To think 'celebrating your curves' is becoming a worrying trend?

[Freesunglasses]

So many of my overweight 'friends' on facebook are joining in the whole "I'm embracing my curves and loving this body, every inch"
The thing is they are Obese, not use a little overyweight but really fat. The more people see and read things like this the more it will become normalised.

Worrying times ahead I think. We're going to be a very fat country in the not too distant future.
I know it's hard to lose weight. I know lockdown has made lots put weight, I'm a little overweight myself but I will never say I'm happy with it because I'm not! I like being thin, I want to be thin.

For the love of God stop normalising and celebrating obesity.

It's about positive body image. I'm obese. Im exercising more and trying to loose weight BUT I love me and try to find clothes that suit me. I spent year loathing myself, yo yo weight. I'm semi content being me as I'd like to loose some weight but I'm generally happy and positive about myself

Meh. I'm quite a bit overweight at the moment. I've been steadily losing weight (slowly but always going in the right direction) since I started embracing and loving my body, curves, rolls, and all. Very hard to care for your body and treat it well when you hate it.

If you mean size 12 curvy than yabu. Obesity is different but I don't know any obese people doing that.

@PinkArt

You're right OP. How dare they not only not hate themselves like they should, but voice that in public. Us fatties should hide our shameful forms in a dark room, beating ourselves with sticks and screaming 'I'm so gross' at ourselves.

I didn't say 'fatties' should hate themselves did I?

But you don't want "fatties" to feel good about themselves. And definitely not publicly. So what's left to them but to hate themselves?

It's sad you want your friends to be unhappy. I hope they drop you

There is a point to this really.

No person should be shamed for being fat. But there's the obvious health benefits of being a healthy weight. Less likely to have joint pain, less likely to have heart attacks, less likely to have cancer, generally easier to have children, more likely to live longer. You don't see many very old people who are fat. There's a reason for that.

People are a lot more sedate than they used to be, let's face it. And we are going in the right direction to end up like those people in wall-e. It's sad really.

Again, no one should be shamed for being fat. But I have seen blogs, articles etc that basically encourage people to become overweight. And it only seems to encourage women, saying that some men love the extra curves, that slimmer women aren't real women. But no one says that about overweight men. They are just unwanted by everyone. It's a matter of not hurting people's feelings, but also not encouraging it because it's not healthy. Encouraging is telling people it is healthy. That's not what you want.

Nobody is fat. Everyone has fat but it isn’t what defines them.

Out of curiosity, do you have the weight in which I should stop being comfortable in my own skin and instead start wasting my one life being miserable because I have a wobbly bit.

Im fat myself and I agree. It's nothing to aspire to and I'm working on changing it.
My dds got me into tiktok of all things, it's a mixed, media platform but a lot of kids go on there. There's celebrating body positivity fine. But young women and teenagers who are easily a size thirty claiming they're healthy and encouraging that lifestyle aren't celberating a healthy lifestyle. They want you to join the club and feel as shit as they do.

Oh for goodness sake. Stop being so defensive. It is not a good thing being fat. That's not to say you should be ashamed of your body; and yes we should absolutely celebrate every shape, but not every size and not being fat. We're already much, much bigger on average than we were a couple of generations ago, and before anyone starts spouting bollocks about better nutrition, I'm talking about being unhealthily bigger, overweight and obese, which should not be celebrated.

Yanbu. And I'm a size 16 and 5'7 and have been told by dr I'm obese. It would be stupid of me to embrace my obese arse I need to loose weight.

Being slim is shoved down girls Necks from a young age that they must be slim to be beautiful and then we wonder why we are in an eating disorder crisis

Do we though? Because I finished secondary 4 years ago and was called lanky, flat, little boy, tranny etc.

Maybe 10-20 years ago but the trend now is very much curvy/thick. I ate huge portions to try and gain weight.

Some people do still suffer so I don't want to gloss over that, but thin is most definitely not in anymore.

