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To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

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inthewest · 23/04/2021 21:44

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

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JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 23/04/2021 21:46

Go for it - I always think the best weddings are ones that reflect the taste of the bride and groom.

Solasum · 23/04/2021 21:46

Could you post the proposed menu?

PurpleDaisies · 23/04/2021 21:47

It’s your wedding. Dh and I went vegan/veggie after getting married but if we were to plan another wedding now there would be no meat.

What’s on the menu?

Sparkletastic · 23/04/2021 21:47

It's fine.

GammyLeg · 23/04/2021 21:47

Absolutely it’s just one meal - go for it! I’m guessing your partners family have been a pain about other aspects of your wedding too...

Welshmaenad · 23/04/2021 21:47

YANBU to serve delicious food that absolutely everyone can enjoy. Nor are you unreasonable to only want to pay for food in keeping with your morals.

Uncle Kevin will survive without steak for one dinner.

Tippexy · 23/04/2021 21:47

Let's see the menu.

blueberryporridge · 23/04/2021 21:48

I am vegetarian and had exclusively vegetarian meals at our wedding. My feeling is that it is your day and if you object to animals being killed for food, why would you allow that to happen for your wedding celebration? I am sure with careful selection of food, most people probably won't even notice.

LagunaBubbles · 23/04/2021 21:48

You will get lots if replies along the lines "your wedding, your day, your choice" which is true so its entirely up to you. But personally I see it as a party where you want to look after your guests. So go ahead if you want to.

WomenAndVulvas · 23/04/2021 21:48

YANBU. It's your wedding and it's just one meal.

Sleepisoverrated150 · 23/04/2021 21:48

I’m not vegan but it’s your wedding do what you want!

Would love to hear a sample of the menu

PumpingPamela · 23/04/2021 21:48

Do it.

And you don't need to go non-vegan for the children either - I'm sure there are plenty of vegan options they will eat.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 23/04/2021 21:48

Serve what you want. It’s your wedding.

ClarkeGriffin · 23/04/2021 21:48

They don't have to come if it upsets them that much? Grin

kikisparks · 23/04/2021 21:48

Definitely go for it! Your wedding should reflect your values and you shouldn’t have to serve something you morally object to.

littlepattilou · 23/04/2021 21:48

As long as you are OK with going to someone's wedding, or party, or 'evening meal' and only being offered dairy and meat products, then yeah, go ahead and only offer vegan food at your wedding.

If you would not accept dairy or meat products in the food you were offered, then of COURSE you are being unreasonable to only offer vegan food to the guests at your wedding.

I can't believe you even have to ask! Confused

titchy · 23/04/2021 21:49

Go for it! It's just nice food at the end of the day. Just happens to not include meat or dairy.

No one would moan that you're serving carrots instead of peas. Don't see why people should moan if you're
serving something else instead of meat.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 23/04/2021 21:49

Your wedding, your choice.

People might decline because of it (or at least threaten to) and there will be some wazzocks who make a point of ordering a McDonalds. If you can live with that (and make a mental note of every single one of them) then you'll be fine.

Cookerhood · 23/04/2021 21:49

I'm not vegan or even veggie but I would love it!

MojoJojo71 · 23/04/2021 21:50

YANBU. If I were invited to the wedding of a couple who were both vegan I would expect a vegan menu. It won’t kill them to not eat animal produce for one meal.

KatharinaRosalie · 23/04/2021 21:50

Of course it's fine. Nobody has to eat meat every single meal.

PumpingPamela · 23/04/2021 21:50

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Today 21:44inthewest

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.
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Today 21:46JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows

Go for it - I always think the best weddings are ones that reflect the taste of the bride and groom.
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Today 21:46Solasum

Could you post the proposed menu?
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Today 21:47PurpleDaisies

It’s your wedding. Dh and I went vegan/veggie after getting married but if we were to plan another wedding now there would be no meat.

What’s on the menu?
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Today 21:47GammyLeg

Absolutely it’s just one meal - go for it! I’m guessing your partners family have been a pain about other aspects of your wedding too...
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Today 21:47Sparkletastic

It's fine.
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Today 21:47Welshmaenad

YANBU to serve delicious food that absolutely everyone can enjoy. Nor are you unreasonable to only want to pay for food in keeping with your morals.

Uncle Kevin will survive without steak for one dinner.
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Today 21:47Tippexy

Let's see the menu.
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Today 21:48blueberryporridge

I am vegetarian and had exclusively vegetarian meals at our wedding. My feeling is that it is your day and if you object to animals being killed for food, why would you allow that to happen for your wedding celebration? I am sure with careful selection of food, most people probably won't even notice.
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Today 21:48LagunaBubbles

You will get lots if replies along the lines "your wedding, your day, your choice" which is true so its entirely up to you. But personally I see it as a party where you want to look after your guests. So go ahead if you want to

So long as the food is good (and there's a free bar Wink) I really don't think people will mind.

TheKeatingFive · 23/04/2021 21:50

But personally I see it as a party where you want to look after your guests

And they can’t eat delicious vegan food for one meal why again?

OP, it’s your day, do what you want.

PurpleDaisies · 23/04/2021 21:51

@littlepattilou

As long as you are OK with going to someone's wedding, or party, or 'evening meal' and only being offered dairy and meat products, then yeah, go ahead and only offer vegan food at your wedding.

If you would not accept dairy or meat products in the food you were offered, then of COURSE you are being unreasonable to only offer vegan food to the guests at your wedding.

I can't believe you even have to ask! Confused

Ah, one of these posts already.

Have a vegan Biscuit

WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 23/04/2021 21:51

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest! In fact I'd enjoy the chance to try food I wouldn't usually have.