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AIBU in feeling harassed?

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KungFuPandaWorksOut20 · 17/04/2021 17:00

In the middle of March, RSPCA had knocked on our door. They had a complaint stating an animal was lay in the window not moving they presumed the animal was dead.

Understandably RSPCA came right around. The guy was very amused in finding not a dead dog on the windowsill, but our dog happily sun bathing. My dog gave a half hearted wag of the tail, looked at him and went straight back to sunbathing and watching the world go by.

RSPCA obviously said no more action needed. So imagine my surprise 6 days later when a female RSPCA worker showed up, her attitude was absolutely horrific.

The complaint this time was a lethargic dog on the windowsill with the suspicion of the dog being drugged, because of how unresponsive it was.

I told the Lady she could happily come in and have a look at our dog, just like her colleague had.

She refused and said she can see clearly from the window that the dog looks lethargic, not active and started asking what medication I give the dog that makes him so placid.

I told her he's on no medication, he's sat chilling at the window he's hardly gonna be active when he's lay down! She told me I need to hand over the dogs vet details, and she will discuss everything with my vet, and she can do monthly check ins with my vet making sure my dogs condition improves.

I told her he had no condition, she has no right to my dogs vet records and I will not be handing them over or giving consent. She told me that's suspicious and I would make it easier on myself by giving consent, if not she will get the police to return with her, so she can remove the dog!

I told her conversation was over with, I will happily deal with another colleague but not her, I also phoned RSPCA notifying them of this, and began the complaints procedure online in regards to her.

Thursday we went out for a walk with the dog, when returning home we had missed a calling card from the RSPCA. We called, and they said the inspector on the case will call back.

It was the first gentlemen from last time, he informed us the same complaint had been put in again but apparently the complainer had gone to the window to illicit a response from him and nothing.

They had placed 4 calls within the space of 2 days, and several photos of the dog asleep on the windowsill.

He sounded apologetic, but explained his hands are tied and he can't just close the case like the past 2 times, due to the amount of phone calls and photos sent across.

He claims RSPCA sent the photos over to an independent vet and the vet is showing concern over the "lethargic demeanor" he is displaying in the photos.

He has asked for us to book him into the vets ASAP and give him the report and then he can mark this down as malicious for a year.

I'm really horrified at the thought of someone coming into my garden taking photos through my living room window.

My issue isn't with the RSPCA they are just doing their job, it's whoever is doing this. He confirmed it was the same caller!

I honestly don't know why they are being malicious and acting like this. My anxiety has been sky high since finding out, is someone watching my house? How often are they coming into my garden taking photos? Do they get photos of Myself, two children and DN?

It's not like he barks, my Husband has worked from home since the start of the pandemic. So that is definitely ruled out.

My husband has suggested just stopping him from being on the front windowsill but in my opinion that doesn't solve the issue at all!

We are looking into getting cameras, but is that even legal someone taking photos through my window? Or am I being dramatic and someone is just trying to do a good deed.

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Am I being unreasonable?


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VaggieMight · 17/04/2021 20:05

Put cameras up and log it with the police as harassment.

crispychicken12 · 17/04/2021 20:08

How bizarre! I've had trouble trying to get help from the RSPCA when I've needed them. You did the right thing by not releasing your vet information to them. I would set up a ring doorbell to monitor who is taking pictures and snooping around your garden too

babbaloushka · 17/04/2021 20:11

It's......... Rebekah Vardy.

RandomMess · 17/04/2021 20:12

I am getting so fuming on your behalf!!!

Sunbathing really is Ddogs favourite activity I think. Happy picture of her snoozing wrapped in blanket because there is no sunny spot this time of night 😢

AIBU in feeling harassed?
muddyford · 17/04/2021 20:26

The RSPCA, contrary to the way their pseudo-police uniformed staff act, have no more rights than anyone else with regard to you, your dog and your property. They cannot demand access to anything without a warranted police officer accompanying them. Don't let them in, don't let them see your dog and don't give any details whatsoever. They have no right to be on your property. If they continue to harass you, tell the police, your MP and the Charity Commission.

EscapeDragon · 17/04/2021 20:27

I agree with others, in that I think you should report it to the police as malicious harassment by person unknown who is constantly reporting your perfectly healthy dog to the RSPCA.

In the meantime, take the dog for an MoT at the vets. Say nothing to the vet about these reports, just ask for confirmation of full health.

