To think 'celebrating your curves' is becoming a worrying trend?

[Freesunglasses]

So many of my overweight 'friends' on facebook are joining in the whole "I'm embracing my curves and loving this body, every inch"
The thing is they are Obese, not use a little overyweight but really fat. The more people see and read things like this the more it will become normalised.

Worrying times ahead I think. We're going to be a very fat country in the not too distant future.
I know it's hard to lose weight. I know lockdown has made lots put weight, I'm a little overweight myself but I will never say I'm happy with it because I'm not! I like being thin, I want to be thin.

For the love of God stop normalising and celebrating obesity.

@Tootsey11

It is not healthy to be too fat or too thin.

Why is it so bad to talk about either.

But noone ever celebrsted being too thin that I know of. Noone says 'look at my skelatol frame, isn't it gorgeous' They'd be told to see a doctor.

Another thread on obesity...3rd one in 24 hours...something very strange going on here I think

I understand what you mean in "celebrating" your curves. Mainly because "curves" are being used to describe someone clinically obese these days. But it is a direct reaction towards people being made to feel sub-human if they are large.

It's toxic at both ends and people should focus on health. Size comes as a result of good health. Not being too large or too small.

I follow a certain plus-sized incluencer. She's not an influencer for her size but will sometimes mention brands that fit her shape nicely, so I guess she has a lot of plus sized followers. Recently, she has gotten into fitness and posts frequently about excercise, etc. Some of the comments about her being a supposed sellout and embarrassment are just ridiculous.

But noone ever celebrsted being too thin that I know of. Noone says 'look at my skelatol frame, isn't it gorgeous

We’re you asleep though the 90s and 00s?

@Mousetown

But noone ever celebrsted being too thin that I know of. Noone says 'look at my skelatol frame, isn't it gorgeous

We’re you asleep though the 90s and 00s?

No but we're in 2021. in the nineties obesity was very rare.

Oh good another fat shaming post, haven't had one of those for at least a day

@Freesunglasses Well then it's fakseto say nobody ever celebrated being too thin as it's sinply not true.

*false to

I am overweight, by about 2.5 stone. It’s due largely to shitty hormonal conditions and ten years of failed fertility treatment. But it doesn’t matter why. I am trying to lose it. But I don’t see why I should spend all my time hating myself and my body. It’s done a great job at keeping me alive. I enjoy the life I live in my body, and the amazing things it can do. I like dressing it stylishly, and enjoy the fact that I’m sexy and desirable in this body.

Should I hate myself instead? Will that make me lose weight quicker? Or will it just make me miserable and more likely to seek solace in cake?

Body positivity is good - it makes people value and appreciate the things their bodies can do. Don’t you think that makes people more likely to want to take care of themselves and be healthy (which is not the same as being thin)?

Fat people know they’re fat. They don’t need people like you trying to shame them into ‘doing better’.

Yes, being obese is unhealthy. But that doesn't mean they aren't allowed to be into fashion or feeling positive about how they LOOK. It doesn't make them healthier, but it maybe makes them happier and better adjusted, which may make them healthier in the long run.

YABU

I have a thyroid problem too (I don’t have one) so losing weight is a battle. I’m also curvy and no matter what weight I am I still have huge boobs/bum/a tummy as I’ve had 4 kids. Hating myself isn’t going to help me lose weight, I think just being confident in who you are and loving yourself despite your size is a good start to getting healthy and staying that way. Posts like this aren’t really helping. Also not everyone wants to be thin, I don’t my mum was v thin, naturally which is great for her. But my sister and I (no thyroid there either) aren’t and never will be.

@QueenPaw indeed but she has a voice and it's dangerous . She is very overweight but hard to see because she is hourglass .

It’s ok OP, they do know they’re obese. The whole of society is ramming home how ashamed they should be, they don’t need you wringing your hands about them being unashamed.

So many people are on here saying you’re vile but actually I don’t think you’re rude that’s not how it came across to me.

Obesity isn’t healthy. I don’t think obese people should be shamed though because as PP said that just creates more issues in the long term, but at the same time it shouldn’t be glamorised so if that’s what is happening then I agree. I think people should be encouraged to lose weight without shaming or hating themselves.

