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Varicose veins and 'd'p ...

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AnxiousWeirdo · 26/04/2021 16:37

This sounds really stupid even writing this but we're having a disagreement and I figure the sharp minds of aibu can help settle it.

I never have my legs out, ever, I have real body confidence issues. I'm a bit over weight (size 16 and 5'11) but I've lost 2 dress sizes in the last year.

I've been wearing shorts today, just normal 'mum' shorts. I felt really proud of myself for even buying them and personally I'm sick of being hot and covered up when it's warm out. I was planning on heading out in a few to pick up a few bits ..in my shorts.

I've just sat down for 10 minutes next to dp and he's talking about something, half way through he says "you need to put your legs away that vein is awful". I basically said ..what? "You should cover up your leg the vein is freaking me out".

I've reiterated the "what?" With something along the lines of what I've said to you guys, that the one time I have my legs out he picks on my vein and makes me feel really crap. I realised that with the way I'm sitting he can't even see the dreaded vein. To which he's explained that he can see all my other veins and he saw THE vein when I was putting moisturiser on a bit ago. He's called me sensitive and thinks I'm blowing things out of proportion. I think he's a dick.

( I understand this sounds childish but I'm genuinely curious as to whether I'm sensitive or not)

Also, I developed the vein during pregnancy with his child...

Go on, let me have it.

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DrSbaitso · 27/04/2021 20:11

SHOW THE DRESS

SHOW THE DRESS

SHOW THE DRESS

AnxiousWeirdo · 27/04/2021 20:21

😂 yay excitement! Excuse the hue, I took it in my daughter's super pink bedroom! The second one shows the pattern a bit better..

Bare in mind I wear a black hoody and black jeans / leggings every single day!

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billy1966 · 27/04/2021 20:26

Gorgeous dress.

Well done for putting your foot down.

He sounds horrendous though.

You deserve better.

Flowers
Lovelock1984 · 27/04/2021 20:27

Omg you are stunning. He is jealous and trying to bring you down - he is not supportive and a partner is meant to be supportive. He is meant to enhance your life.

JackieLavertysWeirdVoice · 27/04/2021 20:29

You're beautiful.

He's not.

AnxiousWeirdo · 27/04/2021 20:32

Aw thanks guys!! 🥰. Absolutely wearing it now 😂

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TrufflyPig · 27/04/2021 20:47

Yes OP let's see the dress!

It sounds lovely, as fellow tall person I understand the clothes struggle.

TrufflyPig · 27/04/2021 20:49

Sorry just seen it, it's stunning!! You are stunning.

AnxiousWeirdo · 27/04/2021 20:49

@TrufflyPig the pictures are a bit up thread 😁 being tall has its advantages but clothes and shoes are not one of them 😂

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susiebluebell · 27/04/2021 20:50

Just had to pipe up and say my mouth literally opened when I saw you in that dress. Absolutely stunning!

As for the so-called partner, just you wait till he's out of your life. You will see how liberating it is - been there, done that, now with a man who worships the ground I walk on, as I do him. You deserve it op, you sound like such a wonderful person!

AnxiousWeirdo · 27/04/2021 20:50

Aw wow thank you so much! It means a lot coming from random people on the internet as they're usually very honest! So happy right now

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AnxiousWeirdo · 27/04/2021 20:52

I know I've said it already but I'm SO happy you all like my dress!!

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TrufflyPig · 27/04/2021 20:53

being tall has its advantages but clothes and shoes are not one of them

There is a FB group called 'Tallternative retail', some really good inspiration there. I also have a varicose vein too so watching it for summer looks that cover my legs.

Doghead · 27/04/2021 20:54

Wow! He is indeed a prick. My husband would never ever do anything like this. My ex certainly would though and he was also a prick. I left him when our child was 4 months old and he told me nobody would ever want me cos my stomach was full of stretch marks! Strangely enough my husband doesn't find it a problem.

You deserve better, but I guess you know that.

Doghead · 27/04/2021 20:55

Only just seen the dress BTW. You look bloody amazing!!!

2ManyDicksOnTheDancefloor · 27/04/2021 20:56

I never comment on threads but needed to for this! You actually look amazing in that dress! Proper beaut!

AnxiousWeirdo · 27/04/2021 20:58

Ooh thank you @TrufflyPig I'll look into that group right now!

@Doghead good on your for having the guts to leave when your baby was so young! Nothing but admiration for you. I also have a stomach of stretch marks, he said it looks like I've been set on fire years ago ..." That's because I'm so hot I spontaneously combusted" was my reply if I remember rightly 😂. I'm so glad I've got out of my years and years long funk with this idiot

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AnxiousWeirdo · 27/04/2021 20:59

Ps thank youuuu all for the dress comments! Grin

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AnxiousWeirdo · 27/04/2021 21:00

@2ManyDicksOnTheDancefloor I love your name so much 😂

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Tavelo · 27/04/2021 21:03

This made me really sad to read :(
I hope you feel free to wear whatever you want, there's nothing wrong with your body, prominent veins and all.

Newschapter · 27/04/2021 21:06

You look stunning in that dress!

He is jealous and probably a bit possessive if he isn't keen on that dress - my dh would be proud to show me off in that! (Except I'm nowhere near as stunning and about half your height!Grin)

Endofmytether2 · 27/04/2021 21:07

You have a lovely shape and it definitely shows off your assets Grin. He's jealous and wants to put you down.

Ihatefish · 27/04/2021 21:10

Keep the shorts ditch the partner

DrSbaitso · 27/04/2021 21:21

It's beautiful, OP, and so are you.

DrSbaitso · 27/04/2021 21:26

@AnxiousWeirdo

Ooh thank you *@TrufflyPig* I'll look into that group right now!

@Doghead good on your for having the guts to leave when your baby was so young! Nothing but admiration for you. I also have a stomach of stretch marks, he said it looks like I've been set on fire years ago ..." That's because I'm so hot I spontaneously combusted" was my reply if I remember rightly 😂. I'm so glad I've got out of my years and years long funk with this idiot

Oh fuck him. Fuck him with a sandpaper dildo and no lube. You are on fire, in the best possible way. What's he going to do without you to tread all over and bring down because he knows no woman with any self respect will stay with a negging pissant like him? Who cares. Fuck him forever. You are stunning.