To ask what's the longest you've been without sex

[ilovecarbs90]

Since becoming sexually active, obviously...

For me it's 4 months (and counting). I think I've almost forgotten what it feels like. It now feels like a strange thing other people do but not a possible feature in my life.

sometimes it feel like I'm the only one not having sex! Tell me I'm not alone?!

I’m about 7 years. I became disabled in my late 30s. I don’t seem to be attractive/desirable to anyone now - I’ve been single since.

About 3 years

@IReallyNeedMoreGin

12 months when married to my ex. Between his appalling personal hygiene and his utter selfishness in the bedroom (he liked to make sure he was alright but couldn't give a damn about me) I refused to shag him.

Oh shit, yes, I forgot about a time like this! Was nearly a year at the end of my relationship with father of DC. I still had a decent sex drive, but just couldn't with him as he kept acting like such a PRICK.

Years now. Married.

Now ! Coming up to a couple of years
Before that not long , months

@megletthesecond

12yrs (ie; now). Lone parent.

This gives me no hope at all 🤦‍♀️

9 months, from exh leaving me to meeting dp, was pretty desperate but well worth the wait,

3 years 8 months & counting although I’m not actually as I’m not really bothered

Dry spell of nearly 5 years....
I miss sex but thank heavens for sex toys.

Longest is 3 months when I was 6-9 months pregnant.

Other than that I’ve consistently shagged my husband since I was 16 🤣

@ThornAmongstRoses

1 year after the birth of our first baby and another year after the birth of our second baby.

See and my ex and others around me tried to tell me that was not normal, but it happens clearly.

Into the second decade now.

9 months or so, I completely lost interest in sex in the last trimester of pregnancy and was too tired/hormonal for the first 5 months of DS's life. I also couldn't bring myself to do anything when he was in the room with us so it wasn't particularly helpful with reigniting the passion

Currently 17 months. Previously about 5 years.

2 years. I'm a single parent and do not have time for a relationship, I had a FWB for a while but I got bored. I don't miss sex to be honest.

Redruby2020 fear not, you won't have to go without sex / relationships if you don't want to. I've been a single parent for about 7 years and have had relationships and sex.

@Iwouldbecomplex

Maybe 6 week tops. In 22 years. I make myself get right back on the horse (so to speak) following the end of a relationship, even if it's the last thing I feel like doing and I'm just going through the motions. I just find someone hot and fun and short lived. I know myself - if I leave it to long it will become too big a hurdle and I'll be too daunted. I appreciate this maybe isn't the healthiest approach but hey ho

No I can see where you are coming from. I have not had sex since 2019 with my ex partner, we split properly last year, and with having a DC and lots of stuff gone on, then being on my own, I guess if I'd really thought it out/planned it which is just awful to me now that this is how it will be going forward for how many years, I could have seen someone or even just had a one off thing. But when I do get free time, I am always so tired and got things I want to do. Talking to a guy who would come over tonight if I wanted that, and I agree with the daunting part, I am not very confident body wise etc, just being intimate etc unless longer term partner, so I feel by putting it off, it will get worse 🤷‍♀️

@Ponoka7

I lived without sex during my marriage for nearly three years. He was seriously ill and later died. I never used to and didn't after a while, go more than a day without sex. Then I got into an abusive relationship and when it ended I didn't go near another man for just over seven years. I didn't think that I ever would, being in my 50's and losing body confidence. But I met a lovely man and I've now been dating for six months, but he has ED. We do everything else, though so I count it as having sex. I used to think that I wouldn't know what to do, but it is indeed like riding a bike.

@Sarahtrue11
"No one dies from a lack of sex."
No but loneliness and a lack of affection/intimacy can shorten your life.

I actually feel better NOT having sex.

I love not having to worry about being pregnant for a start. We all know the fear of being afraid of being pregnant. I love not having to use birth control. Sex causes so much more ramifications for women.

Getting on for 20 years now. When dh had a heart attack when he was 65 we didn’t really start again though we have always been very loving and physically affectionate. The last time was on holiday in Tuscany in 2001.
I don’t miss it at all.

I am 39. My husband has refused all forms of intimacy for nearly 3 years, so not even a kiss or a hug. He even pulls his hand away when I try to hold it.

@marchez

Currently 14 months due to not living with my partner and the covid situation.

Not great but our relationship is still good which is the main thing

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@FluffyBlueJumper sorry to hear that

Coming up to 4 years now, never thought my sex life would be over by 52, but certainly beginning to look that way

@bloodywhitecat

25 years in a very unhappy marriage (unless you count the three times he forced himself on me)

I didn’t want to scroll on by without saying: that sounds awful and I sympathise greatly for your situation. Wishing you happiness

Currently 7/8 years. I’m a bit depressed that I’ve had hardly any sex in my 30s. But my ex put me off men for quite a while, and I’m a single parent now.