My DH has bought me a gift...

[Sunshinesandice]

My husband was acting a little strange around me yesterday - shrugged it off and let it go..

This morning he presented me with a gift , a pair of thigh high bondage lace up platform pole dancing boots. He gets off on the way they look and wants me to wear them in the bedroom.

I am bit speechless if I’m honest. I’m not sure how to even react.. it’s so not me at all , if anything I’m cringing so badly. But he is my husband and I understand he’s trying to make more of an effort with us in that department...

How do I let him down nicely ..

@Sunshinesandice

Fine with the pork, as this is a thing he did prior to us being together and he has always been open about it , and it doesn’t get in the way of us as a couple or our relationship.

It’s impacting your relationship now though.

Oh for goodness sake.
It doesn't always have to be porn, I know OP said he watched porn.
Look at adverts, magazines, (not top shelf)
The images are everywhere.
Remember Nancy Sinatra in the 60's.
Some people are right weird on here, where's the spontaneity, and variety.
Sex doesn't have to be boring.
Some sound like it's a case of "pass the tissues I'm done"

@osbertthesyrianhamster

Yes a conversation would also be nice, but also so is a suprise.. It's not like he's FORCING her to do SOMETHING by buying it. OP can easily say no and then return them so I don't really see why people are getting so worked up about it.

[quote 1boo1]@osbertthesyrianhamster

Yes a conversation would also be nice, but also so is a suprise.. It's not like he's FORCING her to do SOMETHING by buying it. OP can easily say no and then return them so I don't really see why people are getting so worked up about it.[/quote]
Maybe because she said she's still not entirely comfortable with it.

Well if she isn't comfortable with it then she can tell him that and then it's done with. No harm done.. No reason for people to say question the marriage etc 🙈

I’ve got the boots on... hobbling around at the moment .

@Devlesko

Oh for goodness sake. It doesn't always have to be porn, I know OP said he watched porn. Look at adverts, magazines, (not top shelf) The images are everywhere. Remember Nancy Sinatra in the 60's. Some people are right weird on here, where's the spontaneity, and variety. Sex doesn't have to be boring. Some sound like it's a case of "pass the tissues I'm done"

OP literally said it came from watching porn though.

FFS, having boundaries / limits doesn’t mean sex is boring. How utterly depressing that so many think this. We are allowed to have boundaries, they make my sex life much better, thanks.

I swear to fucking god. This is the truest thread , I am walking around in them right now.

@DinoHat

My thoughts exactly.

Posting on Mumsnet with the boots on... What's your dh doing?

More fool you for putting them on when you were cringing earlier.

How can you feel sexy when you are 'hobbling around'?

He is having a shower.

Who said I felt sexy? This is the first time I’ve had them on. I hate them they’re awful

A cold one?

So will you tell him you hate them and crush his porn fantasy or go along with it, no matter how much you hate them?

@GreyhoundG1rl

Posting on Mumsnet with the boots on... What's your dh doing?

Probably depends on if he can see her or not!

@FangsForTheMemory

Tell him you can't wait to see him in them?

That is what I was going to say too, @FangsForTheMemory - great minds.

I’m waiting for him to come down , so he can see me in them, tell him how much I dislike them and he can send them back. They’re vile

Yup. Ffs.

Bet you're all regretting the extreme over sharing now... 🤮

@PragmaticWench

He's not trying to make more of an effort, he's trying to get you to make more of an effort for him.

Are you sure you want to marry him ?

I swear on my DS life this is a true thread , I am not lying, I am not a troll.

You still here?