AIBU to expect a teacher (primary) to know my DC DOB and congratulate on the day?

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My DS had a birthday today and his teacher hasn't said anything. I'm not sure if it's a done thing to congratulate kids in class on their birthday, though. It was when I was in school (different country). He said the school didn't know it was his BD today (he was there since nursery) and he said it didn't bother him, but he's quite shy and difficult to read, so I think he was hurt but wouldn't admit it.
WIBU to expect a teacher to say "Happy Birthday"? And would you drop a line to the teacher to remind them?

I will say happy birthday if I realise but shall I not set for up for my maths lesson or my literacy lesson while I check on Simms for birthdays each morning ?

I don't think you can expect them to know. My child always wore a badge and the teacher would usually allow them to be the helpers for the day etc. The children usually sing happy birthday to their friends in the dinner hall at lunch at my children's school but a new deputy head teacher has just put a stop to that.

How long would it take you to memorise 30 birthdays? You say he's been there since nursery but with the same teachers? Maybe you expect teachers to have a calendar of all the children's birthdays and to check each morning or a system that tells them it a child's birthday. YANBU

YABU that should say

Possibly not allowed to sing indoors due to Covid guidance. It did advice against it in earlier guidance .

It is true that in these days of technology, it's not impossible to have everyone's birthday at your fingertips. What is more of a mental load is remembering who wants their birthday acknowledged publicly: who doesn't like birthdays, or doesn't celebrate them for religious reasons, or is shy, or might be bullied about the birthday (at the best of times, some children's playground birthday customs can be a bit 'rigorous' - bumps, smacks, etc.) Most children do want a fuss made of their birthday at school, but not all do.

Please don't be so ridiculous.

Is this a real post?

Please don't be so ridiculous.

Is this a real post?

Why would you think it wasn't real countless pp's have confirmed their DC have a birthday mentioned.
Many teachers said they take the time to wish their students a Happy Birthday.
Birthday wishes are a big thing for DC.

A doesn't have to be a fuss teacher could say it quietly.

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It really is not alot to ask, especially in such a small class. I would never let a child's birthday pass without acknowledging it. There's more to life than the curriculum, and I would love for the children in my care to have fond memories of special moments in school.

That's ridiculous! As if the teacher doesn't have enough to do! The DoB would be in the register but you can't expect a teacher to look at that every day. A lot of children tell the teacher it's their birthday.

Once I went into school and told the teacher it was my birthday and she said ‘Oh m, Happy Birthday Raspberry’
Another kid said ‘Miss, it’s my baby brothers birthday today too’ and she said ‘Ooh what’s his name!’
And then she sang happy birthday to the boys brother who wasn’t there.

No I’m still not over it. 🤣

Above poster is correct: no singing allowed in schools due to Covid.

So OP, what would you rather?
That a teacher knows EXACTLY what you child needs to do to move forwards and reach their potential (which all the best teachers do, yet MANY don't) or would you rather said teacher knows your child's birthday?
Honestly, what ignorance! It is up to YOU to make a fuss of your child on their birthday, not their teacher. This is a PARENTING issue rather than an educational one.

As a teacher l always checked birthdays. lt was important to the children l taught so it was important to me. And l had a class of 35.

Our school has all the bdays on the wall in each classroom so I assume they get mentioned each day but I have never checked. They are marked in assembly each week through

I have a chart in my classroom not so I can check it but because its a display I can leave up year round. I'm afraid I suspect many teachers do the same for the same reason! I have spent my own money on birthday 'parties' for children in my class during lockdown so they could have a celebration in class time that they wouldn't have had otherwise, but I very much expect children to tell me (as they do, for weeks and weeks beforehand) that it's their birthday, I certainly don't ever fill in a calendar or similar at the start of the year nor have ever met any teacher who does. I know I'm well liked by parents and children and am known for being a caring teacher. Some of the comments on this thread are bonkers!

YANBU. I'm quite shocked at a lot of the replies, its a class of 12 so I'd expect the teacher to know. My DH is a PS teacher and they have a birthday chart on the classroom wall. Birthdays are such a huge deal for little ones, how can people say that we're turning them into spoiled brats for making a fuss of them on their birthdays! There are plenty of ways children become spolit and I don't believe this is one of them. Some children have a difficult home life and this could mean everything to them. We are in Ireland and I'm wondering if things are just totally different in the UK. When I was a child we always celebrated birthdays at school and it would be an exciting day. Shame for your son OP, I hope he was made a fuss of today like all children should be on their birthday.

But even if children are off (holidays, illness) they are still acknowledged when they return or, if their birthday is during summer holidays, before the end of the summer term. No one is left out.

Not in any school I've come across. Birthday signing/claps/own clothes etc happen on the day, maybe on the Monday for weekend birthdays but there was no catch up for holiday birthdays.

Honestly if you want to make a performance out of it then do. What I find absurd is the assumption that every teacher has time and is able, that every child wants it (plenty don't enjoy the fuss), and that activities which exclude a percentage of children teach them a damned thing about sharing and community.

There are many better ways to teach children about sharing and community spirit frankly.

At my kids primary school the teachers celebrate each chikfs birthday. I assumed it was something done in most schools. It's a lovely thing to do for the kids

I try always try and have tried my best to remember birthdays in my class but have previous forgotten. I am very very thankful when they come in wearing a giant badge!

I wrote birthday cards for every child in the class (those who celebrate) when I got my class list towards the end of summer term and wrote each birthday in my diary. They were kept in a drawer in class.

I was overlooked as a child when it was my birthday as it had fallen on the day before start of Autumn term. The headteacher who did birthday celebrations on a Friday didn't even mention me. Only happened once but I remember it very clearly.

I loved to make a fuss of each child when it was their special day. (Weekend birthdays were celebrated on the Friday before.)

Never ate the birthday cake brought in though 😬🤢. It went to the birds.

Oh, no! Am I really supposed to send them with a BADGE??

Writing cards and making lists and things like that are things I did in my early teaching career when I had more time and the pressures were less. Now I am older with my own family, more responsibility at work and more expectations and pressures at work I genuinely do not have the time to do it. I neglect my own children enough and barely drink or go to the toilet at work. Is it a shame that this is what has happened to the job? absolutely, but I do care about the children know them very well, they feel safe and happy in my class and make great progress. Honestly I think in the scheme of things this is a mountain out of a molehill. You can make the children feel valued in lots of ways without remembering everyone’s birthday.