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To Think Other Customers Should Let You Go Before Them If You Only Have Say One Item?

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EternalOptimist7 · 11/04/2021 13:30

Quite often people do & I will myself, especially if I’ve got a big trolleyful, and I find it annoying if people don’t. A woman in Aldi this morning saw that I only had some microwave steam bags but never budged!

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Idolikeanicepieceofcake · 11/04/2021 13:49

I always do, my Dad taught me that it was good manners and I still do it to this day so YANBU. Particularly nice for people who have small children with them or are elderly I think, but I appreciate some people do not have the time to let others go before them regardless of how many items they have.

gazeratstars · 11/04/2021 13:50

It's just a nice thing to do. Definitely don't expect it all the time.
When I was in Aldi recently someone walked in front of 2/3 of us who had a trolley / basket full and straight up asked the till person if they could quickly pay for their 2 items. We were all a bit Hmm as they didn't ask any of the people who had been queuing if that was ok.

Fembot123 · 11/04/2021 13:50

I always think it’s funny when people fill a basket up to a toppling tower and their arm is nearly breaking off so they can use the basket only queue.

Tistheseason17 · 11/04/2021 13:51

If they only have 1 item they should be using the 10 items or fewer till so they would not be in the line with trollies stacked full. Or do they queue with the trollies to "get let in" ahead of everyone else on purpose! Wink

Unless you're in Aldi/Lidl, where they are so darned quick it really makes zero difference!

StrapOnSallyChasedMeDownTheAli · 11/04/2021 13:53

Yabu, it's nice when it happens but you shouldn't expect it as standard. I had a small trolley full yesterday and 7 people behind me with a few things each but I didn't have time to go to the back of the queue to let them all go first, and why should I really, that's the point of a queue, first come first serve.

WorraLiberty · 11/04/2021 13:53

I agree but I voted YABU because you don't appear to have smiled and said, "Hi, sorry. Would you mind if I just quickly pay for this?"

willithappen · 11/04/2021 13:53

You're not entitled to that. I mean yeah it's nice if they do but they are queuing and getting that space just like everyone else. If I only have a couple items I will go to a self scan machine and get it through quickly that way

Honeyroar · 11/04/2021 13:54

I’m actually in awe of people who can get through Aldi with only one or two items. That middle aisle gets me every time!

NurseButtercup · 11/04/2021 13:55

Yabu for being annoyed that a stranger wouldn't let you jump the queue.

Dramalady52 · 11/04/2021 13:55

A. This is what selfscan is for or 10 items or fewer.
B. Dont get me started on the buggers who put a full shop through the kiosk! Get your shop at the normal till THEN queue at the kiosk for your fags/ lottery ticket like the rest of us.

wigjuice · 11/04/2021 13:57

I've done this on numerous occasions and have had it done back. It's a nice gesture, but it shouldn't be expected.

HowManyToes · 11/04/2021 13:57

Why do you think your time is more important than theirs?

rabbitheadlights · 11/04/2021 13:58

I always do, but tbh I never expect it from others.

PMcGintysGoat · 11/04/2021 13:58

If I had a full trolley and thought you were expecting to patiently queue behind me with even half a dozen items then 99.99% of the time I'd let you go ahead. If I thought you were expecting me to let you in then I probably wouldn't.

Letting someone go ahead is a courtesy, expecting someone to let you go ahead sufficiently strongly that you'd post about it on MN is just cheeky in my book.

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 11/04/2021 13:59

Not to mention the people that appear to have one item and once they's queue hopped, and army of friends/children join them with other items Grin

I do let people into the queue if I have a load an they have only one or two items- and there's no "hand basket only"/less than X items checkout.
It's nice if others do it for me when circumstances are reversed, but I don't really expect it.

peboh · 11/04/2021 13:59

I don't think they should have to do anything. Oh ta a lovely gesture if people want to, but I also have never been offended if I've a couple of items and been stuck behind a big trolley. I expect queues in shops, and I don't think I deserve to go before anybody else.

peboh · 11/04/2021 14:01

@Dramalady52

A. This is what selfscan is for or 10 items or fewer.
B. Dont get me started on the buggers who put a full shop through the kiosk! Get your shop at the normal till THEN queue at the kiosk for your fags/ lottery ticket like the rest of us.

