To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

[inthewest]

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

Go for it OP. You're essentially paying for everyone to have a free party, you get to specify what is served!

Personally I would be intrigued - I have never eaten vegan food and have no interest in becoming vegan but part of me would be fascinated to actually experience a vegan meal.

Your wedding, your choice...period.

It’s a privilege to be invited to someone’s wedding so if anyone has push back then they don’t need to come simple as that! If someone told me what I could/could not have at my wedding I would be livid Xxx

But the fact is, when a vegan puts food on, (for a non-vegan,) it tastes like bland mashed up cardboard.

You don’t like chips? You don’t like noodles? You don’t like thai curries, or Indian curries? I wouldn’t say any of those taste like bland cardboard. Maybe you need to start going to different takeaways

Definitely YANBU.

It's funded by you and I wouldn't want to pay for animal products any other time, so why do it on your wedding? Find a good vegan caterer and pick different options that everyone will enjoy. It's entirely your choice what food you choose to serve. It would be considered rude to comment on someone's menu choice if it didn't have a label like vegan.

It will also feel more authentically 'you', especially as a couple which is surely what weddings are all about!!

Good luck and enjoy your day

Cheese though...

I don't eat Indian food same as I don't eat food from other countries or the ingredients of vegan food

I am most puzzled by this comment? No vegetables, no grains? Just steak for every meal?

@littlepattilou

In typical mumsnet fashion, meat eaters have to bend over backwards to accommodate vegans, but vegans NEVER have to do ANYTHING to accommodate meat eaters.

This never happens in real life. NEVER.

What ARE you on about?

If it never happens in real life then why are you so aggressive?

Of course YANBU, and I say that as an unapologetically enthusiastic carnivore who will be enjoying a sausage sandwich for breakfast tomorrow. If I were invited to your wedding I would be look forward to enjoying some delicious vegan food. A spicy Gujarati thali, perhaps?

If anyone moans, just give them a plate of chips with a sachet of ketchup. Everyone’s happy.

Would find it strange for a vegan couple yo serve non vegan food to be honest. It wouldn't bother me, its only one meal and I'd happily eat it, it is your wedding so should be food you enjoy and that doesn't go against your beliefs.

Vegan food? Fine. But for the love of god not mushrooms.

Only thing I would miss would be milk for a coffee. Not a fan of the nut juices and other alternatives in a latte.

Food would be absolutely fine as long as it's not the fake meat, which you are evidently aware of so fine. Though it's hard to say without any hint of the menu.

No instagram lies though 😁. Nice, proper food not trying to pretend being something else is always the best. No matter whether it's veg or meat.

Absolutely go for it! I went to wedding a couple of years ago which Ottolenghi catered for (not the person, but one of his restaurants), it was all vegan and absolutely delicious! I'm a vegetarian, and love vegetables in all forms. There is far more flavours in vegetables than in meat, and you can season them too. Not sure why people are saying it's bland.

The only issue I could foresee would be feeding pulse or legume heavy meals to people not used to eating much of them, which could cause discomfort and well...gas.

I am very happy about amount of mushroom haters here😁

@nocoolnamesleft

Vegan food? Fine. But for the love of god not mushrooms.

What's with the mushroom hate? We are enthusiastic meat eaters in our house but if I can add mushrooms to a dish then I will!

Serve what you want at your own wedding.

You're paying for it, it's your wedding. Do what the fuck you want.

Sounds great! Anything's better than bland boring chicken

@lljkk

MN has had this thread before

I don't recall knowing anything about the wedding menu in advance for any wedding I attended. Except my own when we chose the food. Is that common - that people know what the wedding buffet food theme/type will be in advance?

It's not uncommon to have a menu sent to you to choose which option you'd like.

It's good because there's less food waste

A lot of vegetarians/vegans are asked, if it's going to be V/V or if there'll be 'real/nice food' 🙄🙄

YANBU - your wedding your rules although I do like to see at weddings when meat eaters still cater for veggie and vegans I think it's considerate so I guess I have the same viewpoint here, it's fine to do full vegan but would just be thoughtful to include meat too.

No right or wrong though and either way is fine

I am a meat eater, not keen on vegetables but i would be happy for the opportunity to have something different. Wedding food can be very 'samey'.

I’m a meat eater and I wouldn’t expect to attend the wedding of two vegans and be served meat.

Vegan food is bland cack

This is hilarious! Vegan food? You mean all the other delicious foods that exists when you take away meat and dairy products!

I went to a vegan wedding with a vegan menu and I had made the vegan cake for them.

There was a few comments from grandma type people, but everyone knew in advance.

For the evening the had a vegan burger van, lots of people just ate chips but that was their choice there was some lovely vegan burgers to chose from.

Happy omnivore here. As long as people can find out the ingredients if they need to check for allergens (including rare allergens not just the big 8) it’s completely fine. No reason I can’t enjoy a vegan feast.

There are probably only two meals a year that I would be unhappy being served vegan food and those are meals where I have very strong family traditions for eating specific dishes.

For me it would depend on what the food is as I can't eat many pulses or soy which can limit choices.

I'm really not getting all the hate for mushrooms on this thread. Mushrooms are amazing!