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I work for a complete narcissist..

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Pebbledashery · 22/04/2021 12:52

I'm leaving my job in a few weeks.. Currently working my notice..moving onto a new role elsewhere.
My CEO is a complete narcissist.. Today she has pushed me to the absolute limit and I've broken.. She then tells me she doesn't need me crying and putting that on her as well as everything else.
I'm on a part time contract and I'm working full time hours. I'm a single parent but never ever let my personal circumstances get in the way of work. I think I'm a hard working and professional EA. I've got 15 years of experience in the industry.
I've resigned primarily because of her.. I actually feel bullied by her. Nobody seems to tell her she behaves inappropriately or speaks awfully to colleagues.. We have no proper HR department in our company..
I hate every day I have to work here. They've kept me to my 4 weeks notice and asked me to work an extra couple of days to help because its a ridiculously busy time. I agreed because I'm a good person but now feel like telling them to stuff it. I hate it. I hate my job and I hate her. I don't respect a CEO that is a bully.
No point to this thread just wanted to vent because I've been in tears all morning.

OP posts:
Quitelikeacatslife · 11/05/2021 08:31

Happy last day, you are amazing .
Notes for response to speech from witch
"Thank you for all the colleagues who have been amazing and supportive to me, you know who you are I will miss you, for those that haven't I wish you well too, you'll need it"

Lysianthus · 11/05/2021 08:37

Another happy last day from me 💐

6Helen7 · 11/05/2021 08:50

Hope it all goes well today. Be the bigger person, don't rise to the bait. Keep smiling, hold your head high, walk away and don't look back.

ThewaterlilliesofGiverny · 11/05/2021 08:50
Flowers Best wishes for your last day!
Dontjudgeme101 · 11/05/2021 09:00

Congratulations on making it to your last day! 💐

tralalalalalalalalala · 11/05/2021 09:02

It's your last day! So pleased this is coming to an end for you. I hope she is left high and dry!!
Good luck in your new job Smile

Zzelda · 11/05/2021 09:07

Basically said that I have to finish the 1 million tasks she's given me before logging off tomorrow.

Response, I hope: I will do what I can within my contracted working hours.

Good luck today!

Kenneldogsrock · 11/05/2021 09:11

Good luck for today! Leave with a Cheshire Cat grin and a cheery wave. It will piss her off enormously! Grin

RightYesButNo · 11/05/2021 09:17

Not going to lie; I’ve been lurking on the thread and I’m here for the last day. Many congratulations, @Pebbledashery, for surviving this, and it’s horrible that anyone has to “survive” these things. Your boss has been truly vile. Unfortunately, even though it’s your last day, do watch out for any bear traps she may have set down for you to step in. I imagine her vitriol will be at an all-time high.

I also thought everyone on thread would love this story I heard last night. My friend had to quit her job recently after months of bullying from her boss led to a breakdown. It should have qualified as harassment, but the boss one above didn’t want to get involved. My friend was unable to consider anything like a lawsuit or employment board or what have you as she was so sick and worn down (and had a 1 year old at home) that her doctor said she needed stress-free rest, so she simply quit and left. But, she’s JUST heard that her replacement was there less than a month and has now quit citing bullying and harassment! So the bully may end up fired now after all, if the company wants to protect itself. (I’m guessing you don’t have hope of that, OP, since I think you said this is a start-up and your bully is the CEO).

Pebbledashery · 11/05/2021 09:30

Thank you for my lovely well wishes. You guys have been so lovely getting me through this.. Got my embarrassing presentation at 10.00am, no doubt she'll make it all about her!!

OP posts:
GCAcademic · 11/05/2021 09:31

Are we having a party tonight to celebrate? Wine Cake

PhilCornwall1 · 11/05/2021 09:35

@Pebbledashery

Thank you for my lovely well wishes. You guys have been so lovely getting me through this.. Got my embarrassing presentation at 10.00am, no doubt she'll make it all about her!!
Everyone expects the person leaving to make a speech. Get one of her really shitty, bullying emails and read it out, then finish with saying "I feel for you all, because that's the type of person you have to put up with. Good luck all".
NoSquirrels · 11/05/2021 09:42

@Pebbledashery

Thank you for my lovely well wishes. You guys have been so lovely getting me through this.. Got my embarrassing presentation at 10.00am, no doubt she'll make it all about her!!
10.00am! So she can be lovely about you in prime working hours and then shout at you from 10.15 onwards about how you're sooo inefficient and you'll have to stay on to get it all done...

But nevermind. Get a nice cuppa and a biscuit and nod and smile, nod and smile. Channel your impression of the Mona Lisa and you can't go far wrong.

If you need any words to say yourself, I'd go with "I'm not good with speeches but I just wanted to say thank you BitchBoss for the opportunity to get to know the wonderful team here. It's been a challenging time in the last year or so, and you all know how much you mean to me, so I'm not going to embarrass anyone by saying any more." And then nod and smile, nod and smile.

NoSquirrels · 11/05/2021 09:43

Or do what Phil says Grin. Tempting...!

Atalune · 11/05/2021 09:49

Just read the whole thread.

You are a saint! Good luck today xx

Halsall · 11/05/2021 10:24

Pebble I’ve just found your thread and read it open-mouthed in horror. Nothing much to add to all the supportive comments as your boss is clearly a full paid-up psycho and everyone is right, but in the spirit of all Mastercheffians, please channel our traditional cry in your head by silently (if not actually) bellowing FUCK OFF [insert psycho boss’s name here]

And roll on the end of the day!

magicstar1 · 11/05/2021 10:43

Hope it's not too bad today...just keep remembering that no matter what she says, it doesn't matter anymore. I find that a small, smug half smile will just show her exactly what you think.

Diamondnights · 11/05/2021 10:52

Last day, last day, last day! You are almost there! You have done so, so well! Flowers

McPie · 11/05/2021 10:57

Happy last day, you rock Flowers Star
Good luck with your new job!

Glittertwins · 11/05/2021 12:01

Also been reading with horror about what you've had to put up with. Sounds similar to DH's ex boss. Enjoy your evening of freedom today!!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 11/05/2021 12:07

I hope the presentation wasn't too awful, @Pebbledashery - not many hours to go until you are free as a bird!!

If MN had bunting, I'd be stringing it all over the thread!

poorbuthappy · 11/05/2021 12:08

How was it?
Did you keep your cool? Or did you deal with her Grin

Roboticcarrot · 11/05/2021 12:11

Ah so pleased for you OP!

Blacktothepink · 11/05/2021 12:12

...waits patiently for cringe presentation update...

SailingBuddy · 11/05/2021 12:35

Eeeep. Last day! Hoorah!