To ask what's the longest you've been without sex

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Since becoming sexually active, obviously...

For me it's 4 months (and counting). I think I've almost forgotten what it feels like. It now feels like a strange thing other people do but not a possible feature in my life.

sometimes it feel like I'm the only one not having sex! Tell me I'm not alone?!

It will be10 years in August. Don't miss it at all.

It's about 6 months for me during the first lockdown. Now it's been 4 months again.

8 years...then I had a 'bit of a dabble' that didn't work out a few years back, so now coming up to 3 years. Think I'm destined to be forever single, which makes me sad.

6 months or so. Within a relationship, 7 weeks following birth of my eldest.

About 3 years I got pregnant and as soon as I find out I'm right off sex and now DS2 is here I'm not remotely interested but neither is my partner we've both gone off it neither of us can be bothered!!

9 years

Intercourse?

Just over 13 months.

Any sexual contact at all? About 6/7 months.

6 weeks after my ds was born. Currently pregnant and due any day now, still at it

4 years, I think. Partner is on a high dose of antidepressants which has killed his drive, and I'm bipolar, in the middle of the menopause and it's the last thing I want. I'm not missing it at all and often wonder if I'll ever be bothered about it again.

I think about 4 months after my first child was born, I just couldn’t face it for a while.

6 months when pregnant. Had HG and was prone to vomit at the drop of a hat. Sort of puts you off.

This is one of those things that is so relative. I have found that any stretch without sex within a relationship = stressful / a sign something isn’t right and therefore feels like aeons, whilst I can go long stints without it when happily single (sex with self notwithstanding) and it feels like no time at all.

4 months between relationships.

3 years. Before that another 2 years.
Lone parent. Doesn't bother me, can take it or leave it.

Longest probably 3 years but I’m currently on 5 months so far. I don’t do one night stands and I’ll only sleep with someone if I’m in a relationship etc. Being single in covid times sucks a lot.

It's been about seven months for me but that's definitely not the longest. I've gone over a year several times, I think. Not sure whether I really care any more as it's usually disappointing and, as I'm straight, inevitably involves a man who's also disappointing.

About 7 weeks. That was following birth of our son.

Six weeks after the birth of DS1. I only waited three weeks after DS2, as six weeks is an eternity for me.

Perhaps I'm just ambit weird
Used to kind of tolerate sex had dd nearly 6 but lots of miscarriages beforehand so it put me off sex as I was worried it would make me miscarry
Fast forward 3 and a bit years wanted a sibling for dd tried twice and pregnant

I just don't like it at all - love my partner to bits but absolutely can't stand sex x

It’s almost four years now for me. I’m in my mid 40s and I don’t know if I ever will again.

5 months...
When me and DP had a hiatus 2 years into our relationship. It was hard after having such an active sex life ( every night) to nothing for 5 months..

This is an interesting question, and I am vaguely appalling myself with my answer (not judging anybody else AT ALL - but more just wondering what it says about me?)

I am going to say about two weeks? May have been a bit longer following DD’s birth?

Since becoming sexually active I have had 5 LTRs (defining these as over 6 months and involving living together at some point - varying lengths - only one lasting over a decade, and they have included two marriages). Various periods in between of having flings (a number of which I hoped would turn into more, tho they didn’t), and have also had a handful of ONS, tho I am not wildly keen on these....

I am just amazed that I can’t remember a period of my life since becoming sexually active in which I abstained from sex for longer than a couple of weeks! That’s mental! To be fair, many of my friends (and also my life coach!) have often told me I should try being single for a while..... They may have a point. Tho my best friend always qualifies this advice with “But you need to think about what you will do if you get the itch - how are you going to scratch it?” He knows me so well, and worries I will go running back to the most recent catastrophic ex - maybe that is always part of my worry too.....Keep moving forwards is easier than ever looking back....

I unashamedly love sex. I love it so much, that last time I was single, my own mother advised me to get a FB (she also feared me running back to the most recent ex, to be fair). Nonetheless, thinking about this has made me start to wonder if I have loved it TOO MUCH, at the expense of taking time to work things out.....

6 months - after DS was born. I had a traumatic birth, he slept in our room and no family close by, so no inclination and no opportunity!