It’s my birthday and DH ruined it
JM55 · 14/04/2021 21:21
I’m sitting here in a flood of tears. Hungry (because he specifically told me not to cook and proceeded to be really shitty with me). He didn’t order food.
He never makes me feel special and today is another day. I am beginning to dread special days, My whole family is abroad, I deeply miss them today and I don’t know what to do.
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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MarkRuffaloCrumble · 14/04/2021 21:28
Go out and pick up some takeaway for yourself, even if just a McDs or some chips. He’s a shit for making you wait for food that never came, even more so on your birthday.
You deserve better. Give yourself the birthday gift of freedom from a selfish man
Nats1984 · 14/04/2021 21:32
Happy birthday. He sounds crap. Mine used to be too, he does better now because I tell him, I’m ordering a new dress or some shoes for myself and then I order a huge takeaway from my favourite place and just get him to pay . If he’s wilfully spoiling it, that’s different and you need to think carefully about whether he’s good enough for you. In the meantime I’d have a long bubble bath and order something nice to eat for when you get out and sit and pig out infront of something good on the telly. Sending health and happiness for the coming year ( as I wish all my friends on their birthdays ) 🎉
DeRigueurMortis · 14/04/2021 21:33
Does it matter?
Someone who genuinely cares for you is t someone who's nice most of the time but purposely ruins a special day.
IME people who do this simply can't stand anyone else being the centre of attention.
So whilst they are "worse" on special occasions that don't centre them, they "encourage" groom their partner to keep them in the spotlight the rest of the time to keep the peace.
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