Joeblack066 · 17/04/2021 20:39

I had a similar horrific experience with the RSPCA- looked up when making Sunday dinner one day and they were in my back garden! I had no issues with any pets but they took a lot of convincing. So sorry you are going through this. I loathe the RSPCA now.

PassMeTheWotsits · 17/04/2021 20:59

I hope you get to find out who the culprit is OP

ExJasper · 17/04/2021 21:02

This sounds very stressful op. I know you shouldn't have to, but could you have a convo with your own vet asking for advice on how to respond to the RSPCA. Can you really think of no-one who might be reporting this? I presume it must be someone who lives near you, or who passes your property frequently?

Our dog does hardly anything but sleep - he hears the word "walk" and runs for the hills. Fortunately he's far too lazy to access a window sill and does all his sleeping at ground level - otherwise we'd probably have had a complaint against us too.

toocold54 · 17/04/2021 21:10

Wow my dog always lies in the window sunbathing how ridiculous!

I would definitely take it to the vet just so this gets cleared up as quickly as possible. If more complaints come in they will know that the dog has recently been to the vets even if they still have to follow it up.

Most neighbours complain about noisey dogs not quiet ones!
I do have a neighbour who must have mental health issues as she has told me that my dog was in her garden sitting with her because I’d been out all day - which never happened. So I wonder if it is someone like this rather than someone out to get you.

therocinante · 17/04/2021 21:12

That is so odd, I hope your camera catches the weirdos reporting you!

Theunamedcat · 17/04/2021 21:24

My cat lies infront of the sun so much he is turning brown from it all he literally goes from sunrise in the back bedroom to sunset at the front when the heating goes on he lies on the wardrobe above the radiator where the heat collects

Thatsmycupoftea · 17/04/2021 22:00

My neighbors dog is actually neglected and they can't do anything about it because its fed and has some just makes no sense.

TheJackieWeaver · 17/04/2021 22:12

Wait. Aren’t you the poster who had the stand off on the minor roads? You’re basically my hero. Apply the same logic here: patience, justice and stubbornness! Set up a ‘hide’ in your living room and start watching. DH can bring you sustenance. We know you can do it.

Aprilshowersandhail · 17/04/2021 22:33

Make a list of possible suspects op.. Who could have been round when you weren't in? Def be someone who knows you. Someone who envies you maybe?

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Figgygal · 17/04/2021 22:45

Jesu wept my dog lives in the front window
It’s his favourite place He looks comatosed most of the day
What a ridiculous intrusion
Definitely cameras to work out the culprit

AIBU in feeling harassed?
BlueDahlia69 · 17/04/2021 23:09

this is awful OP... my Yorkie flops around sunny zones at every opportunity .. she looks sedated on occasion until she smells food of course.

I agree with calling 101

GoldSlipper · 17/04/2021 23:26

This is ludicrous!

When I’m walking around the local area I often see dogs sunbathing on their windowsills, Sometimes I think they’re ornaments then notice that they are breathing!

I’ve never once thought that they are being in any way neglected. They are doing what dogs do - relaxing! My uncle’s dog was perfectly healthy and spritely on walks but beyond lethargic at home - you had to push the kitchen door hard to get in as he’d just lie against it snoozing. Absolutely nothing wrong with him, just lazy at home.

Do these people have no experience of dogs?

Lollypop4 · 17/04/2021 23:33

Get a camara.
Call 101 & I would get a harrassment order for the caller and RSPCA tbh.
Maybe consider frosted glass stickers?
Your dog can sunbathe but the caller cant see in your home!

TreadLightly3 · 17/04/2021 23:35

Good luck OP, what a horrific situation!

queenofthenorthwest · 17/04/2021 23:36

Op my dog lies in our front window all day because he likes to. It's warm and he can still observe the street.

I'm gutted and fewming for you.

Fluffyandsilly · 17/04/2021 23:47

This is just weird. Surely most people know that cats and dogs love to lie in the sun?
My cat spends about 50% or the day on the windowsill in the front room. He lays there and sleeps or looks out of the window being nosy until he’s absolutely boiling, at which point he heads under the coffee table into the shade to cool down for five minutes. Then repeats. Totally normal!

agentnully · 17/04/2021 23:57

Get a stuffed toy dog and leave it on the windowsill for a few weeks.

Then put the mirror film up along with cameras.

The RSPCA could do nothing about the guy who drags his down down our street, beating and kicking it if it stops to sniff/pee.

PaTCh64355 · 17/04/2021 23:57

Ignore the rspca completely- they are a terrible organisation with no legal powers
The person complaining is clearly a fruit loop

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