I work for a complete narcissist..

[Pebbledashery]

I'm leaving my job in a few weeks.. Currently working my notice..moving onto a new role elsewhere.
My CEO is a complete narcissist.. Today she has pushed me to the absolute limit and I've broken.. She then tells me she doesn't need me crying and putting that on her as well as everything else.
I'm on a part time contract and I'm working full time hours. I'm a single parent but never ever let my personal circumstances get in the way of work. I think I'm a hard working and professional EA. I've got 15 years of experience in the industry.
I've resigned primarily because of her.. I actually feel bullied by her. Nobody seems to tell her she behaves inappropriately or speaks awfully to colleagues.. We have no proper HR department in our company..
I hate every day I have to work here. They've kept me to my 4 weeks notice and asked me to work an extra couple of days to help because its a ridiculously busy time. I agreed because I'm a good person but now feel like telling them to stuff it. I hate it. I hate my job and I hate her. I don't respect a CEO that is a bully.
No point to this thread just wanted to vent because I've been in tears all morning.

Can't wait to never have to listen to her pig voice and see her pig face ever again.

I think every EA and PA has had a boss like this. Been there myself and it's like there are some people who cannot deal with people who won't break. I had a boss who in all earnestness blamed me for bad traffic on the M3 due to an accident (I should have known), for an external company not having a timetable to his convenience and for his preferred shorts having gone out of production. Also his diary was always a mess and he did not think anyone else was as incompetentas me.
Sorry you're having to deal with this just before you leave, she sounds horrendous.

I once left a job I hated a day early, so I didn't have to deal with the leaving speech nonsense. I gave my pass and drawer key to a colleague who I lived near and emailed in sick. He pretended to have got my stuff from me over the weekend, when in reality I was on holiday.

You’re sounding stronger OP

This time last week she nearly broke you, but you’ve progressed to both pitying and loathing her!

In 2 weeks time you can put her out of your mind for good!

@Pebbledashery

Can't wait to never have to listen to her pig voice and see her pig face ever again.

Just make sure that from 4:29pm on your last official day you block her EVERYWHERE- incl your social media if necessary. You really don't want her bad smelly following you into the next part of your life. 🌹

Hi OP, your posts are eerily familiar. I was in a similar position, even down to the fact that they insisted I do my full notice even though they wouldn’t give me any work to do as ‘punishment’ for leaving/being useless. I’m so glad you’ve decided to stick it out - I did too because they want you to go off sick as it helps their internal narrative of you being ‘useless’ and them being glad you are leaving because you’re so hopeless. I’m afraid it will ramp up further before you go, but you sound like you’ve got a handle on it now. I just used to sit and giggle internally as mine got progressively more lunatic and hysterical as my leaving date approached.

The wonderful thing in these situations is that EVERYBODY in your office knows what they are like, they are probably too afraid to say anything but they all know - that’s why people are offering to help you with work.

Count down the days, laugh at her in your head, imagine the big Fuck Off sign and most importantly, good luck in your new job!

@Woolly17

I had a boss who in all earnestness blamed me for bad traffic on the M3 due to an accident (I should have known), for an external company not having a timetable to his convenience and for his preferred shorts having gone out of production. Also his diary was always a mess and he did not think anyone else was as incompetentas me.

I once had a very irate boss phone my home (pre-mobile days) because his PA, who lived with me, hadn't booked a car to meet him at the airport from his flight.

He got very antsy when I refused to wake my friend (9am in a Sunday morning!) to rant at her and get her to book his car! I was very polite to him and suggested it would be easier if he joined the taxi queue to get home and gently put the phone down in the stunned silence... incidentally she told me he'd said he didn't want a booking made! 🌹

@ohdeariedear ha i love that. Progressively more lunatic and hysterical, that is literally her!! She's just using any excuse now. I haven't taken something out the diary yet that I was waiting on the confirmation of cancellation from the other person and apparently I'm slacking on the diary 🙄
I'm not allowed to send invitations from her diary, I'm not allowed to put things in without checking every single thing, I have specific hours I work to. I have to offer people 3 months in advance because I know it'll just cancelled. Working for her is just an embarrassment.

