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getyourfreakon · 27/04/2021 22:25

My name is unusual but not completely out there. Swap a couple of vowels around and that makes a very common name. And it grates on me when I'm called that. Makes me feel like I've aged 20 years. Don't even get me started on my surname

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Vinorosso74 · 27/04/2021 22:51

YANBU. My first and surname can both be spelt in different ways. I am so used to spelling it out to people. They aren't any weird out there spellings either.
However, when you have written an email and signed it off surely the person should reply with exactly how you have spelt your own name as I find it rude if they don't.

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Rachie1973 · 27/04/2021 23:13

@Flemingshat

I have a non-English name that has two common spellings depending on what part of the world it is used in (it is spelled differently in Portugal for example vs South America). I am getting seriously fed up of people I encounter through work misspelling it. Let's say for argument's sake that it's Ana - I consistently get back Anna. I write "Dear X, bla bla bla, Kind regards Ana" and I get back "Dear Anna". I don't mind so much if it is people I haven't had contact with before (though I still think how difficult is it to check the name of the person who has just emailed you) but when it is colleagues I have worked with for 4+ years I just think it is so rude! I point it out and it still happens.

I know it's really petty. AIBU?

Nope, not unreasonable.

My work insist in Rachael instead of Rachel.

My email, my wage slips, my name badge.

It’s infuriating.

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 27/04/2021 23:30

It's nkt just infuriating. If this happens to foreigner who needs to deal with Home Office they might be super fucked. Or anyone who needs to prove address or anything official.

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tulippa · 27/04/2021 23:43

YANBU at all. It's rude and takes seconds to check.
I have a first name that's unusual but not totally unheard of and 50% of the time people get it wrong. If I ever don't receive an expected email from someone new it's always because they've written it down wrong even though I spell it out.
What annoys me more is that I also have a surname that can be a first name. So I get sent emails starting Dear Surname ... I have learnt to use it as an indication of who doesn't pay any attention to detail.

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Ineedaneasteregg · 28/04/2021 00:58

I used to have a surname that was a first name and my middle name is a surname.

I got called by my surname a lot and got lots of documents sent to surname middle name.

But honestly I didn't really care it wasn't done with any malice.

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SmokedDuck · 28/04/2021 01:01

Maybe annoying but I think YABU.

When many people cannot remember something like this it is usually because something makes it difficult for them to remember. Like, if you see car accidents keep happening in the same place, probably something to do with driving conditions in that spot.

I have a name that has about six common, traditional spellings. No one gets it right. Just let it go.

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SaturdayRocks · 28/04/2021 01:48

Or, you know, continue to get impotently worked up about, if that’s preferable...

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Susannahmoody · 28/04/2021 02:04

DH'S name is 7 letters. 7. My brother never spells his name right. We've been married for 12 years. He's had 12 years to learn, but hasn't. Basically, it shows he doesn't give a shit.

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AutomaticMoon · 28/04/2021 04:25

At my work (care home) people mispronounced my name repeatedly & swore & shouted at me when I politely corrected them...

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StoneofDestiny · 28/04/2021 06:18

At my work (care home) people mispronounced my name repeatedly & swore & shouted at me when I politely corrected them

Geez, they sound unhinged and shouldn't be working in a Care Home...

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BikeRunSki · 28/04/2021 06:46

@PeakyPaula

Both my names have been mispelt my whole life, including family
For work it amazes me that you can pick a name from a list and then mispell it in the email.

It's rude and lazy and I mentally mark their card!

This!!

YANBU at all. I have a multifold problem:

1 - My first name is quite short, and unusual for my age. although it’s not unknown at all and much more common amongst children now that it was. It is also the beginning syllable of a much longer name, which is much more common amongst my peers. Like being called John, but everyone assuming it’s Jonathan.

2- I have an Irish surname, which has a lot more vowels in than “necessary” for phonetic English spelling. It’s not a very common name, and the variations on how it could be spelt are many. The trick is, my spelling is the way it is in my email address, email signature, in the staff directory etc, or wherever else you got my email address from.

My first and surnames runs into each other to form a different name. Even if I leave an unnaturally long gap between names when introducing myself, about 50% of people I meet for the first time think I’m called the run-together name ie: “Hello, I’m Emma .......... Lyon”. “Nice to meet you Emmeline”, “No, it’s Emma (5 second pause) Lyon”. “Yes, you said”. Sometime later I’ll get a phone call to ask me my surname...

