Neighbour’s parasol overhangs our garden

[ToxicNextDoor]

My neighbour has a wall mounted umbrella. I haven’t seen it being used until today but have noticed it totally overhangs our garden.

Really pissed off tbh, it’s bad enough that they’re always in their garden (think all day every day at the weekend, hot tub etc). It just looks awful and feels like a massive encroachment on our personal space.

I really don’t want to fall out with her as she’s a generally a good neighbour otherwise. I’m so surprised she thinks this is ok though, I wouldn’t dream of doing similar!

I’d get the hose onto your plant next to the fence

@Lipz

This is your space. It doesn't matter if you use it to store or sit, it's your space.

The overhang is not small. It's clearly shading your garden.

Those parasols are not very high, do you hit off it when walking past.

So they've a hot tub there? Right under your window? That must be painful to listen to.

You have a few suggestions including saying it to them, but I think they know it hangs over, where do they think the other half of their umbrella has gone? I like the Bbq idea especially if it's a disposable one, lots of smoke and if you cook potato skins it smells like dead bodies. Or hang some bird feeders or throw some loose seeds on top, you'll get plenty of bird shit on it.

Love your creativity 👏🤣

Oh God, it’s covering a hot tub? Right up against the fence? ☹️

Unfortunately, yes

billy1966
Lipz

Love your creativity 👏🤣

All tried and tested 😁😁😁😁😁 I've arsehole neighbours too.

Have just sent this message. Hope it doesn’t come across as rude? The parasol may genuinely be in a temporary position 🤞

Just noticed your parasol is overhanging our garden, is it supposed to be like that? x

nice cover for your barbecue underneath
on the plus side, does it save you from full on views of them frolicking in the hot tub from upstairs?

What if they say “Yes, it is”?

Get a grip

Garden boundary law (yes, I've looked all this stuff up because I too have toxic neighbours whose enjoyment of outdoor space generally means screaming kids, paddling pools flooding our garden, loud music, barking dogs, and plants overhanging the fence, sometimes deliberately), says that your boundary includes the space above it.

In your case, it would annoy me looking out the window seeing an intrusion into your space, plus any blocking of light. Our idiot next door spent hours last summer constantly repositioning a very large stand alone umbrella that kept being blown so that almost a full half of it was overhanging our fence. She even went out and left it overhanging, so I gave it a good shove back over. Now I notice she's got another one on the deck at the bottom that overhangs the other neighbours fence right next to their gate. Always amazed at what people consider 'neighbourly' behaviour.

Can it be discreetly moved or rotated back over their side? Otherwise, gonna have to have 'the talk' and feel like a stick up arse dick, but really its the 'can't see past end of nose' people that are dicks.

I feel your pain OP mine also has a hot tub next to the boundary fence. It's sponsored by alcohol and late night shenanigans and is housed in what I can only describe as a massive shed which is at least 3ft higher than the fence cemented in and looks right into my garden.

What's the plan if she she says, "yes it is we couldn't find a half parasol sorry"? Why not just be direct and ask her to move it?!

How about you putting one up further down and let it overhang her garden. Might make her get the message.

From your picture it doesn’t look like you have a large garden. If it was wide and perhaps half an acre and the parasol was hidden down the bottom of the garden behind a tree or something I’d probably let it go but as it is I don’t understand anyone who would do this and think it was ok. Hopefully they’ll move it now you’ve mentioned it them OP.

OP, all you needed to say was:

"Hi - like the new parasol. But it's overhanging our garden a bit so would you mind moving it please so that it doesn't. Thanks a lot."

Your message - Is it meant to be like that? - comes across as passive aggressive.

Do you generally get on ok with her ? I’d leave it if so as getting on with neighbours is something not to be taken for granted

Below the parasol is the only possible place you can put one of these
justkidding

I think if they were generally nice I would have knocked and just mentioned it rather than sending a message tbh.

Hi. I would also say, in a note, that you intend to put up a trellis. You have already purchased! But haven’t got round to putting it up.

Does it just need spinning round so the straight bit is in line with your fence rather the land the pointy bit overhanging?

Does it spin ?

She actually had a half parasol last year so I’ve no idea what’s happened to that 🤷🏻‍♀️ The hot tub doesn’t bother me too much, they are genuinely very quiet, I don’t think they drink and it’s most definitely not a sex pond 😆

I have to say the parasol is definitely very odd behaviour on her part especially as she already knows my neighbour on the other side has major boundary issues.

Every so often she gets a bit like this, she once pruned a plant in my garden by reaching through the trellis while I was in the garden, she said something about it pulling down the trellis (my trellis!), it was supposed to be climbing through it - I just ignored it as it seemed she must have known she was pushing the boundaries....I wonder if perhaps from time to time she feels a bit crappy and little passive aggressive gestures are a bit of an outlet

I have 3 kids (generally well behaved, not little shits) and neighbours on both sides are a round about my age with no kids so I suppose they’re most likely not ever going to have any. I can’t help but wonder if there’s some kind of hidden hatred/resentment of me because I have children. Just feel like they’re constantly trying to attention seek and push my buttons.

Is a half parasol a real thing? I assumed that was a joke?!
Wouldn’t a half parasol be a canopy?

It would annoy me every time I looked out.

@LobotomisedIceSkatingFan

That would annoy me. It's like when people lean against your parked car when chatting to someone in the street - it's not really hurting anyone but it's pretty frigging obnoxious.

This! It would definitely annoy me - it’s my garden, get your stuff out of it! 😁

And for those saying the neighbour may not have realised - WTF?!! How could you not notice unless you’re a complete obnoxious dick who wouldn’t care what their neighbours thought anyway.

That message wasn’t great - what are you going to do if she says ‘yes’