@Woolly17

I think every EA and PA has had a boss like this. Been there myself and it's like there are some people who cannot deal with people who won't break. I had a boss who in all earnestness blamed me for bad traffic on the M3 due to an accident (I should have known), for an external company not having a timetable to his convenience and for his preferred shorts having gone out of production. Also his diary was always a mess and he did not think anyone else was as incompetentas me. Sorry you're having to deal with this just before you leave, she sounds horrendous.

You should've bloody known 🤣😝

If it wasn't so fucking expensive, I'd recommend getting HER this as a leaving gift:
www.notonthehighstreet.com/chipsandsprinkles/product/thinking-of-you-voodoo-doll-funny-mug

Or better still - one of these (it's a little more affordable) -
www.iwantoneofthose.com/home-accessories/c-nt-mug-white-black/12070992.html

I'd leave it on your desk, pop your head around her door and tell her that you've left her a little something on your desk as a little thank you for every opportunity she has given you!

Glad this thread seems to be helping you OP. I've been in a similar position. On one occasion my bullying boss shouted at me in the middle of the office for 'letting her down again'- because I could not get hold of a colleague in another country who was prepared to have an unexpected conference call with a client that afternoon. I had told her it was a big national holiday (the office was was entirely closed) there but apparently if I was a bit more 'resourceful' I would have got hold of someone. Same boss also instructed me to make a copy of a file then made me stay very late on a Friday night printing extra documents that she forwarded to me. The fact that these were not in the original file was apparently my fault- despite the fact that the file all related to something closed years before I worked there. It was well know that she was awful to work for and a few people before me had complained, but she was popular with the big bosses so nothing was ever done about it.

Any excuse now - that’s exactly it. She knows she’s vulnerable now - she’s going to have to deal with someone new and she’s worried if they leave too, questions will be asked about her staff turnover. All the pointing out you are shit is so that, to her mind, everyone else can see it’s a good job you are leaving before she fired toy because you are so rubbish. She knows fine she’s a nightmare, she just thinks she’s got you so cowed that you would never do anything about it. However, you’ve done the unthinkable and have resigned, leaving her and her behaviour exposed and she can’t stand it, hence the toddler tantrums.

In a funny way, you have all the power now as you are leaving, and she doesn’t have the same hold over you. Try and enjoy the next few days!

@LookItsMeAgain

Or better still - one of these (it's a little more affordable) - www.iwantoneofthose.com/home-accessories/c-nt-mug-white-black/12070992.html

I'd leave it on your desk, pop your head around her door and tell her that you've left her a little something on your desk as a little thank you for every opportunity she has given you!

🤣🤣🤣 This one is definitely more fitting 😁

You must be so happy to be leaving soon.
She's a total nutter and is doing her best to hurt and upset you because you're getting away and won't have to deal with her anymore.
If you can just nod and agree, be as nice as pie, even in the face of rudeness. She's lost her power over you and she knows it.

I worked for one of these but she was wasn't as bad. Made my working life miserable.

You have my sympathies

You don't work in travel, do you? I know someone just like this. She's a monster. Also completely incompetent.

God, I worked for one of these. The job I was leaving for was 400 miles away (yes, she was that bad) and I had to finish on the Friday, move over the weekend and start on the Monday because she wouldn’t allow me to take my accrued leave (about a week) but insisted I work it, just o make things as difficult as possible.

Remember that you’ve won. It doesn’t matter what she says to you or a out you. You’ve got a brilliant new job 🌸

*about

She is deeply disturbed.

I think I would be adopting the faux concerned face and "the woman isn't well, she's to be pity really" to anyone.

Aaaaaaarrrrrrggggghhhhh help me!!!!!!! I want to scream.

What’s happening @Pebbledashery? Has she upped the lunacy?

So we've just had a handover catch up with her and our team.. She wanted everyone else to go off the call at the end and then speak to me on my own.
She was so sickly nice to me and basically said if it doesn't work out in the new job and if I'm not enjoying it then to give her a call and she'll always be a friend to me. I felt my stomach twist.
Very calmly.. I said.... "thank you, but I have no doubt in my mind I'll be just fine as ultimately I will be happier" :) she did her stupid posh laugh then ended the call.

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Isn’t it interesting that all these monster bosses (that are mentioned here) are women?.....

Good one Pebble! And I bet you said to yourself "don't hold your breath as hell will freeze over before I work for you again"

I've worked for, and left a job, due to a narc and you've done the right thing, imho.

Onwards and upwards in your new job. In the meantime have a great weekend ;-)