To think thst this is too early a bedtime for a 3.7 yo?

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I know somebody who is putting their 3.7 yr old to bed at 6pm. Child is waking at 5am. I'm not surprised as my own ds went to bed around 6.45 at almost 4. Aibu to think this is a very early bedtime and the likely cause of the early waking?

@BrumBoo I'm not bad at maths but I'm confused by 3.7 year old. Does it mean 3 years and 7 months or 3 and 0.7 of a year - so 3 years and 8.4 months? Maybe that's the way my brain works though......

I could put my dd to bed at 8pm I could put her to bed at 6 pm she always woke same time half 5. So no it doesn't mean bed time is to early. Mine is 5 now and sleeps till alarm goes off.

I'm another with a child whose waking time is irrelevant to their bedtime. I don't blame them for putting their child to bed at 6 if they wake at 5am - kid need sleep, and parents at least get an evening together.

DC1 woke up at 5.30am no matter his bed time. A late bedtime only meant a grumpy DC the next day, so we put him to bed at 6.30pm so that he wasn't grumpy. He eventually grew out of the 5am wake ups and now sleeps until 6.30 so we've adjusted bedtime accordingly.

It is counter intuitive, but for DS, an early bed time lead to a later wake up.

I think it's too early. My son the same ages goes up between 7.15 and 8pm. If he's going to sleep shortly after going to bed and they're happy with him getting up at 5 then it's not a problem.

Like others have said lots of using children wake early regardless of when you put them to bed. When my son was 3 he needed to be in bed between 5 and 6 pm otherwise he grew overtired which would lead to tantrums and tears. Don't judge you have no idea why he goes to bed at this time.

I put my 4 year old to bed between 5-6pm and he gets up between 7-8am - no waking in the night

You should tell them where they’re going wrong. It definitely won’t have occurred to them to put their nearly four year old down later to get a lie-in past 5am. Parents love a 5am wake up every day.

One of my dds woke at 5am until very recently regardless of what time she went to bed. I tried 8pm bedtimes, all sorts of things but she always woke at around 5. I frequently put her to bed at 6pm because she was knackered, and so was everyone else! Other 2 dc not early risers, have no idea why she was. She's about 4.5 now and touch wood has been later waking since turning 4.

Never too early to put the kids to bed.. means more time as a couple, loved our child free evenings when the kids were little. Mine would wake up at 5am no matter what time they went to bed so it was better them going earlier and being less tired.

@fedup51

I put my 4 year old to bed between 5-6pm and he gets up between 7-8am - no waking in the night

You put your four year old down at 5pm? Am I reading that right?

Not your child, not your problem. I think 6:45 is still too early, but I don’t really care as your child is not mine 😳

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@BrumBoo

What's a 3.7 year old?

Is maths not your strong point?

Maths is my strong point. But I have never seen a child’s age expressed like that and wondered if it were a typo. When I read the first post, I wondered did they mean three 7 years olds until I saw they used the same expression in the thread title.

Yabu...mine both went to bed at 6pm from around 6 months old until around 3/3.5...youngest is now around 6.30/7 (he's 3 years 3 months) and eldest (5) is around 7.30/7.45.

Eldest will wake up between 7 and 8 and little one has only just started to sleep past 6 sometimes..(think it's doing full days at nursery!)..but we still often see a 5 on the clocks ! Even when he's stayed up later!

I loved my two both being down at 6 as it meant I had a bit of time in the evening!

Mind your own business!

My 6 year old has had a mainly 6.30 bedtime until the recent clock change, even now she needs to go not long after that sometimes. She's tired and grumpy or emotional if she stays up after that and if you miss the window of tiredness she'll stay awake until 10. Every child is different. If it was as simple as put them to bed layer and they'll wake up later, don't you think your friend would be doing that?

None of your business really

I'm always amazed by the "my child always wakes at 5am" brigade - what even when the clocks change?

I believed this about my own DS till my DSis (paediatrician) said that no NT child will fail to adjust to a new sleeping pattern, but it can take anything from 24h to a whole month depending on the child.

We had to suck it up for 3 weeks, but eventually DS stopped waking at 5am after we changed his bedtime. Persevere (I understand how hard it is though, especially when you're shattered. It's so worth it!)

Are you crazy? My 3.5 year old goes to bed at 6pm. He wakes up somewhere between 6 and 8:15am. He NEEDS his sleep. The 6am wake ups, he checks his “stars” (he has glowing stars on his ceiling and if they are still blue he knows he can’t get out of bed, if they’re yellow it’s ok) and either stays in bed or does jigsaws quietly by himself. I don’t see the issue with a 6pm bedtime, it’s perfectly normal. My 6 year old goes to bed at 6:45!

Mine goes to bed at 7.30, lights out 8pm and gets up at 7.30. Always has. She’s 7. I based bedtime in the fact that I am not a morning person. I still find getting up at 7.30 tough. If you put your child to bed at 6, I presume they’ll wake at around 6. My idea of hell.

YABU

I’m sure it’s occurred to them to see if a later bedtime results in a later wake up time. There’s no need for you to judge them and invite strangers online to join in. They’re doing what works for their child and their family.

@HavelockVetinari

I'm always amazed by the "my child always wakes at 5am" brigade - what even when the clocks change?

I believed this about my own DS till my DSis (paediatrician) said that no NT child will fail to adjust to a new sleeping pattern, but it can take anything from 24h to a whole month depending on the child.

We had to suck it up for 3 weeks, but eventually DS stopped waking at 5am after we changed his bedtime. Persevere (I understand how hard it is though, especially when you're shattered. It's so worth it!)

I believed this about my own DS till my DSis (paediatrician) said that no NT child will fail to adjust to a new sleeping pattern, but it can take anything from 24h to a whole month depending on the child.

That’s complete nonsense though. Some kids are light sleepers. Some are sensitive to light. Some have night terrors. Some have restless legs and kick their covers off and get cold.

@Aprilx oh I'm so pleased haha. I still want to know what OP means by 3.7 years! And I've spent far too long working out that I'm technically 34.412 years old 🙈😂😂😂.

Yes, maybe they are one of those children that wakes up at 5am irrespective of what time they go to bed.

We have one of these... Doesn't matter if he's asleep by 7, 8, or 9, he's always up and full of energy between 6 and 6.30am! Getting them to bed early helps to ensure maximum sleep!

@HavelockVetinari

I'm always amazed by the "my child always wakes at 5am" brigade - what even when the clocks change?

I believed this about my own DS till my DSis (paediatrician) said that no NT child will fail to adjust to a new sleeping pattern, but it can take anything from 24h to a whole month depending on the child.

We had to suck it up for 3 weeks, but eventually DS stopped waking at 5am after we changed his bedtime. Persevere (I understand how hard it is though, especially when you're shattered. It's so worth it!)

Well it would be 4am or 6am for a while when the clocks changed then readjust to 5am gradually. I'm always amazed by the people who think that some parents haven't exhausted every avenue to avoid waking at 5am!