It’s just sloppiness, that could be entirely avoided by paying attention and reading emails I send properly. If they can’t get my name right, what other fundamental pieces of information I tell them are they getting wrong?

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42isthemeaning · 28/04/2021 07:12

I have a Polish name - I feel your pain, OP!

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RosesAndHellebores · 28/04/2021 08:07

I get a real thrill telling the barristas in Starbucks that my name is Ann . I once told them my actual name and thought I'd be there all day.

I specifically gave my DC classic names with no alternative spellings. They would prefer something less boring and more exotic.

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Hadalifeonce · 28/04/2021 08:12

I used to have a client who misspelled my name. After a while I actually sent an email, saying he probably didn't notice, but my name is spelled XXXXXX, just to avoid any confusion going forward.

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TroublesomeTrucks · 28/04/2021 10:05

It’s not quite the same thing but my husband and I have a (female) friend we have known since before we were married. All three of us are doctors and she knows this as it’s how we all met. After we got married she twice asked me if I had changed my surname and I told her no. We still got a Christmas card last year addressed to Dr and Mrs Husband’s name.

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AutomaticMoon · 29/04/2021 03:29

@SchrodingersImmigrant lol that reminds me, when I got naturalised, I had to pay £60 for 5 minutes of a solicitor’s time to confirm I can speak English. The man spoke in broken English himself & after I left I realised he copied my name wrong from my passport so I had to go back & get a new form filled in. Absolutely ridiculous.

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newnortherner111 · 29/04/2021 07:01

It is not acceptable and you are right to challenge them. In a way if the spelling reflects your origins or heritage it is a small form of racism by those who have been advised and cannot get it right after 4 years.

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Confusedandshaken · 29/04/2021 08:14

I agree it's very rude. My DD also has a fairly common name that is spelt differently from country to country. I lost count of the number of times we had to ask schools/clubs to reissue forms and certificates with the correct spelling. It used to drive me mad that they would go to the effort to spell long and unusual Polish/African/Thai etc surnames correctly but couldn't make the same effort for her.

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Confusedandshaken · 29/04/2021 08:23

[quote AutomaticMoon]@SchrodingersImmigrant lol that reminds me, when I got naturalised, I had to pay £60 for 5 minutes of a solicitor’s time to confirm I can speak English. The man spoke in broken English himself & after I left I realised he copied my name wrong from my passport so I had to go back & get a new form filled in. Absolutely ridiculous.[/quote]
This reminds me of my aunt in Ireland. She lives in a Gaeltacht (Irish speaking area) where Irish speakers are entitled to some small grants for home repairs etc. She, like all her family have Irish as her first language and so applied for one of these. A government inspector came round to check she really was an Irish speaker. She met him at the door, greeted him in Irish and invited him in. All went well until she offered him a cup of tea and tried to chat about the weather. It rapidly became clear that the only Irish he had comprised a few memorised phrases to establish her identity and confirm the works to her roof. He didn't even understand her offer of a cup of tea (surely the most essential phrase for life in Ireland) and wasn't able to conduct even basic small talk in Irish.

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problembottom · 29/04/2021 08:26

My name is similar to Nikki. My email is similar to [email protected] and my emails are signed off Nikki. Can’t miss it.

People still reply calling me Nicky or Nicki. Including colleagues I’ve known for years!

I massively judge their stupidity

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JammyGem · 29/04/2021 08:47

I have a common name that can be spelled two different ways, but I have the more common spelling. So many people use the other rarer spelling. Or use a different name entirely (taking off the first letter of my name). They're either responding to an email from me, with my name on it, or they had to look me up in the organisation's list, in which case they know my bloody name.

I have a foreign surname (which incidentally is as common as Smith in DH's home country, but spelled slightly unusually, like Smythe) and although people tend to spell it right most of the time I do enjoy when people try to say it. I always know I'm in for a treat when there's that split second pause between me forename and surname

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dotdashdashdash · 29/04/2021 08:58

I have a colleague who has a non-English name but sound in an English accent very similar to an English name, and so many people spell it the English way. His name is Laré and so many people spell it Larry, even when he has signed off his email Laré. It annoys me and I'm not him!

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dotdashdashdash · 29/04/2021 09:01

Reminds me of this.

to be annoyed by people at work consistently misspelling my name?

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EmeraldShamrock · 29/04/2021 09:06

Yes it's annoying especially if it is a small name not a mouthful.

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