I work for a complete narcissist..

[Pebbledashery]

I'm leaving my job in a few weeks.. Currently working my notice..moving onto a new role elsewhere.
My CEO is a complete narcissist.. Today she has pushed me to the absolute limit and I've broken.. She then tells me she doesn't need me crying and putting that on her as well as everything else.
I'm on a part time contract and I'm working full time hours. I'm a single parent but never ever let my personal circumstances get in the way of work. I think I'm a hard working and professional EA. I've got 15 years of experience in the industry.
I've resigned primarily because of her.. I actually feel bullied by her. Nobody seems to tell her she behaves inappropriately or speaks awfully to colleagues.. We have no proper HR department in our company..
I hate every day I have to work here. They've kept me to my 4 weeks notice and asked me to work an extra couple of days to help because its a ridiculously busy time. I agreed because I'm a good person but now feel like telling them to stuff it. I hate it. I hate my job and I hate her. I don't respect a CEO that is a bully.
No point to this thread just wanted to vent because I've been in tears all morning.

I feel like she's stepped on my throat and i can't speak

I feel really angry reading this, especially as she knows you and DD had to flee an abuser.

Fuck her. Go off sick. Or just work your contracted hours. Your colleagues will have to deal with your workload anyway, when you're gone. The company you work for is a disgrace. She's supposed to be working, not actively seeking out bullying opportunities. She'll meet her match one day.

I hope you walk into your new job on the 1st day, happy and smiling.

The eleventy million tasks is hilarious - she knows that you won’t be able to do them so she can spend the next week moaning to all and sundry about how you upped and left her in the lurch. Which of course is not even in the same postcode as the truth, and as I said to you in my first post everybody knows what she’s like and will form their own judgement accordingly.

Tomorrow is a day to be endured as she will be completely unhinged, but don’t forget it is also your day of jubilee! You made it! Get to 4.30 and then high-tail it out of there, blocking her everywhere as go.

I agree! Don’t step foot in the office one minute early, take every second of every break and leave on the dot. If it ain’t finished, it ain’t your problem.

Also, prepare for calendar changes and blame-shifting galore!

I’d be busy making an effigy of her tomorrow and sticking pins in it 🤣

Final day 😁
The batshittery has started early... First email from her was received at 5.45am...I have my emails on my phone... Which I've just uninstalled😂

Good luck today! Stay strong 💪 in the face of this horrible, inadequate woman. Don't be too cowed to have a bit of fun though 😉 call her repeatedly, check everything 3 or 4 times - have some fun. Oh, and hold her up at speech/debrief time by popping to the loo as she starts and then switch everything off at 4.30. No goodbye, no nothing (but have sent your nice colleagues a goodbye email in advance. Tell her you can't concentrate properly as you are just soooooo excited to be leaving! 😂

@Pebbledashery

Final day 😁 The batshittery has started early... First email from her was received at 5.45am...I have my emails on my phone... Which I've just uninstalled😂

My word the woman's quite loopy! Well done for un-installing the email from your phone - that's a very positive way to start your last day before freedom! 🌹

Good luck for today Pebbledashery - I am surprisingly invested in the work trials of a person I don't know in RL! I admire your patience and tenacity, plus dignity - am following for tips basically seriously, good luck. You have a quiet army behind you!

Just read your whole thread. What an incredible woman you are! Best of luck for your last day of hell. Both DH and I have left jobs due to bullying and had to work torturous notice periods. It's horribly common. It might take longer than you think to truly de-stress from it, but it will all soon be confined to history.

Have a wonderful rest of the week off (make sure you give back all IT and block her number on your personal phone if you have it).

Very best of luck with the new job. Onward and upwards!

@Justilou1

Tribunal far too much work and emotional effort. Surely happiness and success in nee job which should not impinge on *@Pebbledashery*‘s real life like this is greater success. Let the old boss dig her own grave. I can imagine she’s going to go through EA’s like water.

I agree - when I left my batshit boss I was advised I’d could go for constructive dismissal. TBH I just wanted out, the sense of freedom was amazing. A court case would have just prolonged the agony.

Good luck today OP - just a few more hours to go, you can do it

Good luck today - enjoy it! You’ve a lot of people rooting for you!

@Pebbledashery

Goodness I was flat out today.. Literally didn't get time to go on mumsnet 😂..urgh she was soooooooooooooooooo vile to me today. Basically said that I have to finish the 1 million tasks she's given me before logging off tomorrow.. Thank you for my supportive messages . They are getting me through till tomorrow 😊😊😊

No you don't ! Last day is usually a chill day saying bye to your colleagues and having a lunch.

Chill, take your sweet time doing everything and write a lengthy handover for her. Then log off at 4.30pm and say CHEERIO!

Just read the full thread, WOW!
You've done so well Pebbles, from how the thread started to today, your strength is shining through and you have the added bonus of not giving her the satisfaction of going sick/finishing early.
I recently worked for an HoD who slowly bullied us all out to replace us with staff from her old company. I requested my exit interview was with the fairly new FD and I let rip, told him exactly what was going on. It felt good to know that just maybe something would be done about it!
HAPPY LAST DAY! 4:30 can't come quickly enough

LAST DAY @Pebbledashery = FREEDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Best of luck to you today. Please please do NOT work past 4:30 today. You deserve the biggest coolest drink possible after this!

Just caught up with all your posts @Pebbledashery

You’re one amazing person! Good luck today, she can’t do anything to you any more just do the time and log out

I’d be tempted to go grow her out of the meeting when she starts her spiel

Or leave the meeting yourself citing internet drop.

Hope you have the last laugh

See you on the other side :)

Best of luck OP.

Keep a large wide smile on your face today.

You did it.

Well done.

Bless you. Just leave it's not worth it.

Last Day!!! Wooop! I hope there is a bottle of something chilling in the fridge for tonight Pebbles.

If she said one more time about the job being yours if you want to come back, I’d have to make a comment like “you’ve spent my entire notice period telling me I’m slacking, I’m a terrible EA, I won’t survive in my new job. If I’m such a shit employee why would you want me back? Because you know I’m the only person who puts up with such a toxic work environment. Toodleoo motherfucker” and do a little dance out the door

Good luck , do not work a minute longer than you are contracted to and make sure you take your full break!
What an awful bully she is, get your out of office on at 4.30 pm and if she sends you any ‘priority tasks’ at 3.45 reply and say, sorry I finish in 45 minutes.

Happy last day! I hope you have a nice bottle of something to drink and something tasty to enjoy this evening as you start your freedom and long-awaited few days off before your new job.

Don’t look now but you beat the batshittery!

Happy last day! I left a job where I worked for a bully and the freedom afterwards was amazing. I thought the boss had totally crushed my confidence but it came back immediately in my next role. Just be prepared that your leaving speech might be another dig. Mine was passive aggressive and just pissed me off further but by then I had detached. Another colleague was leaving at the same time and his was amazing and mine was just awful by comparison. It made me realise I had absolutely done the right thing in leaving.

@Handsoffstrikesagain

For the love of God OP please expose this poundshop CEO! (Well, give us a big clue anyway). She sounds absolutely barking and the continuous emails at unsociable hours are tantamount to harassment surely? I worked for someone like this years ago. She was off her head. She was also desperately unhappy in her personal life and took it out on everyone she worked with. At the time I remember being quite scared of her and once even crying in the kitchen at work. It still upsets me to think she made me feel like that but never mind. I told her to shove her job before flouncing out the door one day and that was the best feeling ever 😂.

That was exactly the same scenario as my batshit ex-boss - her personal life was a mess so she took it out on me - well done on getting out

Happy last day! Can't wait til I can say the same.