to be annoyed by people at work consistently misspelling my name?

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I have a non-English name that has two common spellings depending on what part of the world it is used in (it is spelled differently in Portugal for example vs South America). I am getting seriously fed up of people I encounter through work misspelling it. Let's say for argument's sake that it's Ana - I consistently get back Anna. I write "Dear X, bla bla bla, Kind regards Ana" and I get back "Dear Anna". I don't mind so much if it is people I haven't had contact with before (though I still think how difficult is it to check the name of the person who has just emailed you) but when it is colleagues I have worked with for 4+ years I just think it is so rude! I point it out and it still happens.

I know it's really petty. AIBU?

Honestly I have bigger things to worry about... I just let it drop and don’t let it eat me up 🤷‍♀️

I have a common and very short surname, and people are always tacking an 's' onto the end of it. Drives me potty.

Not my name obviously but something like 'Ball' and 'Balls'.

I have an English name that everyone has heard of, there are three or more different spellings... I have the most common spelling. Even my grandma still gets it wrong and I'm pushing 40

I have never had a birthday without at least one incorrectly spelt name in that year's batch!

No YA definitely definitely NBU. I have a common English name with two probably equally used spellings (in the Claire and Clare ball park) and it gets misspelled ALL THE TIME. Its just rude, most of the time you're communicating via email so your name is literally there in the sent bar or the address book or whatever. Its lazy and rude to not make the tiny effort to spell someone's name correctly.

It's also rude to pronounce someone's name wrong if you've been told how to say it IMO.

Yabu, it is 2 common spellings of a common name.

My surname is V foreign, I couldn't even spell it in reception at school, I def don't expect people to spell it or.pronounce it correctly.

And if I had a V English name and went to a foreign country I would expect them to have trouble pronouncing and have patience if they spelt it incorrectly.

And it is fine to pronounce the name in an English accent, just like a person from another country would pronounce my name with their own accent

@maddening

And it is fine to pronounce the name in an English accent, just like a person from another country would pronounce my name with their own accent

I agree, as long as it isn't completely changed. Some letter and sound combinations can be quite hard at first so it's understandable if it isn't perfect.

It's a lot about the person's attitude, isn't it? If they try, lovely. If they do "aaah, I will just say x" fuck off.

Yep! Happens to me all the time too! When I was younger I barely heard of anyone with the same name however now it is a name mentioned in the media now and again, but no matter how many times I send emails, I have some clients who spell it wrong every single time!!!!!

@HeddaGarbled

I’ve got a common English name which can be spelt a few different ways and I don’t worry about it at all. Obviously on official documents it’s important but not in emails etc.

Some people are really conscientious about asking me the spelling and making an effort to get it correct and I think that’s sweet of them, but I don’t mind and barely notice when people don’t.

I am exactly the same. My name can be spelled at least five different ways.

If someone asks me I will tell them, but if it is misspelled I really couldn't give a shit/barely notice. I imagine people you work with just don't understand why you get so wound up about it OP, sorry.

Another vote for YANBU it's rude and lazy, here. Seriously it's not that difficult!

My name first and last are common, but various spellings..Both are often misspelt. I couldn't care less

I agree, I send email with my name clearly on it and I get back Hi with the wrong spelling version of my name, it's not that hard to get the name right!

I’ve worked for the same company for 14 years and often get this, it annoys me too. I’m always really careful to note how people spell their names, maybe because they often get mine wrong! It feels careless to me 🤷‍♀️

I cannot cast-iron guarantee that I have never, not once, misspelt someone’s name on an email, in my 20+ years of office work.

On the basis, I give people a break when they inevitably misspell my name. However, unlike others on this thread, I don’t expect people to spell my name correctly, given there are several variations.

I find it helps with the blood pressure, to take that approach.

Names are not like words. We all know how to spell words. But there’s an infinite variety of different names, so it’s inevitable that there will be misspellings along the way.

DD has a name that’s easily enough spelt - but it does have a range of pronunciations. I am encouraging her not to be offended by it, and to be understanding that unless people are mind-readers, mistakes will happen.

If it’s a repeated offence I reckon it’s lazy and offensive. I have a common Irish surname which is phonetically plausible but 8 out of 10 people pronounce it incorrectly. I’ve had some weird and ridiculous pronunciations. If I’ve corrected people - and it’s my name so I’m entitled to have it said correctly - and they continue to say it incorrectly it irks me.

No it doesn't bother me in the slightest and I have a surname that is misspelled A LOT. My first name is easy to spell but sometimes people get it wrong as well. I just frankly don't care in the slightest.

Maybe that makes me too laid back but there are so many things that annoy me more and I would spend my life in a constant bad mood if I tried to control something I have no control over, like how other people spell my name. Of course I can spend my life pointing out how it should be spelt, sometimes I do this when I can be bothered but I also don't care if they keep getting it wrong.

I seem to be out of step with the majority on this thread though (yet again!)

I also sometimes can't be bothered to look up the exact spelling of someone's name but 95% of the time when I am not sure of a spelling, I force myself to because I know it bothers some people and at work especially that could cause problems. I'll admit to occasionally not bothering if I don't really care what the person will think of me or if they complain about it. Sorry but that is the truth

It's bit different to misspell it when you never saw how they sre writing it, but if it's in the email there is no wxcuse. There is no need to look up how it's spelled. Couple of seconds seeing the signature should suffice.
That's what's the super annoying thing on it.

YANBU, this is annoying. I get it too, I’m often called by a version of my name that is both spelled and pronounced differently. I wouldn’t mind so much if they didn’t get arsey when I politely correct them.

I make sure when I send an email that I spell the person's name either how it is spelt in the email address or, if they've emailed me before, how they have signed off.

It doesn't bother me when people spell my name wrong but it annoys the hell out of me when I get emails for someone else (someone who shares my first name, not my surname, and works in a completely different job but linked to my role). There is one manager in particular who keeps doing this and I just reply to the email and ask if it was meant for me (full name, job title) or other person (full name, job title), and if it was not meant for me, to please stop sending these emails to me.

I will say to patients 'ooh, that's an unusual name,' as small talk when walking back to my room (quite uncomfortable walking in silence) or when I'm trying to distract them (such as if they dislike needles and I need to take blood), in much the same way I might comment on the shade of their nail polish or their shoes. And if they have a non-British name, I will apologise for how I have pronounced it and, if they tell me how to pronounce it properly, I will attempt to do so.

I have a very English name and it gets misspelt all the time, think along the lines of lauren / Laura.

It’s not even the same name being spelt wrong, but I don’t really mind. I tend to just laugh, esp when my manager once did it

Yabu to get so annoyed about it. Colleagues routinely spell my first name and second name wrong. It's mildly irritating but not annoying enough to create a Mumsnet thread over. I'm English, and my names aren't unusual - there just happens to be multiple versions of the spelling and people sometimes forget which one to use. If they get it wrong once then their auto-suggest probably prompts them to get it wrong the next time too.

My name has numerous different spellings and people will always write it wrong, even relatives! It’s just something I’ve got used to now.

I totally agree with you . I have an unusual name but it’s not weird iyswim . People always sirloin it wrong even close friends and people I deal with regularly . It really irritates me

People ALWAYS misspell my DH's and DD's names. They're so simple, think along Karl/Carl and Tracy/Tracey lines.

It's really not that effing difficult.

I find that with foreign sounding names, many people feel they don’t even need to try and get it right and an approximation should be enough

It’s lazy when the name is apparent from the email.