to be annoyed by people at work consistently misspelling my name?

[Flemingshat]

I have a non-English name that has two common spellings depending on what part of the world it is used in (it is spelled differently in Portugal for example vs South America). I am getting seriously fed up of people I encounter through work misspelling it. Let's say for argument's sake that it's Ana - I consistently get back Anna. I write "Dear X, bla bla bla, Kind regards Ana" and I get back "Dear Anna". I don't mind so much if it is people I haven't had contact with before (though I still think how difficult is it to check the name of the person who has just emailed you) but when it is colleagues I have worked with for 4+ years I just think it is so rude! I point it out and it still happens.

I know it's really petty. AIBU?

My name is more typically spelt with an ie ending but I have y. I always get replies to my email referring to me as ie which makes me slightly worried that they can't read but doesn't bother me overall.

It’s got nothing to do with being foreign. My own family member and friends can’t even spell my child’s name properly. It has three letters. This has gone on for over 20 years.

Is it Analisa/ Annaliese/ Annalisa ?

Welcome to the world of variety. It's what all non Anna/ Victoria/ Elizabeths have to go through EvErY SInGLe DAY .

YANBU at all. I have a name that can be considered English but different spelling and I always get it wrong, so annoying. Think about Daiana - I only get Diana, Diane, whatever.

I once made a terrible mistake (Now I find it hilarious). Back in uni at the beginning of the semester I had to email a prof. The name sounded like it was a male. So I wrote "dear mr x. I got a flaming email back how he was a SHE and I could've checked. I took a different class, I swear, and dropped that one 😂

@RosesAndHellebores

Oh and don't start me on the number of nurses and teachers who think they have a God given right to comment about my name "ooh that's unusual, where did that come from/what made your mother call you that"? Strange how if I respond it dates to the 12th Century and is from xshire or because my parents chose it I imagine, inevitably receives the NHS eyeroll. It is so rude on a number of counts but whilst I can see why a person from overseas would interpret it as pote tially racist I think it's just due to a lack of emotional intelligence and being unable to extrapolate that if you wouldn't say it Jane Smith, it's probably inappropriate and by God it's boring when you have an unusual/difficult name.

@RosesAndHellebores I would quite often comment on an unusual name, as a way to build rapport and demonstrate interest in the person as an individual. It's never occurred to me that "I haven't come across that name before, where's it from?" might cause offence

I was going to start a thread on this! I have a very common name with several spellings and have suffered for years with people lengthening it to a completely different name, and spelling it wrong.

The spelling seems to be getting worse at work. It is in my email address at the top, and my signature block and people still spell it wrong.

We are in the middle of end of year reports. My second signing manager is one of the offenders and keeps spelling my name wrong. I need to tell him because I don't want it wrong on my report.

How do you point out politely that someone is spelling your name wrong without coming across as snotty?

For those who say it doesn't matter, it matters to me. I think it is really rude when you have the correct spelling right in front of you, and says a lot about your attitude towards the person if you cba to make the effort to check.

How do you point out politely that someone is spelling your name wrong without coming across as snotty?

Pretend you don't think it's them being careless but probably an autocorrect
"Sorry x, it seems your autocorrect is correcting my name into Henna, when it's actually Hanna. Just wanted to let you know so it doesn't get misspelled on the report. Thanks!"

Tbh I would sound snotty. My name is part of me. I take it personally

I was christened Véronique ( my mother is French and this is a family name ) but I gave up with it as a teenager and I've been Veronica ever since.

My father is the only one who uses my proper name or when my 16 dd wants something.

I am just so, so used to this, that I can’t be bothered to be bothered.

It’s so rare that people land on the correct spelling, that I take it as a pure accident, if they do.

I could take it personally, but I don’t.

My name is variously spelt - Isabelle, Isabel, Isobel, Isobelle, Izabel, Isabella (a whole extra syllable with that one), and of course - Elizabeth even gets trotted out from time to time.

If I got worked up every time someone misspelt my name, I wouldn’t get much else done.

