AIBU to expect a teacher (primary) to know my DC DOB and congratulate on the day?

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My DS had a birthday today and his teacher hasn't said anything. I'm not sure if it's a done thing to congratulate kids in class on their birthday, though. It was when I was in school (different country). He said the school didn't know it was his BD today (he was there since nursery) and he said it didn't bother him, but he's quite shy and difficult to read, so I think he was hurt but wouldn't admit it.
WIBU to expect a teacher to say "Happy Birthday"? And would you drop a line to the teacher to remind them?

I'm a TA and barely have access to it anyways.

No wall displays allowed anymore. GDPR. I don't make the rules.

There are still ways. You just have a photo of each child's face and a number (for the day in the month of their birthday) and then stick them in the month that their birthday is in. No years obvs.

It’s funny, in the time that the indignant teachers have spent expressing their outrage on here, they probably could have diarised their pupils birthdays. But a rant on mumsnet is a much better use of your efforts isn’t it?!

Teachers are not allowed time to themselves at all in a day then?
Every waking moment should be dedicated to children?

Christ have a word with yourself.

@AccidentallyOnPurpose as a solicitor who advises on GDPR I can assure you that is bollocks

@LastRoloIsMine

It’s funny, in the time that the indignant teachers have spent expressing their outrage on here, they probably could have diarised their pupils birthdays. But a rant on mumsnet is a much better use of your efforts isn’t it?!

Teachers are not allowed time to themselves at all in a day then?
Every waking moment should be dedicated to children?

Christ have a word with yourself.

Jeez - are you actually a teacher then?

No wall displays allowed anymore. GDPR. I don't make the rules.
What about Google calendar?
I don't think it is a big ask in primary school. It's nice to see lots of teacher's do make the effort.
They don't have to sing or say it to the classroom a quietly spoken "Happy Birthday" from teacher would cheer most DC up.

Our school always acknowledge birthdays but we only have 26 in the whole school! The kids friends tend to remind the teacher by bringing in presents but to be honest my kids would rather the teacher had no idea and didn't sing happy birthday or make a big deal of it!

Jeez - are you actually a teacher then?

God no. I dont have the patience.

I just respect the hard work teachers do and I dont expect them to live and breath my child 24/7.

Do you hate teachers?

Primary school worker here. All the primary classes have a birthday board on the wall. It really doesn't take much to set up at the start of the year. And it means all the kids know when all the birthdays are and countdown each month, and keep the teachers informed too.

I suppose it's fair enough if teachers/schools don't want to do something like that. But I do find it sad at the amount of teachers on here laughing like this is the most ridiculous thing ever. Or making out like that they are soooo busy that they couldn't possibly find the time to do even a list on each month's register and then sing a quick Happy Birthday during registration.

You know teachers don't sleep at school right?
The data is in the school computer.

I have remote access to mine. Noone else?

I have remote access to mine. Noone else?

Yup me too, doubt there is a school in the UK without remote access.

😂😂😂😂😂😂 yes YABU

My DD had a 'birthday board' in her classroom but not sure about my older DCs.It's nice thing but doesn't bother me at all.
Unless you have sent a birthday cake and party bags to celebrate you are BVVU.
Poor teachers,now scrutinised for not making fuss about PFBs.

No wall displays allowed anymore. GDPR. I don't make the rules

That is definitely one of the better bullshit GDPR stories. Its become the "health and safety" excuse for stupidity.

[quote girasol]@AccidentallyOnPurpose as a solicitor who advises on GDPR I can assure you that is bollocks [/quote]
Nope just a TA. There used to be, now they're gone. I don't make policies, I have very little power to argue against them and I definitely can't go and do my own thing because again policies and consistency.

As it is , for all my flippancy, we have never missed a birthday. We sing,we cheer,we clap, we share sweets if any are brought in , we remind the kids to say Happy Birthday again and say thank you when they get sweets etc.

We also do many many other things to celebrate the children,their achievement, to ensure their wellbeing (physical,mental and emotional) , to have fun , to ensure they make progress, to support in various ways and so on.

I just don't frikking know birthdays.

I actually do think it's odd the teacher doesn't know birthdays. Every class my kids were in during primary had some kind of chart on the wall with birthdays on. Of course this is mumsnet so the general consensus will be No one deserves to be celebrated for anything ever & nobody cares about anyone's birthday.

We have a birthday board in each class - it’s not a GDPR breach (someone queried this when I was a governor and luckily one of our other governors was a GDPR lead in our hospital so was able to disprove that nonsense).

Birthdays weren’t mentioned at my DC primary. Multiethnic school. Probably about two thirds didn’t celebrate birthdays.

My DS' (6yr) s teacher knows all the birthdays, they list them in their class calendar, easy to remember that way.

Probably about two thirds didn’t celebrate birthdays.

I worked in a school with a similar demographic, we still acknowledged the birthdays of the children who did celebrate them.

Oh God imagine if we did make a big fuss of birthdays, then there would be a thread called 'my childs birthday is in August, how can the teacher make it up to him as he never gets a fuss made of him by school"

It is pretty rubbish for August birthdays in UK schools.

Constantly being compared to older peers at an age when 6 months age difference is a developmental difference. For many children that stagger doesn't unwind until after primary school age and you can still see the difference in public exam results do to the early years impact.

All the birthday activities schools carry out never give the August (and presumably Christmas - New Year) birthdays a turn. Its pretty rubbish when all your friends have their class/school birthday and you never qualify. However I don't think my DM for my sibling or me for two of mine ever considered starting a thread in the contemporary of AIBU. There are many other battles to fight through with children. This isn't that hill.

@OppsUpsSide

I have remote access to mine. Noone else?

Yup me too, doubt there is a school in the UK without remote access.

Not relevant to the conversation here, but there definitely are! I work in one.

As for birthdays, sure it's nice for teachers to acknowledge. But I agree with most that it's not a big deal if they don't. I try to wish all of mine a happy birthday, but it's much more likely I'll remember if they come in with a badge (or are the type of kid who gives you a countdown for months beforehand ).

Our primary school has a birthday assembly every week and every birthday is mentioned, I think the kids are given bookmarks, it's cute but I assume the office staff deal with this rather than the teachers

Do you hate teachers?

Err, no. I can't say I have ever hated every single member of any profession. Because, you know, that would be irrational and very odd. Teachers are just people like the rest of us, some are excellent, some are shit and there's a whole host of other variants in between. I've largely experienced brilliant teachers. One awful. And she really was absolutely appalling. Openly nasty to a specific group of children. (Although, thinking back, even she still made a fuss of birthdays!)