I don't know any shop where self scan is for 10 items or less. There's usually a separate till for small baskets.
I've put a fully trolley through self scan before.
RedcurrantPuff · 11/04/2021 14:02

YANBU, this is why I never go to Aldi if i just need a few things, I go somewhere with self service. I always let people in front of me if they are buying just a few items and I am buying a lot, I was brought up that this was a mannerly thing to do, but many people are just as rude as fuck these days.

Shinyletsbebadguys · 11/04/2021 14:02

If its appropriate, for example if I have a long queue behind me its really entitled to think I can make the decision for the queue. If its just me then more often than not I will wave someone in front of me.

I was slightly tickled when I moved here to discover there's an unspoken mutiny in a shop nearby against an incredibly entitled unpleasant woman who does this all the time (seriously she does it 2 or three times a day I've found out since).

She got me a couple of times and I let her go ahead and both times she would then dash off to get something else "quickly" Hmm

Then I saw her a couple of times where someone said No and she did the passive aggressive huffing and puffing rubbish muttering under her breath about people being rude Hmm.

Over time I have noticed that the regulars tend to say No to her. She winges and whines (not quite loud enough to be enough to cause a row).
Eventually I got friendlywith a school mum and we happened to be in the queue at the same time I this shop.

Lady entitled swans up and tries to barrel her way past school mum friend with the airy wave of her hand "I've only got one thing , you don't mind if I pop in front of you?" Already shouldering her way past. School mum friend who is quite bolshy loudly told her No and she needed to go to the back of the queue.

Turns out everyone knows this woman. She does this all the time and is a massive Cf so this wierd unspoken agreement amongst locals came into play. Now none of the regulars will let her pass.

Honestlyjust wait your damn turn. Its so bloody entitled to winge and whine about etiquette when actually you just think your time is more important. It really isn't.

melj1213 · 11/04/2021 14:07

I always think it’s funny when people fill a basket up to a toppling tower and their arm is nearly breaking off so they can use the basket only queue.

Thats the other consideration - just because it is a basket and not a trolley doesnt automatically mean they have less items nor that it will be quicker.

I work in a supermarket and have had people bring up baskets that have had more items in than the person who has a trolley because they had less items but they had at least a couple of bigger/bulkier/heavier items. I had one gentleman come through my till yesterday with a trolley that was full of wine and beer, but because they were all multiples of the same item as we have a lot of alcohol multitude offers at the moment (6x Y wine, 6x Z wine, 4x boxes of ABC beer, 3x boxes of XYZ cider etc) it took less time than the woman behind who had a basket that was clearly for a family picnic so was full of sandwiches, crisps, bottles of pop, individual bags of sweets/chocolate etc which all had to be scanned individually and often have fiddly packaging that means you have to faff with the packaging to get it to scan.

Amelia666 · 11/04/2021 14:07

I often tell people go in front of me in that situation but there’s no “should” about it!!

GCSEmum2024 · 11/04/2021 14:08

I've done this before then the person wants to buy tobacco, and scratch cards, and then pay for their items with said scratch card winnings... taking longer than if have taken to pack my stuff up and pay on contactless.

Now I make them queue Grin

Mochudubh · 11/04/2021 14:09

I often do, especially if I need more time to get all my stuff on the belt. You can't expect it as a matter of course though. I usually shop during my lunch break and getting back to work can be tight at the best of times.

AuntieStella · 11/04/2021 14:11

It's nice when people do, but it's wrong to expect it

ChubbyLittleManInACampervan · 11/04/2021 14:13

I never understand people who buy 1 item at a big supermarket with long queues like Aldi

If I just need 1 veg, I’d get it at coop or Tesco metro or a small corner shop

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