We have this in our team at work. We have a Natalie and a Natalia (Natalie seems unbothered, Natalia gets very pissed off!)

I always make a conscious effort to use the correct spelling, other people have resorted to addressing them both as "Nat" and I can't work out of that is even more rude?

YANBU, it’s totally ignorant. My DH has a less common but still normal spelling of an extremely common name and my Mum spelt it the more common way for years. I would type his name correctly in a text and she’d still reply misspelling his name as if she thought I was spelling it wrong...

I have a name that can be shortened but I choose not to, some people decide to make the decision to shorten it regardless and I hate it.

I should have said "I make an effort to use the correct name for correct person"

This is about the spelling

My name is more typically spelt with an ie ending but I have y. I always get replies to my email referring to me as ie which makes me slightly worried that they can't read but doesn't bother me overall.

We might have the same name - I have the 'ie' ending but often get the 'y' and occasionally just the 'i'.

When we chose DS's name one of my conditions was it should have one known spelling but people still spell it wrong!

I wonder if it makes difference to how people feel about it if there are similar names/spelling variations.
There is nothing like that to mine afaik so they can't even use that as an excuse 🙈

@SchrodingersImmigrant yep that's the same as mine. One spelling. The other spelling is the male version. I'm not a man therefore it can only be spelt the feminine way

I have such a bog standard British name and I’ve had this once. Email contact repeatedly giving me a slightly different name. I got fed up and did the same back to her... she never made a comment about it but she did start addressing me correctly. I don’t have time for this level of ignorance.

My first name sometimes gets misspelled as it's a name with a few variations, fair enough. My surname is a one syllable, fiver letter common word in the English language. I've some some wild and wacky takes on it...

[quote QueenPaw]@SchrodingersImmigrant yep that's the same as mine. One spelling. The other spelling is the male version. I'm not a man therefore it can only be spelt the feminine way [/quote]
Mine doesn't even have male version.

There is a variation in Geography. One country sounds similar, but it's not country name people use often so can't be a "habit"🙈
Talking about countries. Same way some given up on correction their names, I've given up correcting people using wrong name for my native country.
People keep using obsolete version which doesn't exist anymore (hasn't for decades) 🙄

But I shall not give up on my own name😂

@notanothertakeaway I hope having had the fact that it is othering pointed out to you has caused you to reflect. It doesn't show an interest in me individually, it's nosy small talk that has no bearing on the job you are employed to do. If you wouldn't ask or comment about Jane Smith's name, why comment on Diana Cholomondeley's? Quite apart from the fact that it so very boring and all the more irritating when very often the person I am dealing with has called me Diane three times rather than Diana which is clearly written on the notes/register. It would show a great deal more interest (and respect) in me as an individual if some people could be bothered to read and pronounce my name properly in the first place. If I were called, for example Athisaya Gajaratnaran would you still ask "ooh why did your mother chose that?" It is notable that professionals from overseas don't comment in this way.

I'm always really careful about this and look at a person's signature to make sure I've spelled their name exactly right or, for example, used Steve instead of Stephen if that's how they signed off.

But on the other hand people are constantly getting my name wrong - similar to the Ana/Anna example - and it doesn't bother me.

I did once make a Katy/ Katie mistake, which was a shame as Katy was my boss

My name is a non-English name that has been adopted quite commonly into English,
superseding the English name that is now quite rare (you’ll probably guess it!).

People forever add a letter to make it phonetic in English, even if they’ve just seen it written down. Or make a random double letter. It’s a problem if they put it in the email address though, as I won’t receive it!

@Flemingshat

I used to work with a woman who was called Johanna and she ALWAYS got Joanna in emails, we used to sigh about it to each other.

I'm a Joanna but always get Joanne. Infuriating

I am full on rage-petty about my name being spelt correctly.

@Flemingshat

It's not xenophobic, it's that a hell of a lot of people CAN'T SPELL

Well that's interesting given that my name is apparently the only part of their emails to me that they can't spell.

It's call 'spell checker'. I'm guessing your name isn't in there.