To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

[inthewest]

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

@Hiphopopotamus @WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo Call me a idiot if it makes you feel better. Firing personal insults at me for having a different opinion, says a lot more about you though. And that goes out to anyone else insulting me.

@Foolintherain

I'd be straight to McDonalds on the way home. But you do what suits you.

How do you know?

Would those people freaking out about the lack of meat refuse to attend an Indian wedding, where they might not serve English food?? Y'know, their culture, their food.... just like vegans.

Its your wedding and you're entitled to serve whatever you want. I'd personally be surprised to go to a wedding of 2 vegans and get meat. I'd say as long as you have a couple of options its no problem. I dont see why 1 choice can't be a meat substitute either.

@Foolintherain

I'd be straight to McDonalds on the way home. But you do what suits you.

Same here. People can go on all they like about all this food and that food being vegan, and how thick people must be to not know that blah blah blah.... But the fact is, when a vegan puts food on, (for a non-vegan,) it tastes like bland mashed up cardboard.

Fuck that for a game of soldiers. I'd be taking a packed lunch with me.

@littlepattilou

In typical mumsnet fashion, meat eaters have to bend over backwards to accommodate vegans, but vegans NEVER have to do ANYTHING to accommodate meat eaters.

This never happens in real life. NEVER.

It actually does. My cousin is vegan. If she visits me, I buy oat milk and make sure I have bourbons or Oreos in for her brew, hummus and pitta bread as a snack. My granddad always has a packet of bourbons in for her, too. The same as I always ensure I buy halal meat when preparing a meal for my best friend who is Muslim. I accommodate their life choices which are aligned to their ethics.

I would not expect my cousin to stock cow's milk for my brew nor my friend to serve me pork when it's something that is against their morals.

It causes me no bother to eat their foods.

@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows I love stuffed peppers and mushrooms!

I also love a good steak but would be more than happy with vegan menu. My older teens might not be so keen but would politely eat I hope (and moan later).

I am a meat eater, and would happily come and look forward to trying the food.
I wouldn't actually expect two vegans to offer meat at their wedding.

Obviously it's fine to serve vegan food but you do need to take into account older adults if applicable who only eat plain food aka meat and 2 veg. My parents for example don't eat anything with spice

I also like stuffed peppers.
Highjacking thread for ideas (not my wedding, one of my dcs)
Main wedding meal is hog roast
Followed by crepe van for pudding
Fish and chip van in evening who will do veggie battered sausages 😳

I have been trialling things for veggies ( no known vegans atm) but if stuffed peppers are 🤨 then ?

But the fact is, when a vegan puts food on, (for a non-vegan,) it tastes like bland mashed up cardboard.

Your vegan friends aren’t very good cooks then.

Yanbu in the slightest OP

I’d be fine with it and enjoy trying new foods.

I would love that. We are veggie heading towards vegan and it would be a real treat.

@funnylittlefloozie

Would those people freaking out about the lack of meat refuse to attend an Indian wedding, where they might not serve English food?? Y'know, their culture, their food.... just like vegans.

Are you actually kidding me right now?

As if Indian food and vegan shite is even comparable.

Indian food is LUSH. Vegan food is bland cack.

@littlepattilou

As long as you are OK with going to someone's wedding, or party, or 'evening meal' and only being offered dairy and meat products, then yeah, go ahead and only offer vegan food at your wedding.

If you would not accept dairy or meat products in the food you were offered, then of COURSE you are being unreasonable to only offer vegan food to the guests at your wedding.

I can't believe you even have to ask!

I eat meat. I also eat plants. I'm fine with a meal of just plants.

A vegan only eats plants. Your logic is very flawed.

Will there be chip butties and ketchup in the evening? Because I'm coming if there is.

It wouldn’t bother me

I'd be happy with vegetarian food. Vegan, not so much.

@PurpleDaisies

But the fact is, when a vegan puts food on, (for a non-vegan,) it tastes like bland mashed up cardboard.

Your vegan friends aren’t very good cooks then.

It's hard to be a good cook when you are limiting yourself to vegan cack.

@Crankley

I don't eat most of what makes food vegan so would probably suggest to you I would be happy to attend the evening part of your wedding as I wouldn't want you to waste money on food that won't be eaten by me..

What you never eat chips? Or vegetables? Or rice? Or pasta? Weird...

It's hard to be a good cook when you are limiting yourself to vegan cack.

You mean vegetables?

indian food is LUSH. Vegan food is bland cack

What about indian vegan food

I’m not vegan, but I went to a vegan wedding. Didn’t know it was vegan until the day. It was Indian food and served in big bowls that you could help your self to all along the tables. It was delicious!

I love vegan food, and would be very happy. My husband would be disappointed if I'm honest. He likes a goats cheese tart, or a vegetable lasagne, however when I've occasionally cooked a vegan meal (carrot dhal or falafels) he has cut up a chorizo or whatever random meat or cheese he can get hold of to go on the side.