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To wonder what it is about “no overnight stays till 17 May” that is so hard to understand?

821 replies

HaveringWavering · 29/04/2021 16:22

So many colleagues and acquaintances merrily talking today about plans to go and stay with relatives for the bank holiday. Nobody has any shame. We’re waiting till the 17th. Does nobody care any more?

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Noshowlomo · 29/04/2021 17:28

Ah who cares...!

dootsnoot · 29/04/2021 17:28

If we were going by 'data not dates' as we were told would be the case, mixing indoors and overnight stays would be allowed.

So honestly, get stuffed! I haven't broken the rules as I'm heavily pregnant and just want to stay put at home for now, but I'm happy for other to do what they feel comfortable with now, for as long as the data continues looking good. I accept that if deaths start picking up again then we might have to take backwards steps, but with so many vaccinated and most scientists fairly convinced at this point that the vaccine is very effective, we must allow people all their basic freedoms again as soon as is possible.

BlaBlaSmthSmth · 29/04/2021 17:28

@shouldistop

My friend and her dad followed the rules for a year. He was shielding so they were very careful. In the end he died, not from Covid. He spent his entire last year miserable and then it wasn't Covid that killed him anyway.
This is devastating. How awful for your friend Thanks
Teateaandmoretea · 29/04/2021 17:29

whilst I agree that the lack of resilience in England has been an embarrassment, especially compared to other countries who did face real hardship, I honestly don't think there are many risks now.

We did face real hardship.

It’s lack of empathy I find truly embarrassing.

TheRavenNevermore · 29/04/2021 17:30

Some people are absolutely determined to squeeze the last bit of exquisite pleasure out of this whole business aren't they? They're going to follow those roolz if it bloody well kills them!
What are you going to do when there are no more rules, guidelines and opinions to follow? I think you're going to crack up and start drinking or something. Grin
And as for 'you can still transmit the virus even after you've been vaccinated' - is this not going to be always the case? There will always be someone unvaccinated. What shall we do about them? Lockdown forever? Some of you would bloody love that!

apooagnuandyou · 29/04/2021 17:30

Are you or your parents in a higher risk category?

Many reasons why people are missing on family, the borders are still closed for a start.

idrinkchocolatemilk · 29/04/2021 17:30

I could not give a shiny shite anymore, me and my loved ones are vaccinated so I won’t be robbed of any more time with them. Let people do what they want and just protect yourself and your family.

BlaBlaSmthSmth · 29/04/2021 17:30

That's heartbreaking to read, I'm so sorry for your friend. We're at a funeral tomorrow for a relative that never met our son due to covid rules. I'm so over being good for the betterment of everyone else when no one seems to give a crap about what's happening to those dying of anything other than covid.

So true @PegPeople

ZaZathecat · 29/04/2021 17:31

The May 17th date leaves a 5 week gap, 4 weeks to collect data and another to analyse it. So the date is not arbitrary and could be moved back if the data is not as good as hoped. So YANBU.

Having aid that, I understand people feeling at last it is safe to go and visited elderly relatives etc., knowing they are now vaccinated.

BlaBlaSmthSmth · 29/04/2021 17:32

"Unlawful plans" 🤣🤣

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 29/04/2021 17:33

It would be so much better for everybody's blood pressure if goady threads like this were just ignored, it won't be the only one coming up to a bank holiday. Let the OP froth to their heart's content by themselves and let their annoying threads die a death.

TomorrowsPrincess · 29/04/2021 17:33

Go tell the them that are 'breaking the rules' rather than posting about it on MN where quite frankly the majority don't give a shite! It's been over 12 months. If people want to go stay over at relative houses, it's got absolutely nothing to do with you! How do you know they aren't getting tested first? That they all aren't fully vaccinated?
Mind. Your. Own. Business! 👏🏼

PattyPan · 29/04/2021 17:33

Are you or your parents in a higher risk category?

Yes, one of my parents is. They’ve both had one jab and I haven’t had either.

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 29/04/2021 17:34

@BlaBlaSmthSmth

"Unlawful plans" 🤣🤣
I bloody love an unlawful plan Grin
NotSoLongGoodbye · 29/04/2021 17:34

Because the rules are arbitrary and haven't made sense for a long time.

apooagnuandyou · 29/04/2021 17:34

@Teateaandmoretea

whilst I agree that the lack of resilience in England has been an embarrassment, especially compared to other countries who did face real hardship, I honestly don't think there are many risks now.

We did face real hardship.

It’s lack of empathy I find truly embarrassing.

Real hardship?

What we had is people having vapour for being asked to wear a mask (just asked, in England you could just not bother and call yourself exempt),

People fainting at the idea of a soft lockdown and staying home and local for a couple of weeks,

People outraged at not going buying their crap and popping to the shops 5 times a day,

People who suddenly decided they could not survive if they didn't have 4 walks a day (hey, I took my kids out, just didn't make a drama out of it!)

Just read the old threads written the last "lockdown" it was as funny as it was cringing! Grin

(People who DID get thrown into the worst of the covid pandemic didn't throw tantrum about it...)

FilthyforFirth · 29/04/2021 17:35

I do wonder what people like you will do with your time come June 21st? Will be so awful for you to not be able to berate people for not following 'the rules' when there aren't none.

I suppose you will bleat on about mask usage and how people just wont stay 2 feet from you in the supermarket.

I couldnt give a flying fuck. I haven't stayed overnight yet but that is because my 5 month old is a difficult so and so.

At some point we are going to have to stop caring about what others do with their free time...

SnargaluffPod · 29/04/2021 17:35

My year seven child tried to kill themselves due to the impact of the last year. Right now I don’t give a flying fuck what the rules are. I also care for someone else who nearly died due to severe self neglect caused by the isolation during COVID. I will assess my own risk, just as I do for EVERY other situation to do with myself and my children. You can project shame onto others. I have zero shame. Right now, there are bigger risks and worries in my life than fucking COVID.

DelBocaVista · 29/04/2021 17:36

Good on them!

Maddy456 · 29/04/2021 17:36

I get sad that people dont seem to give a toss about other people and don’t follow the rules. You have to just focus on yourself though otherwise it will annoy you too much.

apooagnuandyou · 29/04/2021 17:36

Go tell the them that are 'breaking the rules' rather than posting about it on MN where quite frankly the majority don't give a shite! It's been over 12 months.

In fairness, that's a moot point how long it has been. It's not what makes ignoring some rules acceptable or not. If it was needed, it should be a lot longer than 12 months.

As it happens, it's not. It hasn't been necessary for weeks, and people starting to meet others without any impact has proven it.

JennyBond · 29/04/2021 17:37

@idrinkchocolatemilk

I could not give a shiny shite anymore, me and my loved ones are vaccinated so I won’t be robbed of any more time with them. Let people do what they want and just protect yourself and your family.
How wonderful for all those below 40 waiting patiently for their vaccine.
Chloemol · 29/04/2021 17:37

Typical MN selfish responses again

Let’s hope the Indian variant doesn’t take hold

What’s so difficult about following rules for a few more weeks

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 29/04/2021 17:37

People fainting at the idea of a soft lockdown and staying home and local for a couple of weeks

Yeah. That’s exactly what working full time from home, home schooling 2 young primary aged kids and looking after a toddler all at the same time for weeks on end was like.

BlaBlaSmthSmth · 29/04/2021 17:37

Haha it all sounds very exciting @TheOneWithTheBigNose , I never had the balls for a life of crime but now I feel like taking a trip to see my mum just for the thrill of it 

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