My DH has bought me a gift...

[Sunshinesandice]

My husband was acting a little strange around me yesterday - shrugged it off and let it go..

This morning he presented me with a gift , a pair of thigh high bondage lace up platform pole dancing boots. He gets off on the way they look and wants me to wear them in the bedroom.

I am bit speechless if I’m honest. I’m not sure how to even react.. it’s so not me at all , if anything I’m cringing so badly. But he is my husband and I understand he’s trying to make more of an effort with us in that department...

How do I let him down nicely ..

[Swordfish1]

So he spent £140 on a gift for himself.

So ask him where YOUR £140 gift is.

If they are a total turn off for you, don't wear them. If you're on the fence you could give them a go.

I do think it a bit odd he bought them out of the blue though without a discussion between the 2 of you. Sexy undies I can understand, but bondage boots, slightly random.

[Willowkins]

Oh my! What happens if you wear them when you go shopping? Spillage in Aisle 12?

[Viviennemary]

I agree with saying you'll wear them if he gets a matching pair for himself.

[Megasaurus]

That's a present for him.

He'd get a big fat fuck off from me.

[Swordfish1]

@Willowkins

Oh my! What happens if you wear them when you go shopping? Spillage in Aisle 12?

[Topseyt]

I'd cringe at this too. I'd be very likely to tell him that he ought to return them because I hated them.

I don't like what they represent. All about him and what he wants, not what you are comfortable with.

[Aprilx]

@Sunshinesandice

He also spent £140 on them, that’s a large purchase when we are saving for our wedding.

You and your husband are a saving for your wedding.

[Lullaby88]

Id wear them and hav a laugh. Why so serious?

[Lollypop701]

Well it’s going to start a conversation about your sex life, so outcome could be good! You might change your mind, you might not.

[yuccaplant]

Wear them!

[Sunshinesandice]

Husband to be

[Holothane]

If my dh brought this I’d say right grey your hair get an expensive suit, you might get somewhere, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.

[diddl]

This so wouldn't be my thing at all that I would wonder if the person I was supposed to be marrying even knew me!

Or did know me but wished I was someone else!

[MiddlesexGirl]

It's £140 he's spent on a gift for himself .... he's not married so I guess he gets to choose what he spends his money on. And if there turns out to be a substantial mismatch in sexual preferences they may well not be getting married anyway.

PS. If you don't want the boots OP, could you send them my way please?

[goldielockdown2]

Buy him a massive butt plug with a big long multi coloured tail on it and say you can't wait for him to show you it in the bedroom as you get off on my little pony.

[Laiste]

How long have you been together OP? Just out of interest.

See - i too would be a bit confused if my DH bought me a pair of £140 thigh high boots without discussing it first. But that's because in 15 years and lots of chats about sex he's never mentioned liking that.

(I wouldn't be surprised if he bought certain other things because i know he likes them and he knows i'm happy obliging.)

The point is - if you're going to marry this person you should know them inside out. He obviously doesn't know you too well by the sound of it and he has surprised you. Perhaps this is his clumsy way of introducing the subject, but it's quite late on if you're already planning a wedding.

I don't want to cast doom, but over years and years of a monogamous relationship things which seemed like small, easily brushed off sexual incompatabilities at the start of the relationship can grow into big issues. Resentment can follow. This is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Take the opportunity to get to know him properly and make sure he knows you and what you are hoping to see for the next xyz years!

[HectorHalloumi]

@Oneeyeopen

£140!
Can't he use his imagination like Pam and Mick being Camilla and Charles.
You could buy dp some ears!

Or a Roman gladiator costume a la Rodney in Only fools and horses.

[Robin233]

@belle002

Or just wear them and have a naughty fun evening

^^
Yes do it
Joking aside, you may have the best night of your life!
How is your sex life?
Are you happy with it?
Maybe there is something you'd like to try.
I was brought up to believe good girls don't like sex type of thing.
It takes work ti get passed that.
But things done in the privacy of your own home by 2 consenting adults is ok.
As long as it's not hurting anyone - I'm still very much vanilla but boots would be ok

[SarahBellam]

Shove them up his arse. That’ll spice things up in that department nicely.

[Tal45]

Tell him you like the way a strap on looks and that a shiny black one would set the boots of beautifully :-D

[EstuaryBird]

I’d tell him that I love them so much that I want to get married in them...

[Kissthepastrychef]

see if you can level up your sex life

FFS, what is the OP ? Super Mario Kart ?

[Marriagegoingtoimplode]

@Sunshinesandice

He also spent £140 on them, that’s a large purchase when we are saving for our wedding.

Apologies if this sounds really harsh op, but are you sure you’re compatible if you are needing to spice up the relationship and you aren’t even married yet?

[EscapeDragon]

Do they fit?

[Robin233]

@EscapeDragon
Ha ha ha