To ask what's the longest you've been without sex

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Since becoming sexually active, obviously...

For me it's 4 months (and counting). I think I've almost forgotten what it feels like. It now feels like a strange thing other people do but not a possible feature in my life.

sometimes it feel like I'm the only one not having sex! Tell me I'm not alone?!

4 years and a month and counting. Not had sex since I split with ExH in 2017

8 years after losing my v plates. Had potential opportunities but was too scared. Now with asexual in denial husband and wishing I'd had more sex before things turned out this way.

16 months, due to being very, very ill and spending a large portion of that time in hospital (and on a ward, rather than a private room, so would have been 'frowned upon', I imagine ).

Happily, I am now (mostly) recovered and my wonderful DH is a very patient man!

It’s a bit strange to feel like you don’t remember it after 4 months but I suppose to each their own.

To answer your question numerous people will have a time period featuring months even years owing to illness, sudden disability, relationship struggles, mental health issues, bereavement and other things. All these take years sometimes to cope with, and sex may not be possible or desirable in the meantime.

There will also be many others thankfully not coping with the above but who are in sexless or limited sex situations perfectly happily in one way or another.

25 years in a very unhappy marriage (unless you count the three times he forced himself on me)

I stayed with my first ever (11 years together) so not very long, possibly around 4 weeks!

asexual in denial husband

What’s he in denial about? Being asexual or is there something behind that?

Currently appox 4/5 years

12yrs (ie; now). Lone parent.

I'm almost 60 and its been 12 years, since my husband passed away. I'm open to a relationship but just haven't met anyone.

I have a high sex drive, but 4 months and you've "forgotten what it feels like"! I'm guessing there must be a back story?

I think 7 months is longest for me (lockdown), but I use sex as a coping mechanism

Disability related, 19 years, ish, maybe, what do you define as sex?

11 years

About 12 weeks (early pregnancy)

5 years

Probably about 9-10months due to a tricky pregnancy and post partum recovery. Currently pregnant again and only just starting to feel like myself again after horrible morning sickness etc. But expecting to be told my placenta is low at my scan on a couple of weeks and placed on pelvic rest again. So likely to be 10 months again if that happens.

4 months when DH was away with the army

About 6 weeks postnatally... Serially monogamous since the age of 17. But didn’t have sex between losing my virginity at 13 and 17, so I guess 4 years. But don’t really feel like it counts.

Since my daughter's father left in June 2018 so nearly 3 years

Probably about 10 months from the last time during pregnancy to first time post natally. I had a tough birth injury.

5 years.

@Sunnidayz

8 years after losing my v plates. Had potential opportunities but was too scared. Now with asexual in denial husband and wishing I'd had more sex before things turned out this way.

3 years 4 months. I think my husband is the same. He's always too tired or too stressed. But I do wonder if he's secretly asexual. I miss sex a lot but I'm not willing to break up my family over it.

12 months when married to my ex. Between his appalling personal hygiene and his utter selfishness in the bedroom (he liked to make sure he was alright but couldn't give a damn about me) I refused to shag him.

About 3 years I think.............

DH in his late 50s, with ED, a heart issue means he can't use medication and the pump our GP recommended is crap. He gets so frustrated and angry if we even attempt anything that I avoid being in bed awake together.

I'm struggling to accept that my sex life is over aged 50