Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 ··· 5 6 7 8 9 10

Original poster

Neighbour’s parasol overhangs our garden

244 replies

ToxicNextDoor · 01/05/2021 15:00

My neighbour has a wall mounted umbrella. I haven’t seen it being used until today but have noticed it totally overhangs our garden.

Really pissed off tbh, it’s bad enough that they’re always in their garden (think all day every day at the weekend, hot tub etc). It just looks awful and feels like a massive encroachment on our personal space.

I really don’t want to fall out with her as she’s a generally a good neighbour otherwise. I’m so surprised she thinks this is ok though, I wouldn’t dream of doing similar!

OP posts:

getyourfreakon · 01/05/2021 23:15

That'd be me up on tippy toes pushing it back over with my finger tips (vertically challenged). Long history of neighbours encroaching

GreenTeaPingPong · 01/05/2021 23:26

YABU to complain about it here but not ask them politely to move it. You're obviously well within your rights to ask that their structure should not overhang your garden. Perhaps they don't realise it's overhanging. Just talk to them.

ssd · 01/05/2021 23:30

That would annoy me too @ToxicNextDoor

Haudyourwheesht · 01/05/2021 23:34

Do you use words to insult people that are really about you?

What? Sorry, I don't understand your question.

3Britnee · 01/05/2021 23:37

@ToxicNextDoor

The sun comes from the left so I can see why she has it like that and I think it also gives them a bit of privacy for the hot tub. It obviously won’t be up all the time....what I really want to know is of this were your garden would it annoy you too?

No. This is petty considering it only hangs over a storage space, not your seating area.

GreyhoundG1rl · 01/05/2021 23:38

@Haudyourwheesht

Do you use words to insult people that are really about you?

What? Sorry, I don't understand your question.

It's a simple enough question.

AlwaysLatte · 01/05/2021 23:40

Yes that would annoy me. But I'd say in a very nice friendly voice after a bit of a pleasant chat, 'hey would you mind moving the parasol a bit as it's in our garden' and move on to a compliment about their geraniums or something. Most people soften with a praise sandwich.

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 01/05/2021 23:55

Looks like the perfect place for a barbecue, that.

BeaLola · 02/05/2021 00:26

Your garden - that's the point

All the posters saying it's only a storage area - that's not the point

You've mentioned it now , hopefully it will move , just sort the trellis and a nice climber and you're good to go

echt · 02/05/2021 03:18

A tree is one thing, and can be trimmed back accordingly, this is garden furniture.

Show her the photo.

Don't offer excuses about shading, plants, yada yada. Say it's over the fence, please move it.

Ijustknowitstimetogo · 02/05/2021 03:35

Yes that would annoy me a bit. Sounds like she just didn’t realise.

earthyfire · 02/05/2021 04:40

Just tell them straight - please move your parasol it's in my garden.

Justa47 · 02/05/2021 05:12

@ToxicNextDoor

She should move it. They are doing it so that can do rude stuff in hot tub and have more privacy.
It’s a deliberate act. Did she ask if you minded?

Ask her to adjust it!

Posyc · 02/05/2021 06:56

I would hate that. And I can't understand all the people saying that maybe the neighbour hasn't noticed. Of course she has noticed! It doesn't matter if you only have storage underneath, it's your garden you can do what you like (so can she, so for goodness sake don't mention her being outside too much-) Your garden looks like mine. Quite overlooked and not a lot of space. You don't need it encroached in this way. Bet the people saying they wouldn't mind have massive gardens!

Jennifer2021 · 02/05/2021 06:57

If op says this, is it possible the neighbour would just adjust the height of the parasol to go above the trellis?

I would be straight with her op. Just say that her parasol is encroaching on your garden and needs to be moved. If she argues, just repeat

This I'm afraid. It may cause ill feeling but to hell with their cheeky fuckery. I had to be straight when mine decided to have an awning put up and just thought I'd be totally ago with a 6ft pole encroaching over my side (at best 5ft of it). She thought I'd be okay with it because 'I don't use that but anyway'. it's my flowerbed!

Maddox33 · 02/05/2021 06:58

I really don't understand your anger at the neighbours using their garden all day, every day. What on earth is the problem with that?

As for the parasol, all you have to say is that she'll need to move it so that it doesn't hang over your garden. It's not like they've added a raised verandah overlooking your garden, or planted some Japanese knotwood, it's a flipping umbrella!

HintOfVintagePink · 02/05/2021 07:02

Yanbu unreasonable about the parasol.

Slightly off the point, but if a neighbour put up trellis on a boundary fence and grew climbers up it, I’d be quite annoyed if those climbers came through the trellis substantially enough to effectively be in my garden. Do bear that in mind!

I’ve avoided planting climbers against one of our fences with a trellis top panel for that exact reason. Why should by neighbour have plants in their garden they don’t necessarily want.

Aleric · 02/05/2021 07:04

Yes that is a piss take. It's properly in your garden and no way does she not realise!

HintOfVintagePink · 02/05/2021 07:10

*my

longwayoff · 02/05/2021 07:12

It wouldn't bother me at all as I wouldn't choose to sit by the drains. However, your choice. Just ask neighbour to move it.

TokyoSushi · 02/05/2021 07:27

Yes that would annoy me, it must swing otherwise how does she get it down? (Not RTFT!)

itsgettingwierd · 02/05/2021 07:29

@ToxicNextDoor

Just realised we have trellis to put up along there anyway which dp was supposed to do about two years ago 🙄

Funnily enough after seeing the photos I was going to ask if you could put up trellis!

Is just tell bright out politely she needs to move her parasol by x date as it over hangs your garden and you're putting up trellis.

No asking and no moaning and it doesn't open up any discussion about how you should ignore it.

TirisfalPumpkin · 02/05/2021 07:31

I heard you could clip back overhanging tree growth but you have to throw the wood over the fence so they can have use of it. I wonder if that also applies to parasols.

Brownteddybear · 02/05/2021 07:36

YANBU OP this is so inconsiderate and I can't believe she isn't aware it's encroaching on your space. Don't make excuses about sun/plants needing light just ask them to move it off your space.

I understand what you mean about neighbours being out in their garden all day every day; it can be quite wearing when you just want some time to yourself once in a while (and are prepared to reciprocate).

Good luck!

ittakes2 · 02/05/2021 07:37

Gosh that is so rude of her - she could have bought one which tilted so it didn't go into your garden!

Flip

1 2 ··· 5 6 7 8 9 10