To think he shouldn't have sent this picture of me?

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Will try to keep it brief.

Recently gave birth to DC. Husband has children with his ex, they get on okay-ish most of the time. Me and ex get on okay, we are friendly enough when we see each other but don't speak much and there were a few awkward times at first with things being said I didn't feel were very nice but we're over that in the most part now.

Anyway, DSC were excited and so when DC was born DH sent pictures to his ex. For some reason he decided to send her a photo just after I'd given birth and you can practically see everything, breasts out etc...

I'm really annoyed with him. He thinks I'm being dramatic and she's a mother, she's given birth before and 'seen it all before' so why does it matter?

I feel so exposed though and really upset about it, I'm quite shy as it is and just think he was so wrong to send that kind of picture to his bloody ex?! I don't mind pictures being sent, I really don't but not such an exposed one.

AIBU?

Oh, wow... Not sure I'd entirely believe that, tbh.

Oh wow! YANBU op I'd be FUMING if my partner sent a pic of me like that to SCs mum. Even if it went to my own friends and family I'd be fuming if my boob was hanging out. Let alone his ex. You rant away OP.

Gah! I'd be mortified!
Sounds like he got carried away when sending, however he owes you a massive apology! I'm guessing he feels like a right nob which is why he's making out you're being dramatic!
Suppose you either ignore it forever with regards to ex or laugh it off next time, 'what a dick dh is sending that intimate pic, sure you didn't want to see that ha' sure she'd feel exactly the same.
Congrats on your new arrival 💐

YANBU. I’d be mightily pissed off. What point is he trying to make to her???

The fishwrap (DM) has got hold of this.

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YANBU. She likely feels weird about receiving the photo too! It's very intimate, and the two of you do not know each other intimately. I'm sure your dh meant no harm, but he needs to appreciate you are not an extension of him, and you have a right to feel annoyed about photos of you in a state of undress and vulnerability being shared with someone without your permission. No matter how well he knows that person.

Its lovely that the children are excited, but he misjudged this.

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The Daily Mail are running this as story btw. It's on their front page

Yanbu.

I guess they were hoping to use the one about "ooh, I never get sexually harassed, can you all tell me about not being sexually harassed purely so I can UNDERSTAND how not real sexual harassment is and how it totally doesn't affect women" bullshit thread, but that got pulled very quickly for being an obvious crock.

Still, this one seems a bit of an odd choice. No raging internalised misogyny or bridezillas. There's the element of women being sort of pitted against each other by a man with a shit sack for a brain though, so maybe this is a ruse to make contact with him and offer him a job on the features desk.

You've made the daily mail. I would be pissed off that he sent the picture but if he had apologised would have left it at that. What is not OK is that he minimised it and turned it onto you as though you are the one that was being unreasonable and that is out of order. I think the ex woupd have most likely deleted the photo anyway, I certainly would have. Only you know whether this was just an idiotic one off or whether it is a pattern of inconsiderate behaviour and what your limits are. I would be telling him in very clear terms that if he ever sends any pictures of you in such a position to anyone else you will send pictures of his dick to everyone in his contacts.

My husband mistakenly sent a rather graphic post birth photo to his parents. In with some others, but still in there. I had never met them as they live in a different country and I was absolutely mortified. He couldn't apologise enough. Didn't matter to me that his mum is a medical professional or that they're both parents. I know how you feel, but your partner shouldn't be so flippant about it!! That's a really personal image he sent