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Finzi · 27/04/2021 08:35

I feel your pain. Mine is a very boring traditional name with 2 common spellings. So many people ignore what I’ve written and choose the other version when they reply to my e-mails. I try not to let it annoy me but the truth is, it does!

TruelyWonder · 27/04/2021 08:36

I once worked with a woman that started working in the job before me. First day was introduced to her. She showed me the ropes and we worked together for 4 years. Then one Christmas as people were swapping secret Santa she piped up and told us all her name was not actually (lets say) Laura but Linda. Apparently 5 years before when she started someone had miss heard her and it had stuck. She was to shy and polite to correct the mistake Our manager later said she thought HR kept making a mistake on forms. So she just corrected the name herself if they sent anything 🤦‍♀️

SchrodingersImmigrant · 27/04/2021 08:36

Yanbu!
People keep changing a letter in my name. A fucking letter! Non English name, but very simple.

Yanbu, point it out with increasing firmness.

I don't think it's about it being foreign with some people. I think some people just give sonfew fucks they don't bgive ad fuck about names. I saw a colleague consistently misspellnEnglish name. Racist pricks let you know in other ways that it's basically on purpose.

I don't get how supposedly smart people can't fucking look at the name at the top and at the bottom of the email. Not hard.

Mine is something like let's say Hanna changed into Henna🤷🏻🤦

genome · 27/04/2021 08:38

Same here, slightly different spelling of a common name for my generation. I don't mind spelling out on the phone/for forms, but it drives me batty when people email me with the wrong one. Especially those who have known me for sometime or received multiple replies with my name spelt correctly! I think it's really disrespectful and I always take the time to double-check spelling before I send.

MrsClatterbuck · 27/04/2021 08:39

People mispronounce my name ALL the time. When I worked my colleagues were fine but people in other departments or on the phone couldn't or wouldn't get it right. I once got called Phyllis which is nothing like my name!!!!! Also I was once asked on the phone to spell it but they still didn't get it so they asked my surname which they still didn't get. Its unusual where I am but not where this person was phoning from. They asked me to spell it as well. My colleagues were nearly on the floor laughing and I could see the funny side as they just heard me trying to pronounce my names and then spell both

DelBocaVista · 27/04/2021 08:39

I get this all the time and it is rude and very frustrating.

Although the best one was someone telling my I was spelling my name wrong and insisted on using the alternative spelling!!

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 27/04/2021 08:40

We get this with our surname. It autocorrects to a very similar English word, pronounced the same... Its an English name!. So it isn't picked up by someone reading back.
My DDs have brought home many school names with their name spelt wrong.
I return certificates to clubs etc and ask for them with the correct spelling (which they've always done, but I'm aware I'm probably THAT parent).
We get bills, legal paperwork etc with it spelt wrong.

Plus... People don't believe its a real name...

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Flemingshat · 27/04/2021 08:41

Mine is something like let's say Hanna changed into Henna

Yep mine is similar, a changed letter.

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Flemingshat · 27/04/2021 08:42

Although the best one was someone telling my I was spelling my name wrong and insisted on using the alternative spelling

I've also had that!! "Oh are you sure that's right because in Portugal they spell it like this"

I mean do you want to check my passport!!!

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WildOrchids67 · 27/04/2021 08:43

I go by the shortened version of my name (think Vicky/Victoria), but my work email account has the full version. I always sign off emails with the short version.

I emailed one of the managers last week about a potential new role, signed off with the short name. The reply started "Hi Victoria...." I'd understand if I hadn't signed off and this manager doesn't know me that well to be fair, but it was a short email and it was right there at the bottom!

steppemum · 27/04/2021 08:43

I think it is rude.
As a teacher I have had all sorts of names in front of me.
It is part of my job to learn the names and say them/write them properly.

I go out of my way to make sure I know if it is Tracy/Tracey or Ana/Anna when I write to people.

I think though that if you have never had your neam spelt wrong, you are oblivious.
I would be pointing it out.

At the end of the email - from Ana (please note the spelling, as my name is not Anna)

RosesAndHellebores · 27/04/2021 08:44

Oh and the comme to particularly from nurses and teachers. It's so inappropriate. What made your mother chose that? Is it English? She chose it or yes, 12th Century is usually greeted with the ubiquitous NHS eyeroll.

If as a patient I said something so inappropriate to a foreign Dr or nurse, I can imagine the offence it would cause. Thinking about it whilst some drs and nurses from overseas have commented Ted it has been done in an interested way because they haven't seen my surname before. OTH English drs and nurses do it in a snorty/sneery way. Wholly I appropriate and behaviour bound to the playground.

