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To think 'celebrating your curves' is becoming a worrying trend?

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Freesunglasses · 01/05/2021 19:41

So many of my overweight 'friends' on facebook are joining in the whole "I'm embracing my curves and loving this body, every inch"
The thing is they are Obese, not use a little overyweight but really fat. The more people see and read things like this the more it will become normalised.

Worrying times ahead I think. We're going to be a very fat country in the not too distant future.
I know it's hard to lose weight. I know lockdown has made lots put weight, I'm a little overweight myself but I will never say I'm happy with it because I'm not! I like being thin, I want to be thin.

For the love of God stop normalising and celebrating obesity.

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EmeraldShamrock · 01/05/2021 21:08

@Mylittlesandwich You're dead right.
We shouldn’t be encouraging anyone to love an overweight body, we should be encouraging them to lose the weight and become healthy.
There are many reasons people are overweight, do they not deserve to be loved or feel good or be happy, the body is a shell but there is a person just as valuable as anyone else under the skin.
I know some truly beautiful caring considerate ladies who happen to be overweight I happily love them and hope they love themselves.

Echobelly · 01/05/2021 21:10

As others have said, shaming hasn't worked very well as a weight-control measure really.

I see body positivity as a bit like this (very positive I think) trend for manufacturers to show sportswear on larger women. It doesn't 'encourage women to be overweight', rather it welcomes women of all sizes. I was searching online for some sportswear just last night and was pleased a lot of plus size models showed up in the searches, it helps people not to feel excluded by health and fitness, the same way body positive helps women to feel excluded by happiness and self worth, as so many messages tell them they 'should be' because of their weight.

BrilliantBetty · 01/05/2021 21:11

It's so weird. As a slim person I'd never post about how happy I am with every inch of my body.. i'm going to love myself etc.

Fair enough if people feel that way but all the guff about it on social media is just annoying and unnecessary.

LolaSmiles · 01/05/2021 21:12

Fair enough if people feel that way but all the guff about it on social media is just annoying and unnecessary
You're right. If people are so happy with their bodies why do they need a nice shiny gold star and "you go hun! Gorjusss❤🧡💛💚💙💜" comments for telling the world that they are happy with their body?

NeilBuchananisBanksy · 01/05/2021 21:14

There is a real trend on here to call people out as fat shaming as a way of closing down any debate. It's extremely frustrating.

I agree with you op. People die from obesity. People also die from anorexia. We need to tackle the images in magazines and SM where they are airbrushed to make them thinner/flawless. We don't need to go so far the other way as to embrace obesity in the way that's being portrayed either.

Brigleylake · 01/05/2021 21:16

Who needs enemies with friends like you OP.

Mind your bloody own!

foodtoorder · 01/05/2021 21:17

There is a difference in embracing curves and saying it's ok to be fat.
Embracing curves to me means that people are accepting who they are, not apologising for not being their ideal weight and taking the oh so soul destroying feelings of not being good enough because they're not "thin" or what society expects women to be.

PanamaPattie · 01/05/2021 21:18

Bored on a Saturday night?

EmeraldShamrock · 01/05/2021 21:21

You're right. If people are so happy with their bodies why do they need a nice shiny gold star and "you go hun! Gorjusss❤🧡💛💚💙💜" comments for telling the world that they are happy with their body?
That is not exclusive to overweight women it's bloody everyone, my niece's friends constantly comment on each other.
Anyone who puts up a glam photo gets this guff, it has nothing to do with their size.
My pet hate is photos who look nothing like the person in RL with so many filters new nose, bigger eyes, pouty lips and people comment you're gorgeous, yes well it's not actually their real face.

Rubyrecka · 01/05/2021 21:21

@CoastAlong

What a horrible post.
Why is it horrible?
ClarkeGriffin · 01/05/2021 21:21

@Wearywithteens

Here we go - the holier than thou crowd talking about ‘health’ when it’s just an nasty excuse to spew their hatred and judgement of women who are overweight. Shame on you. You might have the perfect figure but you still need to work on the inner ugliness.
Nope you're wrong. I'm actually 3 stone overweight. Would also say the same thing about celebrating anorexia. It's not healthy. Saying it's great is the wrong thing to be doing because it isnt. There are better ways to achieve healthiness.
Sidesaladofchips · 01/05/2021 21:26

Nasty post. Fatties can lose weight. Bitches will always be bitches.