I see so much glamorising on SM though, along with memes such as ‘only a dog wants a bone’ bringing down slimmer people to feel better. Both are wrong.

I don’t see what is so vile about what you’ve said although I realise I’ll probably be flamed for agreeing.

I'm all for body positivity and for less focus on bodies / appearance in general.

However, I have seen some of what the OP is referring to. Is anybody familiar with the American model / influencer Tess Holliday? She is an undeniably beautiful woman but she is morbidly obese. She insists she's healthy but she just can't be. She revels in her weight and preaches about how happy and healthy and successful she is and gets into vicious online fights with people who comment unfavourably on her weight.,,,Which, yes, they shouldn't be doing. However, it is very hard to see this woman (who has young kids) glorifying being this size and insisting that she is healthy.

She says she loves her body and being this weight and that she will never diet and really labours the point. However, I am convinced that at some point she is going to lose a whole load of weight and admit that she was previously in denial. But how much damage could she have potentially done to other young girls by then? Young girls who don't have the money and means to then lose the weight.

Heaven forbid someone larger than you catch some good feelings about themselves, huh?

Burn them at the stake immediately for the sheer temerity!

I think it is worrying. I’m overweight, am not happy about that, but feel neither “shamed” nor motivated to do much about it, because I’m still one of the slimmer ones compared to others. I don’t think we should go back to the old days of sizes stopping at 14 (and with vanity sizing - how thin did people used to be?) but it is much easier to not feel like an outsider as an overweight person these days, because it’s not considered out of the norm.

No but we're in 2021. in the nineties obesity was very rare.

15% in 1993

www.kingsfund.org.uk/projects/time-think-differently/trends-healthy-behaviours-obesity

But noone ever celebrsted being too thin that I know of. Noone says 'look at my skelatol frame, isn't it gorgeous'

Didn’t they? So all this Air brushing in magazines of literal perfect bodies with women on them with their ribs showing isn’t too thin? Being slim is shoved down girls Necks from a young age that they must be slim to be beautiful and then we wonder why we are in an eating disorder crisis- we are normalising all that is not healthy and wondering why the issues arise.

You sound like a lovely friend...

I don’t think fat is being normalised at all, just look at all the vile comments and jokes under pictures of overweight/obese people.
There are so many reasons why somebody might be the weight that they are, big or small, but each of us have a right to feel good about ourselves.

I admire those who embrace their bodies because I’ve never felt comfortable enough to accept and embrace my own.

People can’t win, really.

I really don't think the hierarchy of body shapes is challenged by celebrating curves.

For my entire 50+ years, the rest of the world has always made it very, very plain where us fatties sit in relationship to everyone else. On a daily basis. In so many different ways, covert and explicit.

The celebrating curves stuff is just a few crumbs of comfort to bolster our battered self esteem. You'd really begrudge us that?

OP, obesity really wasn't rare in the 90s...it's not that long ago!

Ok hun

I’m assuming you don’t drink, smoke, eat processed food, refined sugar, that you exercise 5x a week etc.

If you’re perfect and living in a fuck off amazing shiny glass house then more power to you. And you may sit in judgement.

But most people make many lifestyles choices which have potentially harmful consequences. Food is just one of them.

Embracing and loving your body is not only allowed by people of average or smaller size.
Shock horror you can be fat and still love and respect yourself.

You need to stop equating thin with healthy. Then doesn’t mean automatic health.

I know thin ppl who have heart attacks, thin people who have died of cancer, thin people who have serious mental health issues. And the list goes on.

Poor diet choices can lead to serious illness but poor diet choices aren’t limited to fat people. There are many many thin people who eat absolute trash. They just hide it behind fast metabolisms and genetics.

Whilst I’m sure your view on it is not coming
From a place of hate or purposeful ignorance, it is extremely ignorant.

What you are saying is fat = shameful and not worthy of self love. Which is just UGH. It’s a disgusting attitude

OP I bet you my bottom dollar that the only people voting "YABU" are themselves overweight.

I love my body and celebrate it as it is....doesn't mean I'm not trying to lose weight, just means I don't hate myself while I'm doing it!