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Neighbour’s parasol overhangs our garden

244 replies

ToxicNextDoor · 01/05/2021 15:00

My neighbour has a wall mounted umbrella. I haven’t seen it being used until today but have noticed it totally overhangs our garden.

Really pissed off tbh, it’s bad enough that they’re always in their garden (think all day every day at the weekend, hot tub etc). It just looks awful and feels like a massive encroachment on our personal space.

I really don’t want to fall out with her as she’s a generally a good neighbour otherwise. I’m so surprised she thinks this is ok though, I wouldn’t dream of doing similar!

OP posts:
GreyGoose1980 · 01/05/2021 18:29

Hi OP
It’s a bit annoying but if it was over an area I didn’t use I would probably ignore it. However if it really annoys you then just ask her to move it and as you plan to put trellis there.

WallaceinAnderland · 01/05/2021 18:30

That was a terrible message OP Grin

What if she just ignores it?

RedHelenB · 01/05/2021 18:31

Yabu not to politely ask them to move it as its bothering you, but it really wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

WallaceinAnderland · 01/05/2021 18:32

I'm amazed on these neighbour threads how many people have their neighbour's phone number.

Tistheseason17 · 01/05/2021 18:36

oh dear, that message...

Original poster
ToxicNextDoor · 01/05/2021 18:36

Have heard back from her and it is on a pivot, which is why I’ve never noticed it before....perhaps a tiny overhang but nothing like this. At least it’s not a permanent thing which was my worry.

Have reminded her about our plans for the trellis so hopefully that’ll give them some more privacy for the hot tub.

I think I’m a fairly considerate person myself. So when people do selfish things like that, I think I do have a tendency to think they’ve done it deliberately. Whereas in fact that just haven’t thought 🤔

OP posts:
TheGoodEnoughWife · 01/05/2021 18:38

Erm, is it just staying that way for now then? Have you replied and said something like 'that's nice, can you pivot it back to your own side'?

(Pivot! Pivot!)

GreyhoundG1rl · 01/05/2021 18:38

(Pivot! Pivot!)
😂

Haudyourwheesht · 01/05/2021 18:42

Jesus. So it's over a bit of your garden that you don't ever use? Why would it bother you? And those who are saying to cut it with hedge trimmers - what is wrong with you?! I feel (hope) this is a real life v Mumsnet scenario.

WallaceinAnderland · 01/05/2021 18:43

So is she going to move it?

GreyhoundG1rl · 01/05/2021 18:43

@Haudyourwheesht

Jesus. So it's over a bit of your garden that you don't ever use? Why would it bother you? And those who are saying to cut it with hedge trimmers - what is wrong with you?! I feel (hope) this is a real life v Mumsnet scenario.
Who said she doesn't use it? Why would that allow all comers to use it in her place, even if it were the case?
LadyWhistledownsQuill · 01/05/2021 18:44

I wish my life was so problem-free that this counted as a real issue!

user1471538283 · 01/05/2021 18:44

I would be cross. She knows it overhangs. Tell her to move it over

Butterflyfluff · 01/05/2021 18:44

The fact you couldn’t push it back implies they have fixed the pivot to overhang your garden

You need to reply back with ‘Ah, I see, could you pivot it back so it’s not over my garden please’

ilovesooty · 01/05/2021 18:45

@WallaceinAnderland

I'm amazed on these neighbour threads how many people have their neighbour's phone number.
I've got the next door neighbour's numbers both sides and they've got mine.
Blondiney · 01/05/2021 18:49

Set fire to it.

tootiredx1000 · 01/05/2021 18:55

Don't explain why you need her to move it, just say "you may not have realised but your umbrella is partially in our garden, can you please move it" That's it. No question or anything she can make a comment on. Be really firm and clear but polite. It's painful and awkward I know, but it is necessary!

GreyhoundG1rl · 01/05/2021 18:58

@tootiredx1000

Don't explain why you need her to move it, just say "you may not have realised but your umbrella is partially in our garden, can you please move it" That's it. No question or anything she can make a comment on. Be really firm and clear but polite. It's painful and awkward I know, but it is necessary!
This, but please; face to face this time?!
BluePeterVag · 01/05/2021 19:00

That would really annoy me. My neighbour once had their parasol overhanging our fence, for a very short time on one day, but it wasn’t as far as that and so I didn’t bother.

But this would annoy me. I wouldn’t make sure they move it by say “oh great, easy to adjust back away from our side. Thanks”

tommyhoundmum · 01/05/2021 19:02

I would find this irritating. If I did it, my nextdoor neighbours would be round in a deputation of at least 3.

Enough4me · 01/05/2021 19:12

OP, if she comes back with a vague response give her a deadline..."I need it moved in two days as my brother is popping over to assess the wall/ fence and he may pop trellis up that day".

Haudyourwheesht · 01/05/2021 19:13

Who said she doesn't use it?

The OP did. She said she only uses it for storage.

LobotomisedIceSkatingFan · 01/05/2021 19:13

@WallaceinAnderland

I'm amazed on these neighbour threads how many people have their neighbour's phone number.
Me too! I've lived in my 'close' all my life (40 years) and I don't think I've ever had anyone's mobile number. I know things have changed a bit but the number of threads that say 'Don't really know the neighbour on the other side - might say hello in passing . . . so I texted her' or 'We've had a few issues in the past; nothing major . . . anyway, I got a text from him on Monday' so even where relations aren't cordial or they're apparently non-existent, everyone has everyone's phone number.
RedHelenB · 01/05/2021 19:16

I get on with my neighbours but don't gave their phone nos. If anything needs saying then we knock on the door and surprise surprise we actually answer them too. My CF neighbour actually knocked and offered me the use of his skip as he hadn't quite filled it!!!

Lotusmonster · 01/05/2021 19:17

That’s not acceptable...even if they’re nice. You have to say something or agree it with them. I think they just need a smaller brolly tbh.

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