your friends.
Only you can decide which means more to you.

chaosrabbitland

You are so uninformed about Lozza. 'He speaks his mind' my arse.

He objected to the film 1917 because it had a Sikh in it and it 'distracted' him. Funny that... given that thousands of them fought on our side in the War.

Depends what his views on BLM are.

Option 1: "I think that black lives do matter, institutional racism is wrong, and I entirely support investigations and changes to address systemic racism. I also have concerns about some of the manifesto pledges that the organisation BLM have, which are about fundamentally ripping up huge sections of society"

Option 2: "Enough about black lives matter, ALL lives matter. Look at what's wrong with this country. As if you get called racist for thinking that all lives matter."

Option 1 is unlikely to be viewed as a concern, even by people who are of differing political views.
Option 2 is likely to be viewed as "this person id a raging racist" by people within the mainstream of most political parties.

Oh God, you're not giving the risible Lozza Fox a go, are you?

Is it Nigel Farage?
This is the first person I thought of after reading the op's op

@chaosrabbitland - Lozza love - get off Mumsnet - you're embarrassing yourself!

Haha Im laughing so much at this now....the fiancee is apparently and enemy of all that is woke.

Me too, it irritiates me , some of it, bit of a bandwagon. However at the same time I despise racism.

Are you marrying Samuel Kasumu?

Farage

You need to educate yourself and work out what you think about things. Maybe you agree with him in which case you should feel more comfortable with choosing him over your friends.
While it's not mandatory for couples to have the same ideology, most people have topics that they can't compromise on even if they believe in free speech. Your cagey posts suggest that his views are more extreme than you say. Good friends would be horrified and intelligent people wouldn't pretend that political views go over their heads.
Your future children will face the same ostracization when their friends parents realise that you're married to him. I wouldn't put my kids into the position of having to defend me or their Dad's views tbh I can see why your friends would rather end the friendship than pretend your partner's views aren't abhorrent to them.

If he doesn't agree with the BLM movement and you're marrying him then I'd cut you off too.

I'm definitely going to be looking out for all the sleb weddings in December now ...

Anyone remember the time Lawrence Fox sang live on Jeremy Vine?

m.youtube.com/watch?v=BLkvtHwSyM4

I would love this to be real. I can't imagine anyone close to a celebrity, no matter which list, posting this on a public forum. Not unless details were deliberately misleading, eg there is no wedding and it wasn't about BLM it was about womens rights.

There's just no way someone would post the correct details involving a 'known' person and leave the remotest possibility of figuring out who it is.

Llyn I was going to link it, but thought the torture might be too much!

It will be a very small slab wedding, Fleeywood, Foxy has no friends and even some of his own family aren't keen.

Welcome to the new totalitarian state. Don't you know you can only think the societal accepted views!
Anything else; brexit, questioning 'me too' and its links to the multi million pound dating industry, believing oil based resistant materials (plastic) are not all evil and are actually a big part of female liberation, GC.... I miss a time when we were allowed to debate.
Now you're told the 'set view' and god forbid if you detract from it or even debate it. Socially ostracized, sacked never to work again, and those who cut you off, feel very superior as they throw you to the proverbial gutter.
They should look up the definition of bigot: someone who will not accept any opinions other than their own, and take a long look at themselves.

Sorry Roussette, I couldn’t help myself

🤣😂
I really needed to look at it again. And yes it is as horrific as I remembered.
The guitarist is trying to go onto another astral plane somehow !

My money goes on Laurence Fox as can't think of any other 'celeb' (loose term) that is as closely linked to anti BLM and lockdown controversy than he is.

He is an abhorrent man.

I've always said he seems to have a very overfamiliar relationship with his cousin Emilia Fox on Gogglebox too...they're almost flirtatious...makes me shudder.

Please, don't do it OP...

I'd love to see the Venn diagram for the people who use the term "woke" alongside the ones who don't believe racism is a thing.