To ask what's the longest you've been without sex

[ilovecarbs90]

Since becoming sexually active, obviously...

For me it's 4 months (and counting). I think I've almost forgotten what it feels like. It now feels like a strange thing other people do but not a possible feature in my life.

sometimes it feel like I'm the only one not having sex! Tell me I'm not alone?!

@Pebbledashery

Nearly a year and I don't miss it at all. Don't think about it. I left my very violent and mentally abusive ex and he's put me off men for life. I don't want a fwb, a relationship.. Nothing. I'm happy by myself and no man will ever be worth bringing into my daughters life again after what we've been through. This my personal view as well not a generalised view, but I'm a lone parent and I've had my daughter and I sort of feel I've served my purpose sexually now. Thats my personal view.

Aww bless you, you've obviously had a very tough time, totally get the not bringing another man on the scene bit. But please don't see yourself like that as in you've served your purpose. I have only just now these last couple of months since moving too, so in our own place thought about getting back on the horse as it were. And chatting to some guys and having fun, it's nice having been stuck in a miserable 9 year odd relationship, my ex was also abusive. And I don't want to look back in ten years and regret these years now.

@ivfbeenbusy

Funnily enough I was debating starting a thread with a similar discussion....I have 3 month old twins and it's been almost a year as pregnancy was high risk.

Most of the posters in here don't say if they are in a relationship or not??? Obviously I'm still with DH but am starting to feel stressed it's still not happened but at the same time not entirely sure when we'd find the time?

I just used to keep hearing 'when they go to bed' 🙄 or when napping etc.

Longest would have been about 8-10 weeks when I had severe morning sickness.

Currently 8 years since my marriage ended in 2013.

1933 days (I am not counting, used an excel function).

5 years this end (lone parent). I don't even want it anymore!

@Hallyup5

A week, at most. Been with the same guy since we were teenagers and never had longer than a few days without sex, even after giving birth.

Oh wow, see this is how I would like it to be, to feel that happy and content and attracted to the other, that you want to do it that often.

18 years

About 2 months. I got cystitis...for the umpteenth time. I don't know what else to do, I throughly shower before etc.

I've had investigations in my bladder and gyn stuff. All looks fine. It's shit.

6 moths after first C Section 10 years ago.

Seven years in a soul sapping long term relationship. Never again. When I broke up with him and told him it was in part because of the lack of sex he told me I was a nymphomaniac. I’m not sure many nymphomaniacs would have put up of seven years of feeling unloved, unwanted and unattractive!

12 years

About 4 years since normal sex life. Hubby had prostate cancer and while that was successfully treated, there is always a risk things won't be the same, and it's not. He was also in a lot of pain for the first 2 years and that was off-putting, to the point he would cry, and the specialists couldn't work out why so he suffered through it.

Now he is over the pain, I'm menopausal and like a dried up sack of spuds! And I feel angry a lot.

Getting older sucks.

5 months pelvic rest due to high risk pregnancy. Otherwise 3 months.

When single, about 5/6 years. In a relationship, not sure, couple of months probably.

One of the things I love about current OH is that even if we have a bit of a dry spell, we're very affectionate with each other. We'll fall asleep in each other's arms, whether or not we have sex.

For 14 years, only about a week, and only then if I was away. No, sorry - I was once away for 2 weeks.

Before that, maybe 2/3 months?

About 4 months (towards end of a complicated pregnancy and for about 3 months after the birth). Don't think DH minded, sleep deprived etc!!

2 years, just. Feel like I've forgotten what it's like, lone parent also, but not particularly bothered about resolving the issue.

A little over 2 years for me - got pregnant with dd the last time her dad and I ever slept together, and I didn't have sex with anyone until she was about 1 and a half ish

22yrs ex left I was 43 never been near a man since

My entire life! Completely unable to have penetrative sex. Severe gynaecological issues make it far too painful both during and after.
Currently struggling to come to terms with never having children or even a satisfactory sexual relationship.
12 years I have been fobbed off by the NHS.

8 months while dh was working away. Also going through a bit of a dry spell just now but I'm 35 weeks pregnant and suffering from spd. Plus dh is working 5/6 nights a week. But I'm hoping to rectify that before baby comes.

after alcoholism and two very long bad relationships i’ve not had sex for 5 years. ready for it now but have always wanted it in a relationship & cant find anyone i fancy so have to wait

Nearly 14 years- widowed and not interested in meeting anyone else. Don't think I'm missing out. My late husband & I put a LOT into our years together.. ;-)

4 months? 12 years here. Don't miss it, have become very adept in knowing what feels good to me. As for 'v plates' seriously? Do you say when you lost your pink and brown wings too?