AIBU to be annoyed by message about washing my car

[21summers]

Neighbour has sent me a (second) message asking us when we’re going to wash our car. We ignored the first message.

It’s not muddy or dirty. The alloys are still silver. It’s just dusty because car washes have been closed for months. They’re good neighbours otherwise. AIBU to be irritated and to think I can decide when I want to wash my own car that’s doing nothing to them except sitting outside on the public road (and it’s not parked in front of their house, it’s parked in front of ours).

I used to live next door to a man who, each day, put his small dogs in his Citroen Picasso (with seat covers) drove them to where he walked them, came home (around 7am) and spent the next hour vacuuming his car under my bedroom window.

This is just one of the behaviours that made us move house, but when I was pregnant and not sleeping it was the one that made me want to kill him the most.

He washed it twice a week and would move it to wash the driveway when he was finished.

My car has been washed (not by me) once in the almost five years I've owned it.

Wow how rude they sound!! I’d ask them if they’d like to
Clean it themselves. Do they have children? Offer
To pay them some pocket money (not very much obv) and see what they come back with...

Yes they are absolutely bonkers!! 😅👌🏼

@StevieG55

Seriously 😳

I'd msg back if u bothers u hat much I can do it lol

Did your cat just walk across your keyboard?

I can see your point and i would say you are not being unreasonable however this just highlights the general lack of care of modern Britain. people have just lost standards

So no it was a bit much recieving a message however having a dirty car is like wearing unpolished shoes just not great standards and for a lot of people they will judge people for it

I judge people for judging others based on such trivial things.

However, I do find it deeply ironic that someone should produce a post complaining about lower standards in Britain when that post is so very full of grammatical errors.

Have they got a teenager who is short of cash and they are touring for business on their behalf by any chance? I'd be tempted to reply " when I'm good and ready". Although DH persuaded my teen/tweens to clean ours, after plentiful complaining.

So many amusing ideas on how to respond; and I can think of a few myself. However, the absolute best idea is to completely ignore it. Don’t respond at all. And it will be interesting to see if you get a third message.
People like this are unbelievable.

Second message?!? I’d scare them off and tell them to stop messaging me as this is now bordering onto bullying/ harassment.
#bulliesneverliketobeindentified

I'd text back "Havent you got anything better to do" they've got more front than Blackpool

My neighbours mostly keep to themselves...which suits me fine. About a week after I moved, when I hadn't met anyone as I work so out early & gone all day. I went to introduce myself to next door & say hi. Herself stood on her step, kind of siddled out the door & took pains to close it behind her like I wanted to look into their hall (maybe to case the joint!) , and then proceeded to be very stand offish, not in the slightest bit pleasant. I wasn't wanting her to be my new BFF. Just so she'd know my name & the rest of us who lived next door. I was brought up to be polite & welcome neighbours, just 'hello...we're X from next door, welcome & any q's about area, just ask'. Anyway, a pattern emerged a while later of her teenage kids & friends sitting on my wall evening time, smoking & carrying on (usual teenage stuff...loud laughter, sometimes cursing etc). I asked them nicely to move on as I had much younger children for bedtimes. Sneery response & back the next eve again...& so on. So I went into her & quite politely explained my problem.... she said it was part of living in a town & that it was one of the reasons her previous neighbours moved. Can you imagine admitting that? Almost with pride? No class at all & no manners on her kids. Anyway...I put in uncomfortable shrubbery at my wall , opened downstairs windows & blasted out classical music everytime teenagers appeared (someone told me mall music or opera is way too uncool for teenagers) & they moved on fairly quickly. Hers is also the type to drill walls early mornings or create a racket in the garden whenever. To be honest I don't mind that...it just gives a measure of her though, no considersation. She & I just on nodding terms only. I've no time for her. I could care less if she thinks my car is filthy or if I'm late cutting the grass. Or anything I do....but I'm never rude or unclassy....and my kids have impeccable manners, would never sneer nastily at a neighbour or try to make them uncomfotable in their home. So we both knlw who is better ...& it is ME!!!

Maybe they were joking. Leave a bucket and sponge by their gate with message "feel free".

I LOATHE washing the car!

Anyone commenting on the state of my car gets "Oh, I think a layer of dust protects the paintwork"

In the 6 years I've owned my current car I've had it washed twice. Once when it was fairly new, then once with DH's encouragement. DH does wash it maybe once a year for me.

Just feels like a waste of time to me.

Your neighbours are bonkers. Ignore them.

@Oldraver

We go to the New Forest every year. The cat comes back looking like it's been on a Saharan rally

I'd be taking my car for a spin to get it more dusty

We have two types in our street who make pointed comments along the lines of how things look. Tedious

What is your CAT getting up to when you visit the New Forest?

how rude!!!! Some people these days, especially when we should all be being kind!

However, I do find it deeply ironic that someone should produce a post complaining about lower standards in Britain when that post is so very full of grammatical errors.

Yes I noticed that too. Ordinarily I don’t comment on grammar, but seeing as that poster was complaining about ‘standards dropping’, it makes it extremely ironic that their grammar is so poor.

That would make me very cross. How rude !

My neighbour doesnt like to see my car from his kitchen window - the kitchen he doesnt set foot in. Told me to move it (there is literally not a spare inch on the public road and no drives (the people with drives all park on the road!). So a year later - it's still there, being seen from the kitchen. It's actually parked outside my house but we're a terrace so he an see a bit of it. Too much apparently.

I'd pop them over a bucket and some wax and tell them to have it done by 4 as you need to pop out. Bloody cheek.

@ElizabethTudor

Write in the dust on said car : NEVER :-)

I was going to say that!

1. You could ask "Why are you asking?"..let them waffle on with a load of daft reasons that are nothing to do with them and then say "Oh right!" And then leave it until you want to wash it!

1. You could reply "When I want to!"

1. I don't do car washes! Do you want to do it instead as it is obviously bothering you?

Let’s be honest, ignoring these power-mad eejits will drive them more insane than acknowledging the bastard letter.

Your neighbour would hate me as I have a car on my front garden that is a bit dirty but not been moved for over 4 years

I can't bare to part with her and next door did ask DS "what is your Dad going to do with that cat"

He said my mum was going to cut the top off and use it as a plant pot

Are your neighbours German?

I don't buy this.

Not at all.