You can love your body but let’s me honest being obese is not healthy, the government have already stated that we have a problem with obesity, this also puts extra pressure on the NHS.

As an anorexic in recovery I think YABVU please do not fat shame others.

Fat shaming doesn't make people thin. The body positivity stuff is quite recent and before that, people were shamed horribly for being overweight. And guess what - people are larger than ever! So maybe, just maybe, encouraging good self-esteem, self-care and respect for everyone is a GOOD thing. When people feel good about themselves, they take better care of themselves. Acting disgusted and implying fat people shouldn't dare to like themselves is a nasty attitude to have. And of course thin people are celebrated: all the time and very obviously. You are either being goady or wilfully ignorant on that front.

@Freesunglasses You don't want your 'friends' to feel good about their bodies and to feel happy to say that in public because you don't think how they are should be celebrated. So if you don't want them to hate their bodies what is acceptable to you? Can they like how they look so long as they don't tell anyone they do?! Or is even that too much until they lose some weight?
If you can't be happy that they are happy in themselves, do them a favour and just unfriend.

I think it is helpful as lots of binge eating comes from a place of distress or hurt after a bad comment, promoting body positivity will help put things in perspective and helps toughen up against body comments which do happen without invite.
Hiding away is not going to make obesity disappear and it's a waste of a good life hiding in shame.

YANBU. It’s all this body positivity bollocks.

We shouldn’t be encouraging anyone to love an overweight body, we should be encouraging them to lose the weight and become healthy.

So many “fat people shouldn’t be shamed but…” posts.

When people stop smoking, drinking to excess, driving over the speed limit, partaking in potentially dangerous sports and activities, cheer the fuck up (cos that’s all it takes, yeah?) then you can talk about how you worry about the cost to the nhs.

So many studies highlight obesity is a highly complex issue, often genetic and more than just calories in v calories out but you’d never know that by the way people go on and on about fat people and how they should be ashamed.

Like you said, you're overweight yourself.

Focus on yourself and let your friend's do the same.

I would never post about it because of reactions like these but I think the Bopo movement can be a good thing. I'm very overweight at the moment. The heaviest I've ever been but hating myself won't fix that. Instead I've chosen to make peace with myself, wear the clothes I like and do the things I want to because my mental health has a huge impact on my physical health. It was a very nasty period of PND that contributed to my current size. I know that getting out and being confident will naturally have a positive impact on my weight.

I'm all for feeling good about yourselves and think that being comfortable in your own skin is better than deep self-hatred, but find the "i love my curves" statements often nothing more than euphemisms from people who typically spend half their life talking about one diet or another.

The genuinely curvy women I know who embrace their curvy figures aren't the ones repeatedly drawing attention to how much they love their curvy figures. Actually, the women I know who embrace their figures (of all shapes and sizes) don't tend to spend their time telling everyone how much they love their bodies. I suspect they're too busy being comfortable in themselves to be on social media making sure everyone knows how happy they are about something they're content with.

@Wearywithteens

Here we go - the holier than thou crowd talking about ‘health’ when it’s just an nasty excuse to spew their hatred and judgement of women who are overweight. Shame on you. You might have the perfect figure but you still need to work on the inner ugliness.

This is just utter crap though. You don't know the size and weight of posters agreeing with OP. I'm currently overweight and have no issue with body positivity for the right reasons but do think celebrating something unhealthy is wrong. Whether that be overweight or underweight.

But the love your curves moment is doing exactly the same as the glamour or runway fashion industry. It’s just boiling women down to attractive/ non attractive again.

What does thin or fat really got to happy or sexy or attractive? Bugger all aside from whichever objectified viewpoint society is taking today,.

However thinner is healthier than fatter, in the same way non smoker is healthier than a smoker. Maybe smokers look cool or maybe they look grim but they’ve been portrayed as both. It’s not about looks it’s about health.Of course we don’t need to judge smokers or be or make rude comments about what they put into their mouths but smokers also know they aren’t doing themselves any favours.