I work for a complete narcissist..

[Pebbledashery]

I'm leaving my job in a few weeks.. Currently working my notice..moving onto a new role elsewhere.
My CEO is a complete narcissist.. Today she has pushed me to the absolute limit and I've broken.. She then tells me she doesn't need me crying and putting that on her as well as everything else.
I'm on a part time contract and I'm working full time hours. I'm a single parent but never ever let my personal circumstances get in the way of work. I think I'm a hard working and professional EA. I've got 15 years of experience in the industry.
I've resigned primarily because of her.. I actually feel bullied by her. Nobody seems to tell her she behaves inappropriately or speaks awfully to colleagues.. We have no proper HR department in our company..
I hate every day I have to work here. They've kept me to my 4 weeks notice and asked me to work an extra couple of days to help because its a ridiculously busy time. I agreed because I'm a good person but now feel like telling them to stuff it. I hate it. I hate my job and I hate her. I don't respect a CEO that is a bully.
No point to this thread just wanted to vent because I've been in tears all morning.

I think you need to cover your bases as you are doing. I think that you need to make it very clear that your exit meeting is a two-way conversation. If you are in charge of her diary, book it EARLY so you can leave on time. Let her speak first. Take notes of every personal statement she makes about herself or you that have nothing to do with your work or your quality of work. Make sure that you check that she has finished speaking and she thinks that the meeting is over, and then have your turn. Tell her that you have worked for her above your contracted hours without financial or verbal thanks. Any attempt to remind her of your own responsibilities or home life has been met with a response about what time she started work, etc... She needs to know that her EA is not actually an extension of herself, but a desperate person. You wish her good luck in the future with her new EA, and you hope that they are a good fit. Don’t make promises about being available to answer questions, etc, because I have a feeling that she will be on the phone at all hours.

Justilou1 has said what I've been thinking and covers all you really need to say (imho).

I know it would be tempting to tell her to 'shove it' but I've always worked on the theory that it's not a good idea to burn your bridges and you've come this far and held your head high, so you can hold it for a few more days. You are woman...hear her roar!

All the best for Tuesday, after that I would be blocking her number as I suspect she will be calling at all hours and while she thinks she owns you, it's confirmation of her incompetency and NO reflection on you.

Btw... I meant separate not desperate person

I’d take her to a tribunal. This is bullying. You’ve got dates and notes of all the appalling things she’s said and done.
Don’t let her get away with this, too you or the next person.
Clearly the people there know what she’s like but aren't pulling her up.
You may be onto better things but she’s still bullied you out of a job!

I hope the OP will block her at 4.30 on Tuesday on everything.

Otherwise your few days rest and peace will be taken from you.

You will be finished and owe her nothing.

Infact have the hand over done to colleagues before your meeting with her.

If she wants to spend handover time waffling, it's her problem afterwards.

Just thinking about Tuesday afternoon @Pebbledashery - You should block out the afternoon in YOUR calendar to allow you any time you might need to do up some job aids and prepare any handover documentation so that you can turn off your computer and leave the building (I'd actually be in the lift on my way out the door at 4:30 on the dot) and not be in a meeting before that as you're aware meetings can run over.
She if she wants any sort of a meeting, it can happen tomorrow or on Tuesday morning but most definitely not on Tuesday afternoon.

Best of luck with your last two days with this psycho!

Tribunal far too much work and emotional effort. Surely happiness and success in nee job which should not impinge on @Pebbledashery‘s real life like this is greater success. Let the old boss dig her own grave. I can imagine she’s going to go through EA’s like water.

Good luck for today @Pebbledashery. Only today and tomorrow to go! Remember not to give your boss a minute more than your contracted hours. 🌹

The....... sunwillcomeout.... TOMORROW.... betcha bottom dollar that tomorrow, you’ll be fiiiiiine.....

Thinking of you, Pebble, you're nearly there

Enjoy your last two days! If this was me, I’d be concocting all manner of shit to blow up in bitch boss’s face after I leave.

Penultimate day almost done, @Pebbledashery - I hope i is going OK.

We will have the balloons, streamers, cake and champagne ready for the end of your last day tomorrow!

Good luck pebble. Chin up, tits out and big smile!

One day more.

Hope you spend it picking your nose and deleting emails.

Goodness I was flat out today..
Literally didn't get time to go on mumsnet 😂..urgh she was soooooooooooooooooo vile to me today. Basically said that I have to finish the 1 million tasks she's given me before logging off tomorrow..
Thank you for my supportive messages
. They are getting me through till tomorrow 😊😊😊

Basically said that I have to finish the 1 million tasks she's given me before logging off tomorrow..

As of 16:30 tomorrow you are no longer her employee. Make sure you go on time.

Lol she is crazy.

Best of luck in your final day! Do not do a minute of overtime!

You could always say that you don’t have time to go to your “presentation” because you have too much work to do

Basically said that I have to finish the 1 million tasks she's given me before logging off tomorrow..

Or... what?

She really is batshit.

If I were you I’d be “too busy” finishing off your tasks for the hour-long debrief meeting...

Looking forward to hearing you’ve escaped!

Good luck for tomorrow Pebbles! is it weird i am excited for a total stranger? Freedom is so close you can almost touch it!!

@Pebbledashery

Basically said that I have to finish the 1 million tasks she's given me before logging off tomorrow..

Err.. Nope noppity nope! You do your best (for your own peace of mind) to finish as much as you can as well as you can then log off absolutely on time! What can she do - sack you?

Weird woman. She just can't bear you are escaping her clutches. Feel sorry for her next EA - poor thing! 🌹

Batshit.

Log off and block her absolutely everywhere OP.

It would make any difference if you finished everything, she still wouldn't be happy...why ?

Cos she's batshit.

Let her off.

Actually, pebble, do make sure you take a good look at the task list and delegate anything urgent-this-week to a member of the team, add anything important-for-next-week to the handover notes for the agency EA, and only commit to completing anything urgent for Tuesday - and only then if it can be done comfortably by 2pm. Because 2-4 is prepping handover, isn’t it?

Anything extra she sends through “urgently” just triage in the same way and if that means by the handover at the end of the day stuff is outstanding, oh well, what a terrible shame.

Last day - time to be utterly, ruthlessly organised and efficient and never let the professionalism drop even once.

You can do it!

Take your own sweet time at work tomorrow and if the million things don't get finished then tough titty! Don't put yourself out for her more than usual as you know by now that she wouldn't do the same for you and no matter how much or how little you do tomorrow, her reaction would be the same and wouldn't be appreciated anyway.

I agree that you should block her as you're leaving tomorrow. Say goodbye if you must and then leave her to drown in her own shit. P.s if you're feeling generous perhaps a little gift bag containing a bog roll may be left on her table as a parting gift, since she might find it useful for cleaning up her own mess.