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To Think Other Customers Should Let You Go Before Them If You Only Have Say One Item?

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EternalOptimist7 · 11/04/2021 13:30

Quite often people do & I will myself, especially if I’ve got a big trolleyful, and I find it annoying if people don’t. A woman in Aldi this morning saw that I only had some microwave steam bags but never budged!

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ChardonnaysPetDragon · 11/04/2021 15:45

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Pugdoglife · 11/04/2021 15:48

If someone says "do you mind if I just pop in first? I've only got this" I let them in. Otherwise I don't even notice what the person behind me has, I'm just focused on my own shopping.

Stovetopespresso · 11/04/2021 15:48

again I will make the effort to let someone go ahead of me when this situation arises, inspired by this thread. thanks OP

Suzi888 · 11/04/2021 15:49

I always do. Unless it’s a newsagent as that one little thing can turn into cigarettes, alcohol, lottery ticket x 5Grin

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Dugee · 11/04/2021 16:12

I've done it before, especially if they are elderly, have small children with them or on one occasion, on crutches.

But it has rarely happened to me, I'm struggling to think of the last time someone let me go before them. However, I would never ask - I think that it is appropriate that you take your place in the queue and if someone is kind enough to offer that you go ahead then fine but it's a kindness offered by someone, not a right.

I remember I had just started unloading my trolley in the supermarket and a woman came behind me and said "I have 2 cups", I didn't really understand what she meant so ignored her and carried on unloading. So she tried to push in front of me and the check out person said, "have you let her go first?". So I said no and the checkout person sent her to the back of the queue and the woman kept shouting "I have 2 cups" and glaring at us (she had 2 items but they weren't cups). She didn't seem to speak great English so I did wonder if she was from somewhere where it is more normal to go straight to the front of the queue if you have a small number of items. As, of course, in Britain, we love a good queue and get annoyed if people don't wait their turn.

Stovetopespresso · 11/04/2021 16:22

so I've been having a think and some of the comments on here are the final straw- gonna go mn free for a week! Will do me good anyway.

EternalOptimist7 · 11/04/2021 16:27

I would never barge in - I wait to be asked. I haven’t actually asked myself but guess I could.
The “ keyboard warriors” are obviously bored this afternoon!

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Dentistlakes · 11/04/2021 16:28

I don’t usually unless it’s an elderly person or someone with young fractious children. If someone was it a hurry and asked, then I would. Otherwise, I would expect them to queue the same as everyone else.

slashlover · 11/04/2021 16:31

Do people pay attention to what the people behind them are doing? I'm usually concentrating on getting my bags ready, finding my purse etc.

Calm down OP, 0-100.

Sparklingbrook · 11/04/2021 16:33


Do people pay attention to what the people behind them are doing? I'm usually concentrating on getting my bags ready, finding my purse etc.

Calm down OP, 0-100.

When your socially distancing at the tills it's difficult to notice what someone two metres away is buying and understandable to want to get out of the shop asap.
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FenceSplinters · 11/04/2021 16:36

I let a lady go before me in Lidl earlier today. We had a trolley full, and she had three items, plus she was contending with a baby in a pushchair, so I thought it would be my good deed for the day.

OnlyheretovoteonAIBU · 11/04/2021 16:37

It’s a courtesy not an obligation.

YAB very U.

anon12345678901 · 11/04/2021 16:40

I don't usually pay attention to people behind me but it would be dependant if I'm in a rush or not. No ones time is more valuable than another's

tigger1001 · 11/04/2021 16:57

I would let someone go in front of me if I noticed they only had one thing, if I wasn't in a rush myself. Often, I am shopping while my son is at training and am picking him up straight after so time can be a factor.

But while it's a nice thing to offer, it shouldn't be expected. If you go into a shop, even for only a few things, you might need to queue.

Our Aldi and Lidl are so fast that to be honest I don't think it makes much difference if you need to wait a few minutes

AlexaRain · 11/04/2021 16:59

No. If someone offers they are doing you a favour. A favour is voluntary. You have no right to expect someone to allow you to go before them in a queue.

As someone above explained, a queue is a first come first served system. A system that works well (when everyone plays by the rules).

OwlBeThere · 11/04/2021 17:01

If someone’s running late or has a medical condition etc, it will make very little difference letting one item through first when they have loads

It could be the difference between me being able to walk to my car or not. I only have a limited time I can stand for, but I still have a family to feed so I will get what I need as quick as I can on the amount of time I have, I don’t then have the time to allow someone in front of me. Unless you want me taking up even more time collapsing in a heap and being unable to get up.

DahliaMacNamara · 11/04/2021 17:09

I always feel sorry for the poor sods who let one customer with a light basket past their full trolley, then another. I always decline the offer to go first at that point or they'll be there all day.
I think at the moment we just don't notice what other people are buying. I live in a small town where the shops aren't huge but at least they're relatively quiet. I'm focused on getting out again, not checking out the shopping of the person standing 2 metres behind me. Maybe I've inadvertently upset some people. I wouldn't know.

MixedUpFiles · 11/04/2021 17:12

I hate when people think they should jump the queue. I shouldn’t have to wait even longer just because you don’t have much.

Somanysocks · 11/04/2021 17:56

It depends who it is. Since covid, if the person behind me is huffing and puffing and crowding me and not shopping by themselves ( as the shop asks us to), I find that my time is just as important as theirs and I just want to leave the shop asap.

Also, I don't scrutinise the shopping of people around me so how do I know what they're buying?

If you're in a hurry go shopping earlier.

CliftonGreenYork · 11/04/2021 18:04

Essential shopping only - but you felt the need to go out to buy 1 item! You are being unreasonable x

Rexasaurus · 11/04/2021 18:07

I will do this sometimes but not always.

I have 2 autistic dc so by the time I’ve made it to the checkout all 3 of us are desperate to leave. 1 of the dc finds queuing/waiting of any sort especially hard. The other, while he’s an absolute sweetheart, is quite rigid around rules & wouldn’t be able to understand why I’d let the other person go in front if we were first.
They’d both loose their minds if I did this. So I tend not to if the kids are with me.
If I was in my own or just with DH & not in a rush I might. But I see it more as a nice thing to do rather than me being rude by not letting you go first.

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Wanderlust20 · 11/04/2021 18:12

I always let people go first if they only have a few items but I think it's unreasonable to say everyone should. Unfortunately, not everyone is as thoughtful but they don't need to let others go first.

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