To Think Other Customers Should Let You Go Before Them If You Only Have Say One Item?

[EternalOptimist7]

Quite often people do & I will myself, especially if I’ve got a big trolleyful, and I find it annoying if people don’t. A woman in Aldi this morning saw that I only had some microwave steam bags but never budged!

[HidingFromDD]

Yanbu to think it's a nice thing to do. Yabu to expect it and get annoyed if people don't do it. Sometimes I do, but sometimes I'm on a really tight timescale, or have already let someone else in, or am basically just completely knackered and want to get out quickly. Your time isn't more important than anyone else's

[TurquoiseDragon]

@ChubbyLittleManInACampervan

I never understand people who buy 1 item at a big supermarket with long queues like Aldi

If I just need 1 veg, I’d get it at coop or Tesco metro or a small corner shop

The nearest shops to me are the big supermarkets. It would take me longer to get to the small shops, they are all on the other side of town.

[memberofthewedding]

Surely most supermarkets have a dedicated checkout for X or less items so they dont get stuck behind someone buying for the entire tribe.

[MaryThorne]

YABU - perfectly fine and nice for a person to let someone else go ahead of them if they wish but I don't think they should do so, it is not an entitlement of the person with a single item to jump ahead

[lerelaisdelachance]

@HidingFromDD

Yanbu to think it's a nice thing to do. Yabu to expect it and get annoyed if people don't do it. Sometimes I do, but sometimes I'm on a really tight timescale, or have already let someone else in, or am basically just completely knackered and want to get out quickly. Your time isn't more important than anyone else's

And if you arrive with your one item, perhaps the person in front of you has already let somebody go in front. There was somebody like that behind me in Lidl last week, I let one person go in front, but not two, I also have things to do in my day. It's part of the deal when you go in shops that don't have a baskets only line that you may have to wait. If you don't like it, go elsewhere.

[DontBeRidiculous]

Should have known not to put this in AIBU!

Ah, well, one of the consequences of being an eternal optimist, I guess!

If someone’s running late or has a medical condition etc, it will make very little difference letting one item through first when they have loads

Not always. Sometimes you're already in a rush, and every minute counts. Also, one item can still take a while, if there's a problem with the scanner. And for some people, there's the issue of the added stress of interacting with another person.

It boils down to this: It's not something one owes to the person behind them. You can think they're impolite not to offer, but their reasons for not wanting to wait any longer than they have to are just as valid as those of person who only has one item.

[ChardonnaysPetDragon]

Sorry, no.

I've seen people faff around with couple of items longer than I need with basketful.

There is also the option of paying on the self service till or the kiosk.

[expectopelargonium]

It's nice when people offer, but I wouldn't get miffed if they didn't.

[CeibaTree]

My mum made the mistake of doing that in Bejam's when I was little, the cheeky old lady my mum had let in front of us then called her husband over with a completely full trolley 😂

To be honest OP, I'm either shopping with the DC and in that case I don't have the capacity to think of looking at what other people in the queue behind me have in their basket, or if I'm shopping on my own I'm usually engrossed in an audio book until the point it comes to interact with the cashier.

[Sparklingbrook]

@memberofthewedding

Surely most supermarkets have a dedicated checkout for X or less items so they dont get stuck behind someone buying for the entire tribe.

Most but not the discount ones.

[PMcGintysGoat]

Should have known not to put this in AIBU!

What, because people answered your question? OP this is very gentle as AIBU threads go, I'm afraid your position was just the minority one.

[Longingforatikihut]

I used to do this all the time. No problem. I learned my lesson when a lady gladly went in front with her one item, only for her husband to stroll round the corner with a huge over laden trolley and join her in front of me. I'd only had a basket of stuff. Cheeky wench. Now I don't offer and I don't accept if I am offered. I just wait my turn.

[grapewine]

No way you should expect that. Everyone is trying to get out as soon as possible, I imagine.

[jessstan2]

I do it, alway have, but you can't force people to give up their place in a queue.

Once when I allowed someone with very little in their basket to go in front of me, other people in the queue talked loudly about it, laughed and took the mickey out of me. It was most embarrassing.

Not a problem I have now with home deliveries which I much prefer as I hate shopping.

[osbertthesyrianhamster]

No. YABVU. It's a queue, not a valuation contest.

[grapewine]

@EternalOptimist7

If someone’s running late or has a medical condition etc, it will make very little difference letting one item through first when they have loads

Ableism is alive and well, I see.

[RedToothBrush]

Just quit whinging and bloody queue like everyone else.

Otherwise plan your shopping better so you don't have to just nip in for one item and think you should be entitled to a free pass to get to the front of the queue!

[gamerchick]

@Honeyroar

I usually do, but on some occasions three or four people with one or two items have turned up, each one just as I was about to put my stuff through, so I’ve given up and put my stuff through after the third one as I’d been there a while! The fourth person probably thought I wasn’t selfish!

This happens to me as well. They're like buses. Then there's the ones who deliberately go behind someone with a full trolley and do the lean into your eyeline thing.

It's Aldi, it's not as if anyone queues for long at the tills anyway.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

I usually let someone go through if I see they only have a couple of items, and I have a shipping order to pay for.

However, if I see that there are (say) five people with a few items each then no, because I couldn't let one through and not the others, and that WOULD hold me up a lot.

[itsgettingwierd]

I always do it.

But I learnt long ago not to expect the same off others.

But it's not so much of an issue nowadays anyway. All my local supermarkets (except Aldi where I do my main shop) have scan and shop and self service tills.

[RosesAndHellebores]

I do yes if they are behind me. If I have one or two items I use the self checkout. Appreciate the elderly don't necessarily like the self checkouts and understand that some people may need to use cash - our self checkouts are card only.

Have also paid for the odd few items for the person in front when they haven't had quite enough.

[Ellmau]

I never understand people who buy 1 item at a big supermarket with long queues like Aldi

Maybe they live next door to Aldi, or are passing on their way somewhere, or have just done a big shop and put everything in their car and suddenly remember they've forgotten a vital item and popped back in.

[mooonstone]

@jessstan2 that’s bizarre, why were they laughing at you?

[RosesAndHellebores]

Or perhaps their little Sainsburys is next to a p&D carpark and the parking at the equidistant big shop is free.