To ask what's the longest you've been without sex

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Since becoming sexually active, obviously...

For me it's 4 months (and counting). I think I've almost forgotten what it feels like. It now feels like a strange thing other people do but not a possible feature in my life.

sometimes it feel like I'm the only one not having sex! Tell me I'm not alone?!

Maybe 3 months. Clearly I have been very lucky...

Eleven years (lone parent, like a PP).

12 years. Also LP. I am also worried that they might have changed it! 😉

1 year after the birth of our first baby and another year after the birth of our second baby.

I think about 11 months at one point where I just couldn't be doing with sustaining any sort of relationship and anybody interested in me had just bored or irritated me after the first time. Before then, probably about three weeks to a month whilst working out whether I actually wanted to date somebody properly or not.

In a relationship, about 6 months due to the other person's depression/medication induced ED/anxiety after coming off the meds that it would be the same. That felt far worse, as there was the withdrawing from any sort of relationship, worry for them and wondering if it would ever improve. It never got back to how it was, though, which was attributed to a permanent effect from the medication - I think the side effects of antidepressants should be more addressed for both men and women.

6 years after my husband died. And probably a year before that. Was on antidepressants and they ruined my libido. Stopped them and sex drive came back. Started dating and had a few flings then met the love of my life and were at it like rabbits for a few weeks now down to 2-3 times a week but lot of playful times. He's 62 I'm 57. I love it.

Maybe 6 week tops. In 22 years. I make myself get right back on the horse (so to speak) following the end of a relationship, even if it's the last thing I feel like doing and I'm just going through the motions. I just find someone hot and fun and short lived. I know myself - if I leave it to long it will become too big a hurdle and I'll be too daunted. I appreciate this maybe isn't the healthiest approach but hey ho

8 years. I'm not bothered.

Currently at 3 years, don’t see it changing any time soon. I’m 43.

4 years after the birth of my first and only child.
Not sure how our relationship survived along with the who's the tiredist competition...

Nearly 11 years now

Currently 3 years (30 years old).

I love sex like other people and obviously wish it hadn’t been so long but I definitely think it has helped me weed out the wrongens that I would get with just for sex and now I am used to not having it I feel I am more picky with who I date.

Nearly a year and I don't miss it at all. Don't think about it. I left my very violent and mentally abusive ex and he's put me off men for life. I don't want a fwb, a relationship.. Nothing. I'm happy by myself and no man will ever be worth bringing into my daughters life again after what we've been through. This my personal view as well not a generalised view, but I'm a lone parent and I've had my daughter and I sort of feel I've served my purpose sexually now. Thats my personal view.

4 months 😂😂😂 it’s been 4 years for me!

5 weeks and thats way too long!!

Yabu for posting for traffic on aibu. can't you put this on the sex forum?

Mine is probably 3 weeks.

Funnily enough I was debating starting a thread with a similar discussion....I have 3 month old twins and it's been almost a year as pregnancy was high risk.

Most of the posters in here don't say if they are in a relationship or not??? Obviously I'm still with DH but am starting to feel stressed it's still not happened but at the same time not entirely sure when we'd find the time?

4 years and 8 months - divorced single parent - last had sex aged 47 and am now 52.

For a variety of reasons I can’t see myself meeting anyone, much as I think I would like to. I would be very shy and not know how to handle any kind of dating situation so I feel out of touch and also that sex and love is something that happens to other people.

But in comparison with the horrible things people go through every day, it’s ok, and I am counting my blessings.

I’m another one that’s a lone parent hence the 4 years

5 years. Single, lone parent. No libido due to medication. Don't know if I'll ever have it again

4/5 weeks after baby born - and we didn’t even manage that gap without sexual activity in the meantime.

16 months after dc1
Think we were both in shock

@LionLily

16 months after dc1 Think we were both in shock

Phew least it's not just me then! 🤣

9 years after my divorce. Lone parent. Very ill child.

Coming up to 2 years. Not a huge surprise given the pandemic as I am single.

4 months is nothing OP