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LiJo2015 · 21/04/2021 10:06

Ill keep it short. I met a friend yesterday for coffee. As i was stood there with my 8 month old in a sling jigging her to sleep, another mum with a baby in a sling came to sit down, with i presume her mum and dad. I said hello and acknowledged her baby in the sling - we talked a little and her mum commented about her daughter (the mum with a baby in the sling) was a doctor at the local hospital. As an ex-trainee doc myself i asked which med school she went too. I then responded i was no longer training. Her mum commented what a waste of tax payers money.... it is this last comment that stuck with me and has upset me and made me angry.

Leaving medicine was one of the hardest decisions i have ever had to make and the decision was forced really owing to a complete lack of empathy and support from the medical school owing to ongoing mental health difficulties i was facing. All 'support systems' they put in place only made matters worse for me. In my penultimate year, i pulled the plug.

So aibu and just overthinking this off-hand comment or was this stranger just thoughtless? Or both perhaps?

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LiJo2015 · 25/04/2021 15:11

@bluegreygreen

Im not in therapy.

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LiJo2015 · 25/04/2021 15:12

@Countrygirl2021

I will be paying it back - in excess of 40K

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RedcurrantPuff · 25/04/2021 15:17

YANBU

what an arsehole

bluegreygreen · 25/04/2021 17:58

Apologies - I had understood that you were as part of your psychotherapy training

LiJo2015 · 25/04/2021 21:16

@bluegreygreen

Hi there - you're absolutely right, it will be, put i have taken some time out to care for my little girl.

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