To ask what's the longest you've been without sex

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Since becoming sexually active, obviously...

For me it's 4 months (and counting). I think I've almost forgotten what it feels like. It now feels like a strange thing other people do but not a possible feature in my life.

sometimes it feel like I'm the only one not having sex! Tell me I'm not alone?!

About 4 weeks and it was awful. That’s only happened maybe once though...when my husband had low T, sometimes it was once a fortnight and that seemed long.

Since DH has received treatment, we have sex around 3 times a week, and rarely less than 2 times a week.
Personally, I’d like a bit more, but I make do, as when we do have it, it’s usually great.

2.5 years, whilst I waited for my ex to realise I was the love of his life and come back to me 😁.

I would have been open to a new relationship with someone else but it didn’t happen. So I eventually married my ex, who was my first love incidentally.

4 months I think.. after having my daughters both times I just hated the thought. My 2nd daughter is now 5 months and we have had sex about twice 🤷‍♀️ not in the mood!

I had a gap of 2 years in my early 30s between marriages - no it was 18 months, I had a fling, had forgotten. I don't really remember missing it then, at all. I had an orgasm most nights and quite liked the efficiency and lack of emotional strain, sex was always OK with my first husband and I found it difficult having OK times when everything else in our relationship was dysfunctional.

Then after my second husband died I managed a year and that nearly killed me. I was looking for sex from about 6 months after he died. And it shocked me because I would not have thought I would feel like that at all.

9 months, I didn’t want it at all during my first pregnancy as I was concerned it would cause bleeding.

Nine years. Then I got back with an old boyfriend and had a couple of years of doing it again. Then we split up again three years ago and I've been single ever since.

Much happier!

5 years & counting, my dp passed away 6 years ago & I forced myself in to another relationship, it was too soon. I've been ill for the last 18 months & my disabilities have got worse. I can't see me ever having another relationship again.

I need passionate encounters and some variety too. Bring on the judgemental name calling!

Around 3-4 weeks which includes time l was in hospital. I don’t function very well in life without regular input; l get very grumpy.

My daughter is 1 and DH and I have had sex once since she was born. I'm not really bothered, don't miss it and while I do enjoy sex I cant say I absolutely love it. Husbsnd doesn't seem to be too concerned either as he hasn't pressured me at all. We cuddle and chat or watch TV or play games together and we are still very close and loving.

Basically we are both lazy and its not high on the list of things to do.

Almost a year after DS was born. I was too exhausted and we had too much going on to even really think about it. He's 2 now and we have thankfully made up for lost time!

Pregnancy. I had HG, went a good month at a time without sex. After DS it was about 5 months before I was ready again.
Currently 30 weeks with our second and have had sex maybe twice the whole time. Not in the last 15 weeks. Mutual decision due to a couple of scares and bit of bleeding.

It’s not been an issue for us at this stage of our marriage, we are both invested in getting DD out safe, but I think earlier on it would have been hard. Plus DH is working really crazy hours atm so he can have 12 weeks SPL (YAY) so not much time for it anyway.

Around six months - after having DC2 we didn't have sex until she was three months old (too knackered!), and I hadn't been keen in late pregnancy either.

Can i.ask is anyone else on anti depressants? My dh started them 18 months ago and it's helped him loads, but killed the sex drive!! He used to want to do it all the time now it's only once every 5-6 wks . I'd love to do it more but a happier husband is probably better! (And there are toys of course ....)

Where are you, OP? What an excellent thread full of data and anecdotes for a nice little piece — for the Daily Fail — that could be written out of all this!

Start of pregnancy to about 6 weeks after birth.

We did other stuff but I had losses and high risk pregnancy so neither of us felt comfortable enough for sex.

Other than that maybe a month?

6 years and counting and before that it had been about 5 years.

5 years. It gets easier.

After losing my virginity I didn't have sex again for over a year. I was distinctly underwhelmed! Being single during covid means I have only had had sex twice in past year. It's shit as I have a high sex drive!

I'm 63, it's been around 18 yrs for me. Divorced 12 yrs ago, but we had separate rooms many years before that.

7 weeks covering last few weeks of pregnancy/first 3 weeks after baby was born.

@Ijustknowitstimetogo

asexual in denial husband

What’s he in denial about? Being asexual or is there something behind that?

He claims he's not asexual. But told me he's not really into sex and on the odd time I've tried to initiate I get rejected so have pretty much given up. He says he's too fat, too old (late 40s!) etc. He's autistic and I've heard that a lot of people on the spectrum are asexual. Looking into counselling but not sure that there's much that can be changed. Haven't done it for almost 1.5 years since our honeymoon.

8 months when splitting when exbf of 5 years and meeting my husband.

During my 16 years with DH we probably have gone a couple of months or so. Mainly as my health can be a bit up and down these days.

Enough with the hyperbole, I haven’t ridden a bike in a year and I’m pretty sure I haven’t forgotten how. To answer your question, 11 years and counting. Not looking for a relationship whilst DD is at home (DV in the past and would prefer not to add a partner to our lovely DD and mother dynamic). I quite like sex but don’t quite get the obsession with it, I can take it or leave it.

@Flowers24

Can i.ask is anyone else on anti depressants? My dh started them 18 months ago and it's helped him loads, but killed the sex drive!! He used to want to do it all the time now it's only once every 5-6 wks . I'd love to do it more but a happier husband is probably better! (And there are toys of course ....)

I was on anti-depressants from 14-25 and I just had sex because I knew it was 'expected' of me. I did enjoy it, but I never really got turned on or in the mood (to clarify I fully consented!). I suffered with dryness and it took me ages to finish up. Coming off them about 6 years ago helped so much with bringing the feelings back. I felt like a teenager again, even more so now I am off contraception.

I am currently waiting on an op to be sterilised after coming off contraception in October, so it has been 6 months for me and will probably be another 2 or 3 at this rate while I wait for my local hospital to take on more procedures. I wont lie - I am dying for it. My boyfriend has been so patient and understanding.