Rubyrecka · 01/05/2021 21:27

I think it's great that people are happy with themselves as they are. But let's not ignore the fact that there are inherent health risks with obesity which i would suggest conflicts with the self love concept.

Cleverpolly3 · 01/05/2021 21:30

@Sidesaladofchips

Nasty post. Fatties can lose weight. Bitches will always be bitches.
Given the valid point you’re making I think “fatties” was an unfortunate choice of adjective though I think you’re being derisory of those that view overweight people as that
RogueMNerKnowsNoShame · 01/05/2021 21:31

Totally agree with the posters saying that your friends need a better friend.

Magnificentmug12 · 01/05/2021 21:33

There is a difference between being curvy and being fat. Unfortunately people are forgetting that.
Being over weight is not curvy if you have rolls of fat, it’s fat/overweight/obese.

I’m curvy-, I’m about 10 pounds over weight.

bakingdemon · 01/05/2021 21:36

Agree with you.

DRGT · 01/05/2021 21:39

Whereas normalising and celebrating other body types and sizes (e.g thin) is acceptable?

Smelborp · 01/05/2021 21:42

Interesting that you say you want to be thin and you like it, rather than liking being healthy.

Why shouldn’t your friends love their bodies? Do you think being filled with self loathing would help them get healthier faster?

DeeCeeCherry · 01/05/2021 21:44

No I don't think it is becoming a trend.

It's just another stick for women to beat other women with really. It's easy to get away with having a go at overweight women, after all.

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 01/05/2021 21:45

If I thought any 'friend' of mine was judging my photos on Facebook they would quickly be blocked and unfriended.

ghostyslovesheets · 01/05/2021 21:45

fuck me what is wrong with people accepting themselves and liking themselves - surely that's the first step to change - if they want to.

I HATE the obsession with thin = healthy it's so fucking toxic and wrong

I was a size 4 - I was anorexic and chain smoked

Now I am bigger - way bigger but I don;t smoke, I eat healthily and exercise very regularly

I am fitter now - but people like you OP would applaud the anorexic smoker and chastise the fat runner

so yeah - that toxic bollox can do one

LolaSmiles · 01/05/2021 21:52

That is not exclusive to overweight women it's bloody everyone, my niece's friends constantly comment on each other.
Anyone who puts up a glam photo gets this guff, it has nothing to do with their size.
My pet hate is photos who look nothing like the person in RL with so many filters new nose, bigger eyes, pouty lips and people comment you're gorgeous, yes well it's not actually their real face.
I agree with you on the filters and that those comments are made on other photos, it's more than people posting "I want to tell the world how I'm loving my curves and am totally happy with my body. Isn’t this empowering?" don't seem the actions of a person who is genuinely comfortable in their own skin. If they loved their bodies and were comfortable then they wouldn't be posting things like that with the hope of getting those "aww hun you're so beautiful" comments.

Whilst it's dressed up as being confident the "i love my curves, let me shout it to you all" is in many ways just as insecure as those who do endless filters, or worse the whole face of makeup designed to look like no make up with an apparently self deprecating caption about looking natural today but feeling super tired.

In my experience the people who are genuinely content in their own skin tend not to post things about their appearance or fishing for compliments on their appearance.

KilljoysDutch · 01/05/2021 21:52

You know all the body positivity stuff really helps me feel better about the weight I gained when I was put on tablets to stop me killing myself, the weight I gained and can not lose while saving my own life. I can't lose the weight it's nearly impossible while on the pills I'm on - trust me I've tried and I eat far less than my size 6 daughter. If the body positivity movement means people like me and those who are obese due to physical disabilities retain a little bit of self respect then that can only be a good thing.

EmeraldShamrock · 01/05/2021 21:54

I HATE the obsession with thin = healthy it's so fucking toxic and wrong.
There's no right or wrong.
Healthy living is just another way some people like to live. No-one should be judged or hated for their lifestyle choices whether they enjoy fitness or don't.
I'm all for not passing comments on someone's lifestyle but it works both ways.
I eat healthy foods because I genuinely enjoy it and it makes me feel good.