WeatherwaxOn · 27/04/2021 08:44

It's rude. If you have had any form of written communication with someone then their name is right in front of you to spell correctly.

zafferana · 27/04/2021 08:46

This is why I always recommend in Baby Names that people don't use non-conventional spellings if they plan to live in the UK ...

I used to work in another country and when typing out emails I had a nightmare with the spelling of names over there, where people frequently MAKE UP the spellings. So we had Michele (one L, which is actually a man's name in Latin countries), we had Jaime (pron. Jamie, but actually spelled in the Spanish way for James, which is pronounced High-meh), we had TrayC (yep - Tracy), Kayrn (no, that is not a typo and it's not Karyn, its Kayrn, pron. Kay-ren). And so it went on.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 27/04/2021 08:46

I return certificates to clubs etc and ask for them with the correct spelling (which they've always done, but I'm aware I'm probably THAT parent).
We get bills, legal paperwork etc with it spelt wrong.

I use this when I point it out to people.
"Please, make sure you spell my name correctly as it can cause issues with files, access to them and more if it's misspelled".

Stupid electricity company once misspelled my name and I needed the bill to open an account and they wouldn't because someone doesn't know what "e as echo" means and bank wouldn't accept a typo. Stupids

TwoPaperAirplanes · 27/04/2021 08:47

@Flemingshat

I have a non-English name that has two common spellings depending on what part of the world it is used in (it is spelled differently in Portugal for example vs South America). I am getting seriously fed up of people I encounter through work misspelling it. Let's say for argument's sake that it's Ana - I consistently get back Anna. I write "Dear X, bla bla bla, Kind regards Ana" and I get back "Dear Anna". I don't mind so much if it is people I haven't had contact with before (though I still think how difficult is it to check the name of the person who has just emailed you) but when it is colleagues I have worked with for 4+ years I just think it is so rude! I point it out and it still happens.

I know it's really petty. AIBU?

This is my life. Yes it irritates me.

What irritates me more is people who I have quite a lot of contact with at work STILL writing "Anna" instead of "Ana". I've become so petty about it I misspell their names on purpose

SchrodingersImmigrant · 27/04/2021 08:47

@Flemingshat

Mine is something like let's say Hanna changed into Henna

Yep mine is similar, a changed letter.

Very annoying, isn't it. The other version doesn't even make sense as person's name.

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Flemingshat · 27/04/2021 08:48

This is why I always recommend in Baby Names that people don't use non-conventional spellings if they plan to live in the UK ...

My name isn't spelled non-conventionally. It is spelled correctly for the part of the world my parents come from. There isn't an English version, but there is a Portuguese/Spanish version which people seem to be more familiar with. But my name doesn't have a "whacky" spelling.

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Babdoc · 27/04/2021 08:49

My surname is a four letter word (no, not that one!) and I have received at least seven different spellings of it over the years. Plus a letter often missed out of my Christian name.
It’s mildly irritating but hardly world shattering.

PrimeraVez · 27/04/2021 08:49

This annoys me SO much. I have a slightly less common spelling of a very common name (along the lines of Lucy/Lucie) and people ALWAYS get it wrong even when the correct spelling is right in front of them!

The only silver lining is that it makes me pay so much attention to other people's names and how they spell them. I'm in the Middle East and there are SO many variations of Mohamed, Mohammed, Muhammad, Aysha, Ayesha, Aisha etc and I always manage to get them right, so it pisses me off when others don't make the same effort!

hanahsaunt · 27/04/2021 08:51

I have a Scottish name which ends with a y. Since moving to England it is routinely spelled ie. Drives me absolutely potty.

zafferana · 27/04/2021 08:52

People spell names wrong all the time - get over it! You can be called John and it gets spelled Jon. You can be Catherine and you get Katherine. Sarah/Sara. Elisabeth/Elizabeth. It's not xenophobic, it's that a hell of a lot of people CAN'T SPELL!

RumJerrySailorRum · 27/04/2021 08:53

My name is a typical 70's name, but not Sarah or Claire.(altho weirdly, I do get called Sarah or Claire all the bloody time)....which has more than one spelling.

I occasionally get the extra letter in there but not often. I let that slide and if it's written down just cross the extra letter out.

What really pisses me off is when people shorten it when I've just introduced myself with the full length name. Eg, Hi, I'm Joanne, oh hi Jo. That is fucking really rude!!

StrugglingWFH · 27/04/2021 08:54

I agree and yanbu! I have an unusual, English name but it can be spelled in 3 different ways. People at work will spell it incorrectly....even though the correct spelling is in my email address and I sign my name correctly in all correspondence! I've given up correcting people now but it still annoys me.

Holly60 · 27/04/2021 08:56

YANBU- I always check the spelling in the signature